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James Bond

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.

She never told me she would need a ride. If she had told me, I would not have drank wine with dinner.

I don't understand where you are coming from.
 

irishScott

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.


Sorry but if he'd cancelled his plans entirely to having had too much to drink,I could go along with him.

Please don't abuse your "Elite Member" status. Would you rather had him risk an accident (his life and possibly hers) to go pick her up when she was just careless about planning?

If my GF did this to me, sober or not, I'd be pretty pissed that she just assumed I'd be free.
 

Kev

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.

It sounds like he had planned out the evening and was sticking to the plans that obviously he and his girlfriend had agreed upon beforehand. He is 100% in the right here.
 

BigJ

Lifer
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Looks like you guys have it handled. I'm going back outside to do more gardening. Time to finish thatching and cleaning up the yard.
 

James Bond

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Originally posted by: Descartes
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

Maybe we feel differently about drinking and driving. A good friend of mine killed someone last week. At this point, I don't drive if I can feel any buzz. An hour would have made a difference in this case.

Bah, come on man. How old are you (that was a rhetorical question; I know how old you are)? Find a friend to pick her up. Get a cab. Do something...

I agree it's a lot of drama for a simple issue, but you sounded awfully flippant about it. Maybe I'm whipped and giving the woman too much credit though.

Yeah. You're right. The thing is, she really didn't give me a chance to help her out. After the initial call where I told her I couldn't come, she didn't answer a single phone call for the rest of the night. If she couldn't find a ride, I would have definitely taken action (ie called a cab.. but after I knew her family/friends couldn't pick her up--they live VERY close).

edit: After I got off the phone, I waited about 5 minutes for a call back. She didn't call back, so I called her ~10 times within the next 20 minutes. I was actively trying to help (I realize I should have done that right off the bat).
 

AnyMal

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Nov 21, 2001
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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.


Sorry but if he'd cancelled his plans entirely to having had too much to drink,I could go along with him.

Ugh.. you're harping on the guy for being responsible? :confused: No surprise, common sense is commonly absent in women. :roll:

if a guy told me to walk home,in the dark but that he'd pop in later if he felt up to it,I'd feel like a cheap booty call.He'd have been better off simply telling her he'd had too much to drink,apologizing and taking a rain check on their date.
When did he ever told her to walk home in the dark????? Here is a quote straight from OP:
She went to the gym with a friend last night. The friend left when they finished working out, but my gf went swimming and stuff after. She never bothered to arrange a ride home, and her car is in the shop.
Would you kindly point out that part for me?
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

 

James Bond

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Jan 21, 2005
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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

You're twisting my words.

And why would I not come over later if I was going to be sober enough to? Why cancel an entire evening just because I couldn't drive at that exact moment?
 

yllus

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Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
 

Descartes

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Oct 10, 1999
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Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Descartes
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

Maybe we feel differently about drinking and driving. A good friend of mine killed someone last week. At this point, I don't drive if I can feel any buzz. An hour would have made a difference in this case.

Bah, come on man. How old are you (that was a rhetorical question; I know how old you are)? Find a friend to pick her up. Get a cab. Do something...

I agree it's a lot of drama for a simple issue, but you sounded awfully flippant about it. Maybe I'm whipped and giving the woman too much credit though.

Yeah. You're right. The thing is, she really didn't give me a chance to help her out. After the initial call where I told her I couldn't come, she didn't answer a single phone call for the rest of the night. If she couldn't find a ride, I would have definitely taken action (ie called a cab.. but after I knew her family/friends couldn't pick her up--they live VERY close).

Ahh, well that says a lot more. Sorry if I missed that part. I still think it probably had a lot to do with how you told her you couldn't make it. In my experience, women like to see how willing you are to do something even if they know you can't do it.

edit: After I got off the phone, I waited about 5 minutes for a call back. She didn't call back, so I called her ~10 times within the next 20 minutes. I was actively trying to help (I realize I should have done that right off the bat).

Yeah, not doing it immediately is what screwed it all up. I've had that same experience with every women I've ever known. The slightest hesitation means they'll say, "Fine, forget it" and there's little recompense that can be offered.
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

You're twisting my words.

And why would I not come over later if I was going to be sober enough to? Why cancel an entire evening just because I couldn't drive at that exact moment?
Hahahaha, you have a lot to learn about women son:laugh:
 

James Bond

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Originally posted by: Descartes
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Descartes
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

Maybe we feel differently about drinking and driving. A good friend of mine killed someone last week. At this point, I don't drive if I can feel any buzz. An hour would have made a difference in this case.

Bah, come on man. How old are you (that was a rhetorical question; I know how old you are)? Find a friend to pick her up. Get a cab. Do something...

I agree it's a lot of drama for a simple issue, but you sounded awfully flippant about it. Maybe I'm whipped and giving the woman too much credit though.

Yeah. You're right. The thing is, she really didn't give me a chance to help her out. After the initial call where I told her I couldn't come, she didn't answer a single phone call for the rest of the night. If she couldn't find a ride, I would have definitely taken action (ie called a cab.. but after I knew her family/friends couldn't pick her up--they live VERY close).

Ahh, well that says a lot more. Sorry if I missed that part. I still think it probably had a lot to do with how you told her you couldn't make it. In my experience, women like to see how willing you are to do something even if they know you can't do it.

edit: After I got off the phone, I waited about 5 minutes for a call back. She didn't call back, so I called her ~10 times within the next 20 minutes. I was actively trying to help (I realize I should have done that right off the bat).

Yeah, not doing it immediately is what screwed it all up. I've had that same experience with every women I've ever known. The slightest hesitation means they'll say, "Fine, forget it" and there's little recompense that can be offered.

Yeah, that is exactly it too.

Really though, I was not in any way blowing her off. I told her several times how sorry I was that I couldn't help... She interpreted it as "me not caring enough", when I don't think I displayed that at all.
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

You're twisting my words.

And why would I not come over later if I was going to be sober enough to? Why cancel an entire evening just because I couldn't drive at that exact moment?

lol,let me translate that for you....


I'm not sober enough to drive to help you now... but in a couple hours I will be sober enough to drive over to help myself to a piece of ass.

Sorry son but that's exactly how that sounds.
 

brandonb

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Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
WTF for real!? I think you should fight it. Let us know how it goes too.

Yep for real... I did fight it. Nothing happened. All my evidence to support I was not reckless and not intoxicated was not permissible as evidence in court. The judge determines that in the pre-trial. All my records (defense) was thrown out, including my detox records and breathalizer records indicating I was not intoxicated when they admitted me... They concluded that it took too long for the officer to bring me to the station to get my breathalizer, so if he would have sent me there right away, I would have been above the legal limit, so I should feel "lucky." (It took about 30 minutes to drive to the police station)

In other words, you get screwed... Lesson learned: Don't have ANY drinks and drive.
 

James Bond

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

You're twisting my words.

And why would I not come over later if I was going to be sober enough to? Why cancel an entire evening just because I couldn't drive at that exact moment?

lol,let me translate that for you....


I'm not sober enough to drive to help you now... but in a couple hours I will be sober enough to drive over to help myself to a piece of ass.

Sorry son but that's exactly how that sounds.

I'm not your son.

What don't you understand about alcohol? I couldn't drive then, but I could drive over later. This was the plan all day long--I did NOT "change plans" by drinking.
 

DeadByDawn

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:

I think it's good advice.

 

James Bond

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Jan 21, 2005
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Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:

I think it's good advice.

Yeah, whats wrong with that, haha?
 

KK

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glad alot of people condone drinking and driving. It makes driving oh so much more fun.
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: BigJ
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Hold up a minute,you were too drunk to give her a ride but were planning on going over
for to spend the night later?

I wasn't drunk at the time. I had stopped drinking. I just don't like driving with alcohol in my system. I was going to drive over there in an hour or so once I was sober.


ya, i have a problem with this too. I don't see how the hour or so between when you should have picked her up and when you planned on visiting makes any difference. If you respected her, and wanted to be with her, you would have picked her up. Just admit it to yourself, and move on, I suppose.

1 hour can mean the difference between nothing happening or a license revocation and thousands of dollars in attorney fees.



ie: he couldn't be bothered with picking her up,but when he was done drinking and socializing he'd have driven over there to let her suck him off.

Wow are you nuts?

I was eating dinner with my roomate. I had stopped drinking. When I had sobered up completely, I was going to come over.

That is it.


Don't you realise how that sounds?

oh,walk home honey,if I'm sober later I'll come over... that sounds horrible,you should have simply cancelled the entire evening.


"I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive. "


Read this part again. She called after he had already been drinking.


ok... and at that point he should have simply told her he'd had too much to drink and cancelled their plans for the entire evening.

He tells her to walk home in the dark but also said when he sobered up he still planned
on swinging by her place to spend the night.

Sorry but that sounds really crappy.

You're twisting my words.

And why would I not come over later if I was going to be sober enough to? Why cancel an entire evening just because I couldn't drive at that exact moment?

lol,let me translate that for you....


I'm not sober enough to drive to help you now... but in a couple hours I will be sober enough to drive over to help myself to a piece of ass.

Sorry son but that's exactly how that sounds.

I'm not your son.

What don't you understand about alcohol? I couldn't drive then, but I could drive over later. This was the plan all day long--I did NOT "change plans" by drinking.

She called you needing your help..you're too drunk to help her but later,you're gonna magically be just fine?


You did her a favor by dumping her.
 

K1052

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Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:

I think it's good advice.

Me too, either that or he decides never to do anything that could impair his ability to operate a car without her say so. :roll:

Could he possibly have been a little more helpful? Yes, though it doesn't sound like she gave him much of a chance and is blowing this totally out of proportion.
 

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Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:

I think it's good advice.

Yeah, whats wrong with that, haha?
Spending Friday nights alone.
 

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Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Originally posted by: yllus
Unfortunately, she's decided to use this event to "train" you. Which in itself isn't a bad thing, we all do it to our significant others. But usually for a better reason than this.

If you apologize and say that she was right, you'll set a precedent that you're not going to like very much. Hold firm on this one, even if it means a breakup.
Yeah real good advice:roll:

I think it's good advice.

Me too, either that or he decides never to do anything that could impair his ability to operate a car without her say so. :roll:

Could he possibly have been a little more helpful? Yes, though it doesn't sound like she gave him much of a chance and is blowing this totally out of proportion.

He'd have been MUCH better off if he'd simply apologised,stated he'd had too much to drink to drive safely and cancelled the entire evening.