- Jan 21, 2005
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I'm sorry, this sounds like a high school YAGT thread.
She went to the gym with a friend last night. The friend left when they finished working out, but my gf went swimming and stuff after. She never bothered to arrange a ride home, and her car is in the shop.
I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive.
I told her that I was sorry, but I couldn't pick her up. I told her that if she had called earlier, it would have been no problem.
We are in the midst of a huge fight right now, because "she can't count on me; she can count on her friends and family, but not me".
Basically, she blames the entire thing on me, because I "shouldn't have been drinking".
I drink a few nights a week, but hardly ever get drunk.
Edit:
We are both 22.
Today is my birthday.
Update:
I realize that most YAGT's are very biased, but I honestly have tried *very* hard to make this thread as informational (from both POVs) as possible.
During lunch we talked.
The main reason she was upset was because she felt that I didn't care about what happened to her. I told her that I did care, and that she never gave me a chance to help her out by ignoring all of the calls, etc.
I'm preparing to be flamed/shens'd for whats coming next, but I swear in all honesty that this is the truth:
About 5 minutes after our initial conversation, we both called each other about 8 times. None of our calls successfully went through. We both hit each others voice mail, assuming that the other was canceling the calls, but in reality, they were colliding (I assume). At that point, she thought that I was ignoring her calls completely, thus forming the assumption that I didn't care what happened to her, and would rather continue to drink. She became angry, and decided not to answer any calls for the rest of the night. I had trouble believing that she had tried to call me at all, and she insisted on showing me her phone log which did indeed show several unanswered outgoing calls, just after our conversation.
Because she was still upset today, she placed blame on me for things that I could not control, which she was very apologetic for during lunch. I told her that I couldn't be with someone who would scapegoat blame the way she had--she knew that she was in the wrong, and understood that her actions were irrational.
She went to the gym with a friend last night. The friend left when they finished working out, but my gf went swimming and stuff after. She never bothered to arrange a ride home, and her car is in the shop.
I get a call from her at about 8:30. I had been home with my roomate--we had made spaghetti and we were both drinking wine. I wasn't drunk, but I had had too much to drive.
I told her that I was sorry, but I couldn't pick her up. I told her that if she had called earlier, it would have been no problem.
We are in the midst of a huge fight right now, because "she can't count on me; she can count on her friends and family, but not me".
Basically, she blames the entire thing on me, because I "shouldn't have been drinking".
I drink a few nights a week, but hardly ever get drunk.
Edit:
We are both 22.
Today is my birthday.
Update:
I realize that most YAGT's are very biased, but I honestly have tried *very* hard to make this thread as informational (from both POVs) as possible.
During lunch we talked.
The main reason she was upset was because she felt that I didn't care about what happened to her. I told her that I did care, and that she never gave me a chance to help her out by ignoring all of the calls, etc.
I'm preparing to be flamed/shens'd for whats coming next, but I swear in all honesty that this is the truth:
About 5 minutes after our initial conversation, we both called each other about 8 times. None of our calls successfully went through. We both hit each others voice mail, assuming that the other was canceling the calls, but in reality, they were colliding (I assume). At that point, she thought that I was ignoring her calls completely, thus forming the assumption that I didn't care what happened to her, and would rather continue to drink. She became angry, and decided not to answer any calls for the rest of the night. I had trouble believing that she had tried to call me at all, and she insisted on showing me her phone log which did indeed show several unanswered outgoing calls, just after our conversation.
Because she was still upset today, she placed blame on me for things that I could not control, which she was very apologetic for during lunch. I told her that I couldn't be with someone who would scapegoat blame the way she had--she knew that she was in the wrong, and understood that her actions were irrational.
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