YAGT: Nice Girl Syndrome

[GeneValgene]

Girl Rant ~ "Nice GIrl Syndrome"

[Important note: This post is assuming that the guy has been actively pursuing a girl in asking her out on a date or moving forward in their "relationship."]

Many girls out there have the "Nice Girl Syndrome." How do I define that? A girl that is too nice to say "no" to a guy who she has no interest in dating, but still reaps the benefits of a guy friend who likes her. She loves the attention and free gifts, which makes it that much harder to say "no." She keep her victims hanging on to false hope by giving them unintentional mixed signals. In all honesty, this is the cruelest thing a girl could do to a guy. It's like giving him a s-l-o-w, painful death which could have easily ended more quickly by telling him a firm "sorry, I'm not interested," and sticking to those words.

To the guys: Don't fall for this trap. No matter how much you think that maybe 1, 5, 10 years down the line she'll turn around, it's not worth it to wait if there's 0% commitment and you're the only one giving. Otherwise, you will unfortunately learn the hard way with a bitter, sour heart in the end. It's impossible to be "just friends" with someone you like, who may not return the same feelings. Is it really worth all the pain and bitterness in the end? Don't waste your heart on someone who considers you Plan B for now.

To the girls: I've been guilty of this syndrome in the past, so I'm only trying to give some wisdom based off of my experiences. I know you love the attention, but it's time to be more selfless. Like I said to the guys, it's impossible to be "just friends" with a guy who likes you, who you do not truly see yourself with. Don't give excuses. Example: "I'm not ready for a relationship right now, but I don't know about the future." If [fill in hottest celebrity] asked you out, you would be ready in a nanosecond. If you do tell him that you only want to be friends, stay consistent with your words and actions. No matter how much you think you're being nice by not being firm and direct towards him, it is seriously THE cruelest thing you could do to a guy. Just imagine squeezing his heart dry like a wet towel rag and then leaving it out to dry in the scorching sun. Maybe not the best analogy, but you get the picture. There is a point where you have to be straightforward and firm, even if that means you have to be somewhat mean (i.e. minimizing contact for awhile). This is the case where you have to be mean to be truly nice.

This scenario reiterates the point: Guys are stupid. Girls are evil.

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[Eeezee]

It is possible to be friends with a girl who would also be good in a relationship. The key is finding someone better. Suddenly the friend isn't so desirabe 😛

 

[Pepsei]

the only way to get girls like that is not to supplicate... too advanced of a theory for most guys here... all i'm going to say is "being a nice guy" to a nice girl will not work. you have to be "cocky & funny" all the way too the end....

 

[acemcmac]

I have not had this problem.

 

[imported_Dirac]

i hate when ppl write about this sh!t. overanalyzing everything and trying to extract some broad rule that applies in every situation.

the real idiots are the ppl who can't get enough of this kind of "advice" and read one of a hundred magazines out there that give you 101 tips on how to avoid wasting your time finding the girl or guy of your dreams

 

[Tylanner]

there is not a man or woman who doesnt do this

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: Eeezee
It is possible to be friends with a girl who would also be good in a relationship. The key is finding someone better. Suddenly the friend isn't so desirabe 😛

it is VERY possible to be friends with a girl if you respect her.

Doesn't matter if she is single, window, married, etc

as long as you don't have a long term objective to try getting into her pants.

which seems to be the mentality of 95 percent of the guys here.