YAGT: pr0n and relationships

[Juddog]

Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

-- edit -- added Poll!

 

[scott916]

Because some women are VERY insecure about their looks and sexual attractiveness to their partner. They feel that if their man needs to watch porn to get off, then they must not be enough for him. Some see this as tantamount to cheating, but I think it's necessary in a relationship.

 

[moonbit]

Probably the single biggest factor in the discrepancy is how secure a woman feels in the relationship. The more secure she is, the less likely she is to let it bother her. Of course, there are other factors, such as why/how/how often the man uses it. Some women would rather their guy watch it with them, and it's a problem when they do it alone. A woman's perception of what it is (is it erotica or female exploitation?) and also the man's history with it can be taken into account (used to be an addict?).

In my experience, here are some reasons why women don't like it:
- feel like the man is looking at (and therefore wanting) better looking and/or more experienced/open women than her
- man is neglecting her (emotionally and/or sexually)
- afraid the man is going to want to try some of that freaky stuff he's been looking at
- sick of finding the evidence of a "session" around her computer
- afraid the kids are going to come across it and/or him using it

 

[A Casual Fitz]

If anything it prevents cheating if used.

 

[txrandom]

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What if the girl sees it as cheating?

 

[Skunkwourk]

According to Chris Rock, women want to be responsible/in control of ALL your happiness. Masturbating pisses them off because you're making yourself happy.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: txrandom

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What if the girl sees it as cheating?

Then she's a liiiiiiiiitle bit insecure, and pr0n isn't the root of your problems.

 

[scorpmatt]

Originally posted by: Roguestar

Originally posted by: txrandom

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What if the girl sees it as cheating?

Then she's a liiiiiiiiitle bit insecure, and pr0n isn't the root of your problems.

agreed.

My gf doesnt mind me watching pr0n and getting off. Just means I'm not bugging her all the time for sex.

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What?? Where in the world do you get that idea? So many men cheat on their wife because their wife isn't what a porn star portrays a wife to be. Men see these women doing all this crap and then get upset thinking, "hey, my wife should be just like that. that's what sex should be like". It's all an illusion and I know this is just my opinion, but I will never find it anything but destructive.

 

[Kirby]

Maybe they don't like a sticky keyboard?

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: Juddog
Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

I imagine only the chicks with no character qualifications for their significant others don't mind porn.

Why watch porn? Do you really need to have added sexual stimulation flowing through your body and can't get it otherwise? Hell, if I was a chick I'd take it as a bad sign too. It's just so pathetic......watching other people have sex.....often paying to. That's not even taking into account the negative influence it can have on your mind.....things like degredation of women and finding yourself needing consistently harder core stuff and placing sex at a higher importance level in your life than it is naturally etc.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: scorpmatt

Originally posted by: Roguestar

Originally posted by: txrandom

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What if the girl sees it as cheating?

Then she's a liiiiiiiiitle bit insecure, and pr0n isn't the root of your problems.

agreed.

My gf doesnt mind me watching pr0n and getting off. Just means I'm not bugging her all the time for sex.

Exactly, you should both be having sex when you both want to do it, not just using the other for every time you need sexual gratification.

Pro tip: Some couples make pr0n of themselves .

 

[jupiter57]

Originally posted by: Eghck
According to Chris Rock, women want to be responsible/in control of ALL your happiness. Masturbating pisses them off because you're making yourself happy.

That is it in a nutshell.
Women are control freaks by nature. If she thinks she can't control your sexual fulfillment, she gets PO'd!

 

[sixone]

I don't get the attraction for porn at all, for someone who has sex available regularly. If you want to do it, DO IT. Why watch someone else do something that you've already seen done 14.368 times already? I guess if you're too lazy to use your own imagination, then porn would be attractive to you.

If you think real life is anything like what you see in a porn flick, you need serious help. And if you understand that it isn't, then what's the point? You have an SO or a hand, and an imagination, use it.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What?? Where in the world do you get that idea? So many men cheat on their wife because their wife isn't what a porn star portrays a wife to be. Men see these women doing all this crap and then get upset thinking, "hey, my wife should be just like that. that's what sex should be like". It's all an illusion and I know this is just my opinion, but I will never find it anything but destructive.

Or, some people bug their S/O for sex because they'd feel guilty or be guilted if they were getting off by themselves, so sex becomes an issue when the partners have inequal sexual appetites. It's healthy to have a good sexual relationship but if you want it every day and she wants it maybe once a week, is it not better for you to choke the bishop in the shower than bugging her for something she'll feel pressured into?

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
I imagine only the chicks with no character qualifications for their significant others don't mind porn.

Why watch porn? Do you really need to have added sexual stimulation flowing through your body and can't get it otherwise? Hell, if I was a chick I'd take it as a bad sign too. It's just so pathetic......watching other people have sex.....often paying to. That's not even taking into account the negative influence it can have on your mind.....things like degredation of women and finding yourself needing consistently harder core stuff and placing sex at a higher importance level in your life than it is naturally etc.

Well said. :beer:

 

[cKGunslinger]

Originally posted by: sixone
I don't get the attraction for porn at all, for someone who has sex available regularly. If you want to do it, DO IT. Why watch someone else do something that you've already seen done 14.368 times already? I guess if you're too lazy to use your own imagination, then porn would be attractive to you.

If you think real life is anything like what you see in a porn flick, you need serious help. And if you understand that it isn't, then what's the point? You have an SO or a hand, and an imagination, use it.

I know! It's like, why would anyone go to a comedy club or watch a SciFi movie? They can tell their own jokes and make laser sounds with their mouths! Pew-pew!

Ban entertainment!


(<-- Not a pornography watcher.)

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: Juddog
Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

pr0n is cheating.
/thread.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: Juddog
Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

pr0n is cheating.
/thread.

EVERYONE MY OPINION IS RIGHT
/thread




:roll:

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Roguestar
Then she's a liiiiiiiiitle bit insecure, and pr0n isn't the root of your problems.

Originally posted by: sixone
Well said. :beer:

THE QUOTING OF THESE TWO POSTS HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH EACH OTHERlc

- M4H

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger

Originally posted by: sixone
I don't get the attraction for porn at all, for someone who has sex available regularly. If you want to do it, DO IT. Why watch someone else do something that you've already seen done 14.368 times already? I guess if you're too lazy to use your own imagination, then porn would be attractive to you.

If you think real life is anything like what you see in a porn flick, you need serious help. And if you understand that it isn't, then what's the point? You have an SO or a hand, and an imagination, use it.

I know! It's like, why would anyone go to a comedy club or watch a SciFi movie? They can tell their own jokes and make laser sounds with their mouths! Pew-pew!

Ban entertainment!


(<-- Not a pornography watcher.)

At a comedy club, you're seeing a live show, having a few drinks and some laughs with other people. How you could be a Raptor pilot IRL would be a little more difficult. In other words, you're getting more than you would in front of your TV set.

Porn is a second-rate experience, compared to the real thing.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: sao123

Originally posted by: Juddog
Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

pr0n is cheating.
/thread.

You are a moron


/Thread

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Juddog
Inspired by an earlier thread, pr0n seems to cause massive unending arguments with some couples, yet other couples view it like they would just a regular TV show.

What gives, why so much of a discrepancy? It's something I never quite understood.

different strokes for different folks. that's why.

 

[engineereeyore]

Originally posted by: Roguestar

Originally posted by: engineereeyore

Originally posted by: A Casual Fitz
If anything it prevents cheating if used.

What?? Where in the world do you get that idea? So many men cheat on their wife because their wife isn't what a porn star portrays a wife to be. Men see these women doing all this crap and then get upset thinking, "hey, my wife should be just like that. that's what sex should be like". It's all an illusion and I know this is just my opinion, but I will never find it anything but destructive.

Or, some people bug their S/O for sex because they'd feel guilty or be guilted if they were getting off by themselves, so sex becomes an issue when the partners have inequal sexual appetites. It's healthy to have a good sexual relationship but if you want it every day and she wants it maybe once a week, is it not better for you to choke the bishop in the shower than bugging her for something she'll feel pressured into?

Or they could learn to control themselves and remember what life without a SO is like. I don't know of hardly any couple that has the same amount of sexual desire among the two. That's life, or I should say, that's sex life. But feeding someone who already has a big sex drive with porn, thereby only making it stronger, seems rather counterproductive to me.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: engineereeyore
Or they could learn to control themselves and remember what life without a SO is like.

Haven't been single in almost seven years, but I'm guessing that would be "whacking off to porn" amirite?

- M4H