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YAGT: Please Answer Poll

Scarpozzi

Scarpozzi

Lifer
My GF and I went on a break months ago... 1 or 2 nights after the break, I ended up making out with this girl in a sorority. My GF and I ended up getting back together a few days after we decided to take a break. I told her that I wasn't going to date anyone else and this girl sort of showed up at my door b/c of my roommate's friends. It was a 1 night that only involved kissing... Turns out my gf pledged the sorority and the girl is like a mentor to my GF. It didn't take the gossip long to reach her....it broke her heart/hurt her feelings. She's basically calling me a cheater. What do you think? Please answer honestly cause I may need this poll as evidence that I wasn't totally in the wrong.
 
You were on a "break", nothing you would have done in that time can be construed as cheating, she's just mad because she didn't get a chance to do the same/she's a cheesed off brasser. Tell her to get over it.
 
WTF is 'going on a break'? You're either exclusive or not, breaks are for drama queens.

Besides, she was probably hitting it too while you guys were "on break" as that's the main reason people in exclusive relationships mutually agree on 'breaks'. Sloppy seconds for you.
 
The big problem is that this sorority chick doesn't really care about anything and will say whatever she needs to so her new "little sister" or whatever doesn't hate her. So, basically, I'm getting ganged up on here.

I have a feeling this relationship is about over after a year and 7 months.
 
It all depends on what this "break" entailed. If it was an explore your feelings kind of break where you were free to do whatever then she has no grounds to be hurt. If it was a let's get our heads together and take a few days off and see how things go then she's in the right. I think if you were making out with another girl though you may still be a restless soul not quite ready to settle down.
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
Let her make out with some random dude so that you are even.

Edit: i nominate skywalker66
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Haha...but he'll have an inner struggle to touch or not to touch a female and then post how he blames it on us ATOT heathens.
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
Let her make out with some random dude so that you are even.

Edit: i nominate skywalker66
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What about StormRider?

Edit: No, you weren't cheating, I agree with BatmanNate.
 
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
It all depends on what this "break" entailed. If it was an explore your feelings kind of break where you were free to do whatever then she has no grounds to be hurt. If it was a let's get our heads together and take a few days off and see how things go then she's in the right. I think if you were making out with another girl though you may still be a restless soul not quite ready to settle down.
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I know I'm a restless soul not ready to settle down, but up until yesterday, she was ready for me to put a ring on her finger. I don't understand women anymore. I think the problem is that I'm a realist and don't like all of the b.s. that goes with relationships.
 
*sigh* so young and so naive.

It doesn't matter what you think.
It doesn't matter what I think (because I'm a male)
It only matters what she thinks.

EVEN IF you have 100% of the members of ATOT taking your side, it doesn't matter. Using a poll like this in your argument with her will only achieve one thing: now she thinks you're a cheater AND she thinks you're divulging ever fact of your relationship to total stranger.

All you can do is explain the situation to her (carefully, so she gets it straight), apologize, give her flowers, and take her out to dinner.

 
i would say no, since you were on a break. (unless there were specific terms involved, which then doesnt really make it much of a break...). Turn it around on her and say, look I had that, but I still came back to you. So you shouldnt worry...
 
Also, you don't need to add "View Poll" cause if you can't vote, you can't see it anyway. But no, you technically were not cheating, though it might be surprising to your girlfriend that you didn't take time to "recover."
 
AND she thinks you're divulging ever fact of your relationship to total stranger
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Funny thing is that she continues to talk to the sorority chicks about this and to me, that's basically the same thing. I'm already the outcast here. I may have to cash in my chips tonight.
 
And the age old truth remains.

NEVER take a "break" because what it really is a "break up and dissolution of any said relationship or at least the tell-tale precursor to it"

heh - tell her about the friends episode where he forever claims "but we were on a break!"

Face it dude, in her eyes you cheated and that's all that counts wheter you feel you did or not.
 
You admit you still have a wandering eye, and lips apparently. LOL. Even if she was ready for you to pop the question are you willing to settle down and take the chance you'll always wonder if the grass is greener on the other side? Maybe this whole incident is for the good and bringing your true feelings and thoughts out into the open.

Either way good luck to ya. 😉
 
"On a break" implies "not together", which means "free to do as you please". If she didn't want you to get with anyone else, why did she want a break?

p.s. this whole "on a break" thing is rediculous. its saying "i can't be with you right now, but you can't be with anyone else either". bunch of bs. didn't anyone see Friends, you should know it only leads to bad things 🙂. and yes, I am aware of how many quotes I used in this post.
 
Ouch, small world ain't it? 😛 You didn't technically cheat, but that it happened a night or two after you took your 'break' looks bad. Voting "no" for ya 😉
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
Let her make out with some random dude so that you are even.

Edit: i nominate skywalker66
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Dude............... we are trying to even the score............. not punish her even more :Q 😉

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
"On a break" implies "not together", which means "free to do as you please". If she didn't want you to get with anyone else, why did she want a break?
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She didn't want a break.... I did. I didn't want one to go out and fool around with other girls though....it just happened because I had been drinking that night. 😕
 
Uh... yes, In my opinion you cheated. But it does depend on how the two of you defined "on a break". Maybe you already answered that, I didn't look too closely at your follow-ups.

On a break could mean let's not see each other for a while but still be bf/gf. Or it could mean let's back off a little and go back to dating other people. Or it could mean let's break up but not call it a break up.

Also it's important to note that even if you didn't "cheat" logically and can prove using incredibly ninja logic powers that you didn't technically cheat, it doesn't matter, because she still FEELS like you cheated.

Finally, I think the whole problem started when you gave up the monkey. I miss that monkey.
 
Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
"On a break" implies "not together", which means "free to do as you please". If she didn't want you to get with anyone else, why did she want a break?
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She didn't want a break.... I did. I didn't want one to go out and fool around with other girls though....it just happened because I had been drinking that night. 😕
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well let's hope you learned a valuable lesson.

If you love her you will shower her with affection and beg for forgiveness and proclaim your stupidity because right now all her little girlfriends are tell her what a jerk you are.
 
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