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YAGT: Question

Kristi2k

Kristi2k

Golden Member
This admittingly sounds sad, but I need to ask, so bear with me. 🙂

I'm generally a reserved guy; I can be talkative if I want to be. I normally do not start conversations with girls unless they show some sort of interest. My last relationship lasted 3 years and I've been out of it for 2. I haven't dated since and I'm lonely, I have no one to talk to or hang out that's my age.

I always try to be respectful towards girls, so would you say it's inappropriate to ask out someone that is working, say if I go to Best Buy, the girl starts a conversation, would I be wrong to ask her out or is she just being friendly?

Chastise away. 🙂

edit: Update 15 posts down
 
she's probably being friendly, but it depends on how long you chat. If she shows more interest than a casual person would, go for it.
 
In a retail/sales situation, most of the time she's probably being friendly. There are still opportunities to flirt in those situations, however.
 
Sounds like a blew a good opertunity than. This specific girl at BB knew me from where I work, she said she just got done, and we talked for a minute or two. Doh... Maybe next time I need something there I'll see her.
 
she's just being friendly... so you need to be more "outgoing"

try to talk to more people even if you have no reason to... that's a start. if you want more help.... there are some other ways....
 
All that is a waste of time. Meet girls at a bar or club scene where they have had several drinks in them, you'd be amazed at how much they talk their mouths off. Just nod your head and pretend you are totally into them.
 
Originally posted by: DannyLove
All that is a waste of time. Meet girls at a bar or club scene where they have had several drinks in them, you'd be amazed at how much they talk their mouths off. Just nod your head and pretend you are totally into them.
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yet another perfect YAGT solution.
 
Originally posted by: guoziming
Originally posted by: DannyLove
All that is a waste of time. Meet girls at a bar or club scene where they have had several drinks in them, you'd be amazed at how much they talk their mouths off. Just nod your head and pretend you are totally into them.
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yet another perfect YAGT solution.
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wrong. something tells me that with the OP's self described "reserved" attitude he will end up being a wall flower and not get anything. just go to starbucks or some other crappy coffee house and comment on whatever she is reading.
 
Originally posted by: amish
Originally posted by: guoziming
Originally posted by: DannyLove
All that is a waste of time. Meet girls at a bar or club scene where they have had several drinks in them, you'd be amazed at how much they talk their mouths off. Just nod your head and pretend you are totally into them.
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yet another perfect YAGT solution.
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wrong. something tells me that with the OP's self described "reserved" attitude he will end up being a wall flower and not get anything. just go to starbucks or some other crappy coffee house and comment on whatever she is reading.
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I'm taking the OP's usage of 'lonely' in my advice..
when I read lonely in a YAGT I hear sexually frustrated. If he wants to make girl friends and remain in a friend zone then yep, I am wrong in this case.
 
ok, you need to start taking baby steps. if you're very shy, you need to start talking to people that you have to talk to... cashiers, waitress..etc just to make small talk so that you'll get used to going up to total stranger and pick them up (when you're advanced enough).
 
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
This admittingly sounds sad, but I need to ask, so bear with me. 🙂

I'm generally a reserved guy; I can be talkative if I want to be. I normally do not start conversations with girls unless they show some sort of interest. My last relationship lasted 3 years and I've been out of it for 2. I haven't dated since and I'm lonely, I have no one to talk to or hang out that's my age.

I always try to be respectful towards girls, so would you say it's inappropriate to ask out someone that is working, say if I go to Best Buy, the girl starts a conversation, would I be wrong to ask her out or is she just being friendly?

Chastise away. 🙂
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i feel ya man. hope u find some people to hang out with 🙂 :thumbsup:
 
Originally posted by: Pepsei
ok, you need to start taking baby steps. if you're very shy, you need to start talking to people that you have to talk to... cashiers, waitress..etc just to make small talk so that you'll get used to going up to total stranger and pick them up (when you're advanced enough).
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:thumbsup:
 
I'm looking for an opinion, I'm a member of a state-wide bank and have been going to one of their branches for a week or so, I ask for someone money and the teller never asked me my name, she just asked if my middle initial was K, I said yes, how do you know my name? She said I remember you. I don't ever remember seeing her anywhere else at the bank.

Is she good at remembering faces or interested? I just got back from the bank today and asked her we went to school together since she looked familiar, it turns out that we did not go to the same school.
 
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
I'm looking for an opinion, I'm a member of a state-wide bank and have been going to one of their branches for a week or so, I ask for someone money and the teller never asked me my name, she just asked if my middle initial was K, I said yes, how do you know my name? She said I remember you. I don't ever remember seeing her anywhere else at the bank.

Is she good at remembering faces or interested? I just got back from the bank today and asked her we went to school together since she looked familiar, it turns out that we did not go to the same school.
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Why don't you ask her how she remembers you?

How are we supposed to know?

😛
 
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
I'm looking for an opinion, I'm a member of a state-wide bank and have been going to one of their branches for a week or so, I ask for someone money and the teller never asked me my name, she just asked if my middle initial was K, I said yes, how do you know my name? She said I remember you. I don't ever remember seeing her anywhere else at the bank.

Is she good at remembering faces or interested? I just got back from the bank today and asked her we went to school together since she looked familiar, it turns out that we did not go to the same school.
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I wouldn't read too much into that. She might remember you because she found you particulary unattractive.

Just kidding. What you have to learn unless you want two more years of loneliness is to not not stand around wondering if a girl is interested in you. If you're interested and wonder if she is, ASK HER OUT. If she agrees, she's interested..... is she doesn't agree, she's not.
 
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
This admittingly sounds sad, but I need to ask, so bear with me. 🙂

I'm generally a reserved guy; I can be talkative if I want to be. I normally do not start conversations with girls unless they show some sort of interest. My last relationship lasted 3 years and I've been out of it for 2. I haven't dated since and I'm lonely, I have no one to talk to or hang out that's my age.

I always try to be respectful towards girls, so would you say it's inappropriate to ask out someone that is working, say if I go to Best Buy, the girl starts a conversation, would I be wrong to ask her out or is she just being friendly?

Chastise away. 🙂

edit: Update 15 posts down
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It's not a matter of right or wrong. You ask her out, she says yes or no - there is no moral aspect to this.

But if youre going ask random people on the street out, you've got to be smooth - don't pull any of the "Hey, I've noticed for you a while umm...I think youre very pretty umm...I'd be honored if maybe, you know, I mean, you don't have to if you don't want to, but if you'd like...I dunno, maybe come out with me one night?" BS that ATOTers are so well known for.
 
You have permission to pick up a woman anywhere you want. you are worthy to talk to woman at any time. you can initiate interactions with any woman even if she hasn't shown interest. You are a worthwhile human being and you deserve success with women. You have the ability and strength to be successful with women. You can respect a woman while simluataneously expressing your masculinity and being the dominant male. you can lead interactions and relationships with women while simultaneiously showing them respect. You can arouse woman sexually while still respecting them.

Now take those statements and change the "you" to "I" and repeat them to yourself until they are part of your being.
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
You have permission to pick up a woman anywhere you want. you are worthy to talk to woman at any time. you can initiate interactions with any woman even if she hasn't shown interest. You are a worthwhile human being and you deserve success with women. You have the ability and strength to be successful with women. You can respect a woman while simluataneously expressing your masculinity and being the dominant male. you can lead interactions and relationships with women while simultaneiously showing them respect. You can arouse woman sexually while still respecting them.

Now take those statements and change the "you" to "I" and repeat them to yourself until they are part of your being.
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haha awesome... This should be the ATOT mantra for all future YAGT's.

Reminds me of Stuart Smalley. (...and gosh darn it, people like me.)
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
You have permission to pick up a woman anywhere you want. you are worthy to talk to woman at any time. you can initiate interactions with any woman even if she hasn't shown interest. You are a worthwhile human being and you deserve success with women. You have the ability and strength to be successful with women. You can respect a woman while simluataneously expressing your masculinity and being the dominant male. you can lead interactions and relationships with women while simultaneiously showing them respect. You can arouse woman sexually while still respecting them.

Now take those statements and change the "you" to "I" and repeat them to yourself until they are part of your being.
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:thumbsup: Unfortunately, this is like the matrix - one cannot be told it, they must experience it themselves.
 
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