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YAGT: She rocks, but I'm moving... **UPDATE: SUCCESS**

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Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: zippy
Originally posted by: nan0bug
You guys got this all wrong.

You dont lay it all out on the line YET. Play it cool, let her know in the regular ways that you like her but make her WANT you to stick around and stay with her... dont smother her. If shes hesitant its for good reason, and she'll come around if you just play it cool and allow it to happen. If you press the issue you'll just scare her off. So you're moving away -- come back and visit her the 3 or 4 days a week and see what happens. Why worry about it before you go? if you're that interested then just stop talking about it and follow through, and if shes interested too then she'll go with it... you're not a girl, you shouldn't need to know. Quit worrying -- go drink some beer, play some video games, and be a man for chrissakes.
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Haha. Also true.

Since I talked to her about it Tuesday I've been playing it cool - haven't brought it up or anything. One of the things I'm considering is just letting her bring it up or want me so much that she stops caring whether I move or not. I almost got that impression tonight. We went to this really cute little Thai restaurant first - it was perfect.

But, as Eli just noted, is it worth it to keep playing these games? Probably not.

Quite the conundrum. I'm in some weird relationship zone where its clear we like each other but we're nothing official.
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Hehe....

When I met my girlfriend, we hit it off right away.. We didn't even pop the question.. After the first kiss, it was just assumed that we were "official".. ~24 hours after we met. 🙂

You still have almost a month to figure it out. I think I've been kinda thinking along the lines that you two are already an item. If you aren't, I think you need to get that cleared up.. and then talk to her about it.

You never know what would happen. Maybe she could move out with you and finish highschool at a different school. Love does strange things.
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Yeah, see, people kinda assume we're together. I mean a lot of people saw us at Ball together being rather comfortable and at the Informal following ball (bowling) and then at that kid's house for the movie. I almost felt bad for the kid too - seeing as he does/did like her. When I was dropping her off following that last night she was like, "I kinda feel bad for him..." I played dumb, "How come?" Her, "Eh, I dunno." Heh.

But anyway, we are kinda an item, but we're not 'official' if that makes sense.

Heh, well, I'm graduating HS, moving an hour and a half away, then going to college, so uh, unless she moves to where I'm going to college. Either way, her parents wouldn't be cool with that - haha. Though, the good news is she has relatives where I'll be going to school! I think he uncle used to teach there. So that could come in handy. 🙂

Anyway, still not sure what to do. Let it slide and let her come to me or talk to her or what?...gah.
 
Wait a bit. Perhaps she's playing one of those sick female games they love so much. If, in a few weeks time, you still don't know, then bug her about it. Yes, pics would be helpful, at least for me to discern whether or not she is evil. I can see it in their eyes. Best of luck to ya!
 
Originally posted by: HappyCracker
Wait a bit. Perhaps she's playing one of those sick female games they love so much. If, in a few weeks time, you still don't know, then bug her about it. Yes, pics would be helpful, at least for me to discern whether or not she is evil. I can see it in their eyes. Best of luck to ya!
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Haha. She has beautiful brown eyes and she is the antithesis of evil. 🙂

Sorry, not posting pics fellas - she's not of age and I would feel like a dirty bastard posting any even if she was. 😉
 
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Highschool girls want long-term relationships? Bullshit.

Man, you're still young and you got to live it up. College girls are better anyway.
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No offense, but I don't think you know what living it up means.
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Living it up = Not being pusssy whipped
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What is it called when you aren't capable of love?
 
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Highschool girls want long-term relationships? Bullshit.

Man, you're still young and you got to live it up. College girls are better anyway.
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No offense, but I don't think you know what living it up means.
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Living it up = Not being pusssy whipped
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What is it called when you aren't capable of love?
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A 'real man'...according to Shooter MacGaven over there.
 
Originally posted by: clicknext
*points at 9685 post count*

You'll have to stop posting so much to make time for her... =D
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😛

I never stay home just to post on AT. Heh. Most of my posts came many moons ago - I used to have a post count over 13 it's down to 7.38 or something. You can imagine how long it has taken to get that down so much and how little I had to post during that period of time.

Anyway, time for sleep. Keep the replies coming.

Thanks for the responses so far - they've been quite helpful. 🙂
 
I had a girlfriend that lived 1530.8 miles away from me. This was during the breaks from college, which would be the summer, and any major holiday that I did not spend at her place, which would be the occasional one. Anyway, I'm not going to lie. It was tough for the 3 months we were away. Please keep that in mind. I know that 1.5 hours (or whatever) may not seem like that far, but I can be once you are away. And if/when you go to college (didn't bother reading, sorry) it may make it more difficult, especially with her still in high school.

People can say exactly what they want, but the final decision is up to you, so do what you feel is best in your heart(while sober!), and that decision is exactly what you should have done.
 
This probably doesn't help you at all, but I like and respect you more than any other author of any YAGT to date. You seem like a really good, genuine, honest guy. Tell her what you're thinking, what you would like, ideally, and ask her if she feels the same and is willing to work with the distance. You've got nothing to lose, putting your cards on the table. You can show her what you want without pushing her, and it's fine to ask her for an answer.
 
Originally posted by: zippy
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Highschool girls want long-term relationships? Bullshit.

Man, you're still young and you got to live it up. College girls are better anyway.
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Whatever dude. I've never been one for random hook ups or anything anyway.

It just feels different with her. And that's a good thing.

Keep the replies coming.

Still not sure what the hell to do.
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Sounds like my situation from HS. except it was my GF who was moving away to school. You can make it work man. All it takes is a little bit of a drive every few weekends. Tell her that. You seem to like her that much and she obviously would be extremely happy to be with you. Let her know this man. And until then, keep making her feel special. Give her a massage and that will make her think twice. 🙂
 
Originally posted by: HotChic
This probably doesn't help you at all, but I like and respect you more than any other author of any YAGT to date. You seem like a really good, genuine, honest guy. Tell her what you're thinking, what you would like, ideally, and ask her if she feels the same and is willing to work with the distance. You've got nothing to lose, putting your cards on the table. You can show her what you want without pushing her, and it's fine to ask her for an answer.
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Thank you. 🙂

I'm kinda leaning towards going someplace quiet - there is a windmill farm about 30 minutes away that is apparently really neat - and just talking. Probably bring this up while out there. Not positive yet though.
Originally posted by: NoSkillz
Originally posted by: zippy
Originally posted by: MacGaven
Highschool girls want long-term relationships? Bullshit.

Man, you're still young and you got to live it up. College girls are better anyway.
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Whatever dude. I've never been one for random hook ups or anything anyway.

It just feels different with her. And that's a good thing.

Keep the replies coming.

Still not sure what the hell to do.
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Sounds like my situation from HS. except it was my GF who was moving away to school. You can make it work man. All it takes is a little bit of a drive every few weekends. Tell her that. You seem to like her that much and she obviously would be extremely happy to be with you. Let her know this man. And until then, keep making her feel special. Give her a massage and that will make her think twice. 🙂
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Yeah, I know it's early - we've only been out a handful of times, but there's definitely something good between us. I wouldn't have a problem coming back here once a month to see her and she has family in the college town that I'll be in, so it's definitely quite doable.

I'm having a blast with her anyway though. Dinner was perfect last night - I'm not sure if it could have gone any better.
 
UPDATE: Well dudes, we've been hanging out a lot lately and I didn't bring it up. I figured I'd let it go and let her come to me. Play it cool, just enjoy it and let things flow. Tonight I drop her off after spending like 10 hours with her and she finally talks to me about it. So dudes, it worked out just fine in the end. zippy's got a girl and it's quite good. 🙂
 
Good for you. However, keep an open mind when you go into college. Not cheat on her, but just remember there's a whole entire other world once you get there.
 
Originally posted by: zippy
UPDATE: Well dudes, we've been hanging out a lot lately and I didn't bring it up. I figured I'd let it go and let her come to me. Play it cool, just enjoy it and let things flow. Tonight I drop her off after spending like 10 hours with her and she finally talks to me about it. So dudes, it worked out just fine in the end. zippy's got a girl and it's quite good. 🙂
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Awesome! Good luck making it work. Just don't sacrifice your college experience too much. I went to the same college as one of my friends from high school. I had a ton of fun, best 4 years of my life (up to this point). He... mostly waited around for her to call or for him to call her, didn't do a whole lot, didn't make any female friends... But he made it through 4 years of being 10 hours away from his girlfriend... getting married to her in September. He chose his route, I chose mine, I don't think either of us have any regrets - but try to find a good balance.
 
Originally posted by: Angrymarshmello
Good for you. However, keep an open mind when you go into college. Not cheat on her, but just remember there's a whole entire other world once you get there.
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Yea, especially if you're gonna be livin in the dorms. Its hard not to have sex with your female neighbors.
 
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