- Aug 21, 2002
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Background info about me: I'm a 22 year old male. I'm not a social person, I find the majority of people annoying, I prefer small groups of friends hanging out to going out to a party with 50 people there. I've only had a couple girlfriends because I don't date cause I don't see the point in wasting time with someone I'm not really into.
Current situation: I started talking to this girl online... she lives about 2 and a half hours away and has a daughter (the father is not in the picture and won't ever be cause he doesn't care about his daughter). Not more than a year ago, she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years and friend of 7 years because he cheated on her... he was involved in a car accident about 6 months ago and has brain damage and will never been "right" again. She won't be getting back together with him, but she still has feelings for him and isn't ready to move on yet.
I talked to her for 2-3 months, and she mentioned she wanted a new computer, and I happened to have one for sale. So I sold it to her (to her mom actually), and I delivered it. Then her and I went out and had a bite to eat and played some pool and had some drinks. I had a good time... but I think she was bored. I think I was a little too quiet while playing pool, and she didn't like that too much, but she did say she had a good time.
So the thing is, I like her, I'm not sure why though. I don't mind that she has a daughter, in fact I like kids, so that's no problem. She knows I like her, I've told her, and asked her when I'll see her again. She has a busy schedule, so it's been a while and we haven't hung out since then (about a month ago). Her dad just died too, and she had to make all the funeral arrangements... plus she goes to college... so she doesn't have much free time. So I'm not worried that she's just saying "not now" instead of "no" cause she doesn't wanna be mean to me... I asked her if I ever have a chance with her since she's not ready for a relationship right now... and she said I do, but not now.
She's more outgoing though, she likes to go out to bars and dance and whatnot... and I don't. So that could be a problem, especially since I most likely wouldn't get along with her friends. Knowing that, I'm not sure how long a relationship would last, if at all. I'm open to change... I wouldn't mind getting to know more people and learning to be more social... but is this the way to do it?
Question: Seeing as how I like her, and she has said she likes me and that she would date me... oh, I forgot to mention, a few times before she's told me she wanted to have sex with me, so I know she's attracted to me... anyway... should I persue a relationship with her? Even if I have to wait for her to be ready for a relationship? I know it sounds like a simple answer, but there's something different about her that I like and makes me want to get to know her better and figure out what it is that's different.
Cliff notes: I'm not a social person, I like a girl who is a social person and who lives 2.5 hours away who's not ready for a relationship right now due to a prior breakup. Our personalities don't exactly match, she's outgoing, I'm more reserved... do I make the effort to get to know her, or do I chalk her up as "not the one?"
[/]Asking the geeks here about women is like asking a mechanic, who has never owned a car, to work on yours. Just not that wise.
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Current situation: I started talking to this girl online... she lives about 2 and a half hours away and has a daughter (the father is not in the picture and won't ever be cause he doesn't care about his daughter). Not more than a year ago, she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years and friend of 7 years because he cheated on her... he was involved in a car accident about 6 months ago and has brain damage and will never been "right" again. She won't be getting back together with him, but she still has feelings for him and isn't ready to move on yet.
I talked to her for 2-3 months, and she mentioned she wanted a new computer, and I happened to have one for sale. So I sold it to her (to her mom actually), and I delivered it. Then her and I went out and had a bite to eat and played some pool and had some drinks. I had a good time... but I think she was bored. I think I was a little too quiet while playing pool, and she didn't like that too much, but she did say she had a good time.
So the thing is, I like her, I'm not sure why though. I don't mind that she has a daughter, in fact I like kids, so that's no problem. She knows I like her, I've told her, and asked her when I'll see her again. She has a busy schedule, so it's been a while and we haven't hung out since then (about a month ago). Her dad just died too, and she had to make all the funeral arrangements... plus she goes to college... so she doesn't have much free time. So I'm not worried that she's just saying "not now" instead of "no" cause she doesn't wanna be mean to me... I asked her if I ever have a chance with her since she's not ready for a relationship right now... and she said I do, but not now.
She's more outgoing though, she likes to go out to bars and dance and whatnot... and I don't. So that could be a problem, especially since I most likely wouldn't get along with her friends. Knowing that, I'm not sure how long a relationship would last, if at all. I'm open to change... I wouldn't mind getting to know more people and learning to be more social... but is this the way to do it?
Question: Seeing as how I like her, and she has said she likes me and that she would date me... oh, I forgot to mention, a few times before she's told me she wanted to have sex with me, so I know she's attracted to me... anyway... should I persue a relationship with her? Even if I have to wait for her to be ready for a relationship? I know it sounds like a simple answer, but there's something different about her that I like and makes me want to get to know her better and figure out what it is that's different.
Cliff notes: I'm not a social person, I like a girl who is a social person and who lives 2.5 hours away who's not ready for a relationship right now due to a prior breakup. Our personalities don't exactly match, she's outgoing, I'm more reserved... do I make the effort to get to know her, or do I chalk her up as "not the one?"
[/]Asking the geeks here about women is like asking a mechanic, who has never owned a car, to work on yours. Just not that wise.
Sarcastic Mod[/b]
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