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YAGT: Love at first sight? (With POLL!!!) Updated 5/10/04

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tk149

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(This is my first poll, so hopefully it works)

Do you believe in love at first sight?
I never did...until it happened to me last week. I always believed that love at first sight only happened to shallow fools, which, of course(!), precluded me. 😛

I met a woman, spent a few hours talking with her one night, and now I'm in love. Or at least obsessed. 😉

I consider this to be completely out of character for me. I've been in love twice before, but it never happened this fast before. It took about a month each time. I don't know what happened this time, because I certainly wasn't looking to fall for someone. Maybe it was because she's totally hot, we got drunk together, and I hadn't had much sleep in the previous few days.

I can't stop thinking about her <-- sounds like a bad love song

Oh, by the way, I met her in China (where she lives), and I live in the U.S. :| And, oh yes, she doesn't speak English very well, and I don't speak any Chinese. Oh, and I'm 35 and she's 21. God I'm a dawg. Before this, I had a rule that says I shouldn't date anybody under 30. So much for my ethics...

Yes, you perverts, all we did was talk. And I hugged and kissed her goodbye. That's all.

Now WTF am I gonna do?

<rant off> thanks for listening.
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EDIT 5/10/04: So we've emailed each other, and she sounds interested. The language barrier is still a problem, but I've started learning Chinese (wish me luck!), and I'm thinking about blowing a wad of cash on a Berlitz program or something like that. I was actually thinking about doing this before I met her, so I don't think I'm being too foolish (about learning the language, anyway). It's something I've always wanted to do, but never took the time for.

She gave me her "QQ" number, which looks like mainland China's equivalent of ICQ. I gotta figure out how to download and install this thing.

Some of the initial fervor has worn off (probably partially because I've finally caught up on some sleep), but I still think about her a lot.

I'm still quite wary of the fact that maybe she just sees me as "rich American" meal ticket. It wouldn't be the first time a woman has lied to me...and I fell for it.

And no, I'm not rich. I do well enough for a bachelor with no kids. Of course, compared to people over in China, I AM rich. If I could keep my current salary and move over there, I'd feel like an emperor. I certainly don't make enough money (or have enough vacation time) to regularly visit.

<insert expletive here> 🙁
 
Did you get your contact information? Or did you just say goodbye and that was it??

Well, you know being in love is sorta like getting a massage: it feels good at first until it becomes too strong then it'll start to hurt you.

As for me, love sucks nutz. I thought I've met the love of my life (4 years ago) and we got engaged 9 months ago, she left me for another guy after we had a fight.

Love sucks I tell ya but guys like us will never learn. haha :brokenheart:
 
You know, you can get upwards of tens of thousands of dollars for bringing Chinese women over here through marriage 🙂.

J/K
 
Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
Did you get your contact information? Or did you just say goodbye and that was it??
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We've exchanged email messages and phone numbers. Fat lotta good that does me.

I guess I just need to forget about this one and move on...but part of me really doesn't want to. :brokenheart:
 
Originally posted by: tk149
Oh, by the way, I met her in China (where she lives), and I live in the U.S. :| And, oh yes, she doesn't speak English very well, and I don't speak any Chinese. Oh, and I'm 35 and she's 21.
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I believe that some people think they fall in love "at first sight" when the meet someone who seems to have the exact characteristics they have been lookings for, and then they spend lots of time verifying that he/she is in fact who they seemed "at first sight" to be.

But that doesn't explain your situation does it? :roll:

She doesn't sound like the kind of girl you've been looking for all your life. And you probably couldn't have picked one who would be harder to have any kind of relationship with.

Sorry!
 
There is a great big difference between love and infatuation.

Only age and experience will allow you to quickly tell the difference
 
of course she's interested--you're her one-way ticket to the land of the free. you're also a "Western man". (coming from an american-born chinese who's seen both sides of the world. and yes i speak 2 chinese dialects.)

in any case, i'd agree with EagleKeeper.

good read if you have time. (i keep plugging this.)
 
i believe in infatuation at first site. you can't love a person without knowing them, because it requires a certain level of intimacy.
 
I didn't - until a few years back.

I had to do this survey for one of my classes. Being a giant procrastinator, I waited until 6 hours before it was due to start it. I rushed to the mall, and started asking people to take the survey. It was short - there were only 5 questions on it. I got all the responses I needed, except one. So, I went up to this really hot girl working in a kiosk selling candles and stuff, and asked her to take the survey.

Long story short, we ended up talking for almost 4 hours - and she was on the clock at work :Q. Would have been longer, but I had to go to my class and turn in my final project. Had the project not been due right then (and worth 25% of my grade) I wouldn't have thought twice about skipping the class so I could talk to her some more. It was one of those things where we just clicked instantly, and had almost everything in common. She was absolutely perfect - awesome sense of humor, smart, funny, honest, incredibly hot - and amazingly, she was single. By far, the most perfect girl I have ever met.

One middle aged woman who came to her work kiosk while we were talking even thought we were dating, and commented on what a cute couple we were, and how great we looked together! 😀

We exchanged numbers, but all she had was a cell that got turned off cause she couldn't pay the bill 🙁. So we had no way to contact each other. I went back to the mall a couple times hoping to see her, but I never did.

Figures, I guess. :brokenheart:
 
Originally posted by: deejayshakur
of course she's interested--you're her one-way ticket to the land of the free. you're also a "Western man". (coming from an american-born chinese who's seen both sides of the world. and yes i speak 2 chinese dialects.)

in any case, i'd agree with EagleKeeper.

good read if you have time. (i keep plugging this.)
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Good read. Nothing I didn't already know, although I disagree with some of the religious stuff near the end. Guess I just need it pounded into my head a few thousand times that real love is something that can only happen over a long period of time. Thanks!

The heart does not follow the mind.:brokenheart:
 
Originally posted by: neovan
is she using you to become a us citizen?
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I'm not sure if she has that goal in mind. It hasn't come up in any of our discussions. I have no idea if she would leave home for me, and I don't think I'd want to leave home for her. China's a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there.
 
Originally posted by: Pepsei
So er, you actually met her "in person" when you were in China?
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I'm not sure what the quotes are for, but yeah, we met live in-person in China. It was just a random meeting, completely unplanned.

So, no, she's not a fat, sweaty, middle-aged guy I met over the internet.😛
 
Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I want to believe!

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[Got Bimmerchick?] [Ich liebe Europe!]
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Great link!

BTW, I know I'm obsessed, because right now I'd rather hold my little china doll than have sex with Bimmerchick!

<This is just soooo wrong...>
 
I hear tons of Asian girls fall for Americans because the want to live 'the american dream' with a sugardaddy to pay the bills
 
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