YAGT: Moving for her

[ChaoZ]

This is basically an advice essay I have to write. Trying to get different ideas.

So assume you're in a long distance relationship with a girl for 2 years. You're in California because you have school here as well as your friends and family. She lives in New York and has a great career.

You both want to live together, but she wants you to move to NY for her career but you don't want to leave your family. How would you go about this?

Cliff:
- guy and girl live in different states
- girl wants guy to move to her
- guy has school and family, having trouble deciding

 

[minendo]

Give it a shot. Guy can always move back home if guy wants.

 

[JLGatsby]

Why are you so close to your family? Seriously? Momma's boy or something?

You have to get away from your family and see the world on your own a bit.

 

[George P Burdell]

Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Why are you so close to your family? Seriously? Momma's boy or something?

You have to get away from your family and see the world on your own a bit.

A bit harsh, but I agree.

 

[bsobel]

Originally posted by: ChaoZ
This is basically an advice essay I have to write. Trying to get different ideas.

So assume you're in a long distance relationship with a girl for 2 years. You're in California because you have school here as well as your friends and family. She lives in New York and has a great career.

You both want to live together, but she wants you to move to NY for her career but you don't want to leave your family. How would you go about this?

Cliff:
- guy and girl live in different states
- girl wants guy to move to her
- guy has school and family, having trouble deciding

Long distance and relationship are like oil and water. She's been gone 2 years? They are close friends who talk often on the phone, the relationship is dead. A chance to have one again has been offered in the form of 'move here'. If her career is good move there, plenty of good schools on the eastern sea board. Much easier to come visit family when you can than go to east so often (cause presumably thats the only times the two of you are claiming to be having sex, note: she's lying)

 

[SophalotJack]

If the guy is giving up what he values at his current residence.... then what will he turn into when he moves away from all that?

The girl may be a keeper, but the guy now has nothing but her. I have seen these types of relationships and they are a headache for the person who changes themselves to accomodate the SO. He will no longer be the person she saw him as... and they will break up.

Don't leave what you value... unless she is jessica alba, of course.

 

[ChaoZ]

Originally posted by: SophalotJack
If the guy is giving up what he values at his current residence.... then what will he turn into when he moves away from all that?

The girl may be a keeper, but the guy now has nothing but her. I have seen these types of relationships and they are a headache for the person who changes themselves to accomodate the SO. He will no longer be the person she saw him as... and they will break up.

Don't leave what you value... unless she is jessica alba, of course.

Thanks! That's a great perspective. Guess imma try and write around that.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

finishing school is a legit excuse. you can always visit your family. dont expect her to stick around if you wont move for her.

 

[JLGatsby]

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
finishing school is a legit excuse. you can always visit your family.

He can transfer schools, so it's not a legit excuse.

 

[drinkmorejava]

I've always thought it would make more sense to let the person finish school there and have whoever is getting the job find one nearby, but w/e.

 

[erub]

Originally posted by: drinkmorejava
I've always thought it would make more sense to let the person finish school there and have whoever is getting the job find one nearby, but w/e.

QFT. My girlfriend moved far away for a job while I was still in school, relationship didn't last much longer. As for transferring, I was going to be a senior graduating from a top 15 engineering school, would have been stupid to move. I looked at the school near her for grad school but it didn't measure up to the other offers I got.

 

[KarenMarie]

if it is of any help to you...

i was living in nashville, tn when i met my b/f who lived in nj.

after 8 months of him visiting me, i moved here to be with him.

we have been together for over 7yrs now.

If you have specific questions, i would be glad to help.