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YAGT: Match.com -- how well does it work?

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ajayjuneja

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Hey, so I just signed up for match.com, and have been sending a few (7 so far) emails through it this week. Basically, I copy, paste, and then personalize the message. It's HARD to send something totally different to a bunch of people you don't really know. I assume everyone else does that too?


No responses so far -- how many did you need to send out to get a date off of there?
 
Just make sure to comment on elements of their profile, and you'll be OK. If you don't do that, they'll KNOW that you're just doing a cut and paste.
 
Originally posted by: bootymac
I just walked out my door and met a girl...
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I do that too, but I always meet gals older than me (30+)....

Nothing wrong with them (my last gf was 29, I'm 23), but for once out here in SF I'd like to meet someone my own age...
 
Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Just make sure to comment on elements of their profile, and you'll be OK. If you don't do that, they'll KNOW that you're just doing a cut and paste.
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I do that, of course 🙂
 
Actually I've been talking to one girl from on there for a bit now... she was the first one I emailed. We're gonna try and get together next week. Good luck in your search. 🙂
 
I went to a wedding last weekend, and the couple met on match.com

I've never used a personals website, so I can't really answer your question.
 
Originally posted by: YetioDoom
I went to a wedding last weekend, and the couple met on match.com

I've never used a personals website, so I can't really answer your question.
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Wow! Well, that's a good sign...
 
I tried it for a month awhile back ago. My biggest beef was that guys outnumber women by at least 2-1. Add to that the fact that there are a LOT of overweight women on there (was looking in the 21-26 age range), and it can become quite a struggle for some. In that month, I must have sent some 50 e-mails to women in my area who I found attractive, and probably 4 of those replied. And I only found 2 of those 4 interesting enough to go out on a date with. And neither of those 2 worked out (both became very flakey after 2 dates each). So thats my story.

Didn't mean to sound so discouraging; I have heard that some people have had good luck with Match.com. I noticed that you are in the SF area, so you should find much better ladies on there than in the midwest where I live (yes, a good, attractive woman around here is VERY hard to find). I'm also a bit short (5'6") so I'm certain that worked against me as well. I found that I do so much better meeting people in real life than online.
 
i've been using it. not entirely active, paying for basic service. Got a few winks back, probably sent 20-30 so far. Sent just a few emails, most of which never even say that got received. Of the one that was received, i got a reply.

No dates yet. I've been busy with work, so I'm not in a rush. I just hope I can find that one, one way or another.
 
Originally posted by: electricJ
I tried it for a month awhile back ago. My biggest beef was that guys outnumber women by at least 2-1. Add to that the fact that there are a LOT of overweight women on there (was looking in the 21-26 age range), and it can become quite a struggle for some. In that month, I must have sent some 50 e-mails to women in my area who I found attractive, and probably 4 of those replied. And I only found 2 of those 4 interesting enough to go out on a date with. And neither of those 2 worked out (both became very flakey after 2 dates each). So thats my story.

Didn't mean to sound so discouraging; I have heard that some people have had good luck with Match.com. I noticed that you are in the SF area, so you should find much better ladies on there than in the midwest where I live (yes, a good, attractive woman around here is VERY hard to find). I'm also a bit short (5'6") so I'm certain that worked against me as well. I found that I do so much better meeting people in real life than online.
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where in the midwest are you? Im in st louis area, and there seems to be a nice selection. Problem is, lot of members are freebies, so they cant respond to emails.
 
You know there is still a stigmata around here with online dating, it makes me feel all dirty or something when i think about doing it....
 
Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: electricJ
I tried it for a month awhile back ago. My biggest beef was that guys outnumber women by at least 2-1. Add to that the fact that there are a LOT of overweight women on there (was looking in the 21-26 age range), and it can become quite a struggle for some. In that month, I must have sent some 50 e-mails to women in my area who I found attractive, and probably 4 of those replied. And I only found 2 of those 4 interesting enough to go out on a date with. And neither of those 2 worked out (both became very flakey after 2 dates each). So thats my story.

Didn't mean to sound so discouraging; I have heard that some people have had good luck with Match.com. I noticed that you are in the SF area, so you should find much better ladies on there than in the midwest where I live (yes, a good, attractive woman around here is VERY hard to find). I'm also a bit short (5'6") so I'm certain that worked against me as well. I found that I do so much better meeting people in real life than online.
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where in the midwest are you? Im in st louis area, and there seems to be a nice selection. Problem is, lot of members are freebies, so they cant respond to emails.
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I'm in the Evansville, IN area.... yeah, I admit, that explains a lot 😛
 
It's not just here on AT Forums - it's pretty much a stigma everywhere, for various reasons. I believe people think it smacks of desperation (e.g. people can't meet others in real life, so they have to resort to the Internet). Additionally, there is the problem of deception - you can say anything about yourself. I read an article on the NYTimes about Internet dating, and the men all said that more often than not, a woman would exagerate her looks and lie about her weight. I remember the women said similar things.

I think there is less stigma attached to specialty dating sites (esp. those catering to religious folk, e.g. Jdate) where one may be looking for a person of a particular culture/religion and it may be more difficult to find someone.

I would balk at telling someone if I had signed up for Match.com (haven't even looked there), though I would have no problem telling them I have cruised around Jdate (I'm not Jewish, but there are some really nice, intelligent, and well educated young women on Jdate - and some, though not lots, are willing to date outside of their religion).

Originally posted by: SaigonK
You know there is still a stigmata around here with online dating, it makes me feel all dirty or something when i think about doing it....
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Well, I used Match.com for about 3 years. From 1996 to 1999.

I met alot of girls, made a few friends, but nothing really panned out.

I ended meeting my wife through a friend of a coworker.
 
Originally posted by: SaigonK
You know there is still a stigmata around here with online dating, it makes me feel all dirty or something when i think about doing it....
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"a stigmata".... YIKES
 
Originally posted by: electricJ
Originally posted by: SaigonK
You know there is still a stigmata around here with online dating, it makes me feel all dirty or something when i think about doing it....
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"a stigmata".... YIKES
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my hands started bleeding when I read his post.
 
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