YAGT: Need your opinion

[whalen]

OK, i never thought I'd post something like this, but hey, might as well join the YAGT frenzy NO PICS either.

I met this girl online back in Feb, and we talked for about a month or so online, every other day for an hour or so...She lived about 2 hrs from my college (was a senior in HS at the time). One weekend, she came down to visit some friends at my college, and we met for the first time. We clicked instantly, and after we met, we started talking alot more on the phone and online. Her and a friend came to visit me again later in the year, and we had a good time, and I liked her alot.

Then during the beginning of summer, i went to visit her and we went out bowling with her friend and her friends boyfriend, and just hung around...and had a great time then too. About a week after that, I finally got the nerve to ask her if she thought of me just as a friend, or if she could see us developing a relationship. She basically said, "I dont know yet..." but then proceeded to say what a great guy I am, how she loves talking to me, and how life would be so boring without me. So i didnt really know how to take it....I could think of three possible things she meant by that.

1. She likes me, but wanted to wait until College (shes going to my school) before getting serious

1. She likes me as a friend, but just didnt want to hurt my feelings

1. She wants to save me as a plan B...incase she finds someone better at school.

Since I brought that up though, she hasnt really stopped talking to me...infact, we talk more now than ever...usually around 3 hrs a night online, and a few times a week on the phone for an hour or so. We also email back and forth all day while I'm at work...

Anyway, a few weeks ago her, her friend and her friends bf all came to my house for the weekend and we hung around, went to an amusement park, and had a really great time...but still I can't tell if she likes me as a friend or what. We have never kissed or held hands, etc.

I was thinking about bringing it up again with her, but I don't know if thats such a good idea...I had also toyed around with the idea of asking her friend if she had any inside info, but that kinda reminds me of something i'd have done in Jr. High .

ANYWAY, help a brotha out here. Do you think its too late for me? Have I already fallen into the forbidden land of the friend zone?


Clifs Notes:
1. Met girl online. Lives near me, going to my school next year.
2. Talk to alot online and on phone. Nice girl
3. Meet girl, talking increases
4. Tell girl I like her, ask about relationship. She says she doesnt know yet.
5. Talking increases (3 hrs a night online, 2-3 times a week phone)
6. Contemplating asking her about relationship again, or asking her friend for inside info

 

[Encryptic]

I think you're going to end up in the Friend Zone but she doesn't want to tell you that outright....

 

[waylman]

i think you would have kissed by now if there was anything there.........sorry man.........looks like just friends.

Edit: 3 hours a night IM'ing??? In that time, you could drive out to see her, bang her, and drive home! Seriously though, make a move and see what happens.

 

[whalen]

Its ok...i've come to expect these things...heh

 

[hopeless879]

Dude, make a fvcking move already. The reason you guys are not a couple is not because of her, but because of you. Take a risk.

 

[moonshinemadness]

Go 4 itand if it back fires just ask if u cud stay friends u know the drill...

 

[imported_Papi]

it's your fault, you were a nice guy.

haha

Most girls expect guys to throw sexual innuendos in here and there. Doesn't seem like you've done that at all. Maybe you should try. See where that lands you.

Say things like you've been thinking of her a lot. You miss her... little thing but don't go obsessive. See how she reacts. If she pulls away, you'll never get to stage 2. So don't try.

 

[Chunkee]

just throw her the root and get it over with

 

[ClueLis]

Give it a shot, if you're in the "friend zone," so be it, but at least you won't be asking "what if?"

 

[GoingUp]

Its tough cause shell be goin off to college in the fall and most likely wont want to be tied down....

 

[whalen]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Its tough cause shell be goin off to college in the fall and most likely wont want to be tied down....

No...right now, we are 4 hrs away for the summer. We are going to the same school this fall

 

[bootymac]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Its tough cause shell be goin off to college in the fall and most likely wont want to be tied down....

Unless she's being tied to a bed post...

 

[whalen]

Originally posted by: bootymac

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Its tough cause shell be goin off to college in the fall and most likely wont want to be tied down....

Unless she's being tied to a bed post...

LOL...reminds me of a quote from a Bloodhound gang song...."I cant be tied down with a girl who wants me tied up".

 

[crumpet19]

You know.. I've found that its amazing how much a kiss can turn things around...
Even if a girl has hinted that she only wants a friendship.. if you continue to click along... just try something. Two of my girlfriends have started as friends that I expressed interest in and made a move on. Of course if you do this and she doesnt go for it she'll either get over it or you'll totally creep her out and she'll avoid you forever.
Good luck.

 

[cain]

oh man, prolly as a friend. sorry man.

 

[EvilYoda]

Seems that you were forward enough to ask about how she felt before, so just ask again and tell her how you feel being in the dark all the time, despite you two seemingly having such a good time.

Or, blow her off and tell her there's a new girl, see how she reacts. jp jp

 

[wake]

It's time for you to take it to the next level.. hold hands so easy, or kiss her. After that is bliss.
You don't need her express consent to try these things.

 

[wake]

Double.
She really likes you she just won't realize it until you make a move or do something romantic.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Tell her you love her when you're alone and see what she says back. If she says something good as in she has similar feelings for you... go ahead and kiss her, that should change things

The fact that you two talk so much, means that there is some connection...

 

[phlashphire]

Sounds like a cuddlebitch in training here...
It's probably best if you make your move soon instead of hanging around the friend zone, waiting and wondering.

 

[jdogg]

Originally posted by: whalen
OK, i never thought I'd post something like this, but hey, might as well join the YAGT frenzy NO PICS either.

I met this girl online back in Feb, and we talked for about a month or so online, every other day for an hour or so...She lived about 2 hrs from my college (was a senior in HS at the time). One weekend, she came down to visit some friends at my college, and we met for the first time. We clicked instantly, and after we met, we started talking alot more on the phone and online. Her and a friend came to visit me again later in the year, and we had a good time, and I liked her alot.

Then during the beginning of summer, i went to visit her and we went out bowling with her friend and her friends boyfriend, and just hung around...and had a great time then too. About a week after that, I finally got the nerve to ask her if she thought of me just as a friend, or if she could see us developing a relationship. She basically said, "I dont know yet..." but then proceeded to say what a great guy I am, how she loves talking to me, and how life would be so boring without me. So i didnt really know how to take it....I could think of three possible things she meant by that.

1. She likes me, but wanted to wait until College (shes going to my school) before getting serious

1. She likes me as a friend, but just didnt want to hurt my feelings

1. She wants to save me as a plan B...incase she finds someone better at school.

Since I brought that up though, she hasnt really stopped talking to me...infact, we talk more now than ever...usually around 3 hrs a night online, and a few times a week on the phone for an hour or so. We also email back and forth all day while I'm at work...

Anyway, a few weeks ago her, her friend and her friends bf all came to my house for the weekend and we hung around, went to an amusement park, and had a really great time...but still I can't tell if she likes me as a friend or what. We have never kissed or held hands, etc.

I was thinking about bringing it up again with her, but I don't know if thats such a good idea...I had also toyed around with the idea of asking her friend if she had any inside info, but that kinda reminds me of something i'd have done in Jr. High .

ANYWAY, help a brotha out here. Do you think its too late for me? Have I already fallen into the forbidden land of the friend zone?


Clifs Notes:
1. Met girl online. Lives near me, going to my school next year.
2. Talk to alot online and on phone. Nice girl
3. Meet girl, talking increases
4. Tell girl I like her, ask about relationship. She says she doesnt know yet.
5. Talking increases (3 hrs a night online, 2-3 times a week phone)
6. Contemplating asking her about relationship again, or asking her friend for inside info

Yet another SUPER LAME yagt ... when will you guys learn ... actions speak louder than words .. a woman doesn't want you to DISCUSS hooking up with her ... she wants you to move on it .... if you don't know if she is interested, MAKE A MOVE instead of acting like a little girl (and when i say LITTLE GIRL that is exactly what i mean ... women don't walk up to guys because they are deathly afraid of rejection ... so MAN UP, GROW A SET and MAKE A FREAKING MOVE) ... what's the worst that will happen ... she turns you down? Big deal .. plenty of other women out there who are more attractive than her