YAGT: No whining, complaing, or seeking of advice within-- so might as well NEF!

[NutBucket]

Long story short, I went after a good friend from hs and she said no. Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more then two years. She emails me last spring saying perhaps she was too hasty in ending our friendship. Last November we saw each other for the first time since January of '01 (Had lunch).

And today we hung out for about 3 hours just like old times. Had a nice easy conversation. There really wasn't much tension and we talked openly about lots of things that have gone since we started college (she went out of state). It felt amazingly good to be able to talk to her like this again. And yes, I do realize I'll never be more then a friend, but oh well. I'm just happy as a clam to be able to call her a friend again.

Ok, just thought I'd share. Do what you like with my thread.

EDIT: Title changed per Karen's suggestion

 

[Dragnov]

D H I T B !

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK
D H I T B !

But I've already got a gf!

 

[bootymac]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK
D H I T B !

But I've already got a gf!

Then D H I T B

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: bootymac

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK
D H I T B !

But I've already got a gf!

Then D H I T B

She's about 350 miles away right now. It'll have to wait

 

[pyonir]

TIME FOR A HIJACK!!!!

 

[pyonir]

whoops.

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

 

[Aquaman]

Good to have a friend back, eh I did that many moons ago......... probably when you were in Kindergarden Still have not talked to her

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[BatmanNate]

You're on the wrong ladder, brother.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: BatmanNate
You're on the wrong ladder, brother.

LMAO...

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

 

[BD231]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

So baisically you f*cked things up and she was the one to put them back to gether? Woohoo!, hope you said you were sorry man, that's messed up.

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: BD231

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

So baisically you f*cked things up and she was the one to put them back to gether? Woohoo!, hope you said you were sorry man, that's messed up.

I did. I wrote a very heartfelt e-mail maybe 1.5 years ago. She then decided a while after that perhaps she was too hasty in ending the friendship. I don't know that she put things back together, but she decided she was willing to try.

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

Heh not particularly. Just making my usual thoughtful comments whatever. I was just agreeing with your thread title, that's all.

 

[NutBucket]

Thanks for offering tho!

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Thanks for offering tho!

Aww you messed up the quote hourglass thing we had going. Hey np.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

What the :Q

You never ask for my advice

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[NutBucket]

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

What the :Q

You never ask for my advice

Cheers,
Aquaman

And from what experience can you offer advice?

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

What the :Q

You never ask for my advice

Cheers,
Aquaman

And from what experience can you offer advice?

LOL *ouch*

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket

Originally posted by: klee58

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Ensuing situation led to us not talking for more than two years.

What led to you guys not talking for over 2 years? That really sucks when that happens 'cause it's always because of misunderstanding(s) on either or both your parts and it should be reconcileable through communication if both friends care about each other and value each other's friendship enough. It's totally unnecessary and foolish, but I know it happens to the best of us.

I was a bonehead after she no and said some pretty hurtful things I didn't mean. I sure felt stupid about 10 minutes after but the damage had been done....

Gee that did seem hasty and kinda unforgiving on her part but I guess that depends on the damage done and how sincere you were at the time in apologizing afterwards. But whatever it was over two years ago and what matters is she eventually came around. If you still have feelings for this girl, I'd say not to completely give up hope that you'll ever be more than her friend. When girls grow up into women, they eventually realize that what they should want is that cute, flirty guy friend that's always been understanding, patient, and there for them.

Thanks for that. I found myself resisting the temptation to flirt as the opportunity presented itself (didn't want to seem like I was going after her again). But that's ok. She's got her own life at school and what not (and in a different state I might add). I've got a great gf so its not I'm not in any rush to explore other avenues. We'll see what may happen but right now I'm happy knowing she's still the same great girl I was falling over in hs

Gee you really don't have anything in your situation to seek advice about. It's always a cool, feel-good thing to reconcile friendships after a falling out over a misunderstanding or wrongdoing. Glad it worked out for you.

lol, were you trying that hard to give me some advice? No matter. Some day I'll need advice I'm sure (Sealy can vouch for me on that one)

What the :Q

You never ask for my advice

Cheers,
Aquaman

And from what experience can you offer advice?

LOL *ouch*

NutBucket, your thread should be entitled "YAGT: No whining, complaing, or seeking of advice within-- so might as well NEF!"