UPDATE:
Went home for lunch and we had a talk, and agreed... pool our money for most things, and then have seperate accounts for everything else... We agreed no interference or commentary on what I choose to spend my seperate account funds on.... that means if I want to go buy time to sit in a purple dinasaurs lap and sing nursery rhymes, then I can without any lip from her. I've drawn up a budget, which we have to sit down and approve... the next fight is going to be how much money goes into the seperate accounts.
Good advice from alot of people....
Recognize that she's coming from a situation where she had to be much more frugal, but at the same time she needs to recognize that you're in a different income bracket.
Yeah her family was broke for a very long time, and this is most certainly where her frugal nature comes from. Together NOW we make way more than her parents did in their prime earning years inflation considered.
ViperGTS: About the cable... very interesting I'll definitly look into that... my main concern regarding HDTV is simply Football. And a couple specific shows... usually 1 per season... this season it was HouseMD. If I can get what I want cheaper I'm all for it... I have no use for HBO etc.
A couple of my freinds have married women who are bossy and controlling.....I cringe when I think about being in that situation. How do guys put up with it?
I don't put up with it... I address it, but I have to be tactful about it... if I just beat my chest and scream I don't get anywhere.... I have to be subtle and manipulative...
He's doomed for now. She is pretty and she is giving it up. He'll stick around for a few years, get divorced and start to wonder why he ever put up with it in the first palce. Then he'll come here and whine about the divorce.
I dont believe that any relationship can exist without a bit of growing together pains.. we are two very headstrong individuals, and as such I fully expected some grumbles and rumbles. I look at it from the perspective of being committed.... we are past the stage of hmmm can this work out... we are now in the stage of... hmmmm how do we work this out.
-Max