Here is the summary of the relationship so far:
- met a girl when she was 18 and a virgin
- when I started dating her, I was also seeing another girl, who is now gone (to a different country)
- broke up with the first girl, decided to just remain friends (which I know is a bunch of crap) and a month later we mutually decided to pick things up where we left off
- when confronted by the girl, had to admit that I was in fact seeing multiple people during our first 'stint'
- girl leaves for the whole summer to a different country
- long-distance relationship ensues
- upon her getting back to the States, she lets me know that she has 'made out' with someone during the summer, and is now corresponding with him via email
- realization sets in that I need to forgive her, because now we're "even"
- fast forward a few months: she now says she has met someone here and for a few days thought she was in love, however she still wants to be friends
- let her know that I won't be a friend to her because of my feelings, and if she wants to break it off, it will be once and for all, as in complete break up with no further communication
- we agreed on a meeting later today, to discuss face to face where to go from here
Here is the question:
What course of action should I take? On one hand I want to continue this drama-filled relationship and see where it leads in the end; but on the other hand I realize that she is essentially using me as a crutch, and if in the future she meets someone else I will be ditched into the 'friend-zone' so fast that my head will spin, and I will be miserable for an indeterminate amount of time.
- met a girl when she was 18 and a virgin
- when I started dating her, I was also seeing another girl, who is now gone (to a different country)
- broke up with the first girl, decided to just remain friends (which I know is a bunch of crap) and a month later we mutually decided to pick things up where we left off
- when confronted by the girl, had to admit that I was in fact seeing multiple people during our first 'stint'
- girl leaves for the whole summer to a different country
- long-distance relationship ensues
- upon her getting back to the States, she lets me know that she has 'made out' with someone during the summer, and is now corresponding with him via email
- realization sets in that I need to forgive her, because now we're "even"
- fast forward a few months: she now says she has met someone here and for a few days thought she was in love, however she still wants to be friends
- let her know that I won't be a friend to her because of my feelings, and if she wants to break it off, it will be once and for all, as in complete break up with no further communication
- we agreed on a meeting later today, to discuss face to face where to go from here
Here is the question:
What course of action should I take? On one hand I want to continue this drama-filled relationship and see where it leads in the end; but on the other hand I realize that she is essentially using me as a crutch, and if in the future she meets someone else I will be ditched into the 'friend-zone' so fast that my head will spin, and I will be miserable for an indeterminate amount of time.