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It?s been a while now (December 18, 2004) since my gf and I started doing it (Footnote: why the thread was locked, I have no idea). Everything in that department is awesome. The poonanny is great and my technique is pretty good, judging by her reactions. I hit it nearly every time I get the twitch and the opportunity presents itself. We?re completely comfortable with each other with no nervousness or anything like that. I?m still doing good in school and everything?s cool at home. Her parents really like me, too. For instance, the other night my gf?s mom took us up to their restaurant so we could get something to eat. I had Shrimp en Brochette, which is shrimp stuffed with cheese and jalapenos then wrapped with bacon and grilled to perfection and served with a lemon butter dipping sauce, green beans with little pieces of bacon in them, mashed potatoes and giblet gravy, and garlic toast. I may sound like a tv commercial, but talk about a kick ass dinner! I didn?t have to pay for it either! I get to hit it AND eat for free. This chick has benefits! 
Here?s the problem?she wants to talk about stupid stuff ALL the time. Don?t get me wrong, I really do like her for more than just the sex and I don?t mind talking SOME, but damn. For example, she calls me probably 3 or 4 times a night if I?m not over at her house or she?s not at mine. After the first call, she calls and asks me how it?s going and what I?ve been up to. Contrary to popular belief, I?m not a bubbling spring of unending excitement. I end up telling her that I?m doing the same crap I was doing the last time she called me and asked me what I was doing. I guess it?s a pet peeve of mine, but I get a little pissed and I probably let it show in the way I talk. It?s enough to drive me nuts, but not bad enough to make me want to give it all up. Not yet, anyway. I wish there was some way that I could get her to agree to go for a few days of ?no talk, just sex.? That probably sounds harsh, but I don?t how else to say it. Sometimes I like to just sit and not say anything to anybody and be completely content that way.
I?ve thought that maybe I could suggest that we do something that she might not be completely comfortable doing, but wouldn?t cause her to cut me off completely. Suppose I asked her if I could DHITB. Maybe my asking her would take her by surprise and she would be speechless, but not to the point that she thinks I?m a freak or something. Maybe it would be enough to shut her up for a while she tries to straighten that out in her head. Does that make sense? This could be a completely bad idea but I?m trying to come up with something that she could ponder silently. Of course, if she said yes I?d probably mess my pants, but a yes wouldn?t necessarily be a bad thing. Either way, I think giving her something to think about like that is only a temporary solution.
What do you think? I'd bet I?m not the only person that is in or has been in a situation like this. Is this normal? Do any of you have a workable solution to this? If you've been in this situation, what has/hasn?t worked for you?
Cliff Notes:
1. Almost everything in relationship is great
2. GF wants to talk way too much
3. Need ideas of how to make her quit talking so much
4. ???
5. Profit?
Clarification
It's not just that I want to hit it all the time...that's beside the point. It also doesn't mean that I don't want to talk to her at all. If she's got something important or interesting to talk about I'm all for it. It seems to me that most of the time she just wants to talk about things for the sake of hearing herself talk. Maybe the stuff she wants to talk about is important to her or our definitions of important or worthwhile things to talk about are very different. I wouldn't want to tell her "The stuff you always want to talk about is insignificant and stupid" because that would be mean. I don't want to hurt her and make her feel bad. I may be a horndog, but I have feelings and compassion, too.
Here?s the problem?she wants to talk about stupid stuff ALL the time. Don?t get me wrong, I really do like her for more than just the sex and I don?t mind talking SOME, but damn. For example, she calls me probably 3 or 4 times a night if I?m not over at her house or she?s not at mine. After the first call, she calls and asks me how it?s going and what I?ve been up to. Contrary to popular belief, I?m not a bubbling spring of unending excitement. I end up telling her that I?m doing the same crap I was doing the last time she called me and asked me what I was doing. I guess it?s a pet peeve of mine, but I get a little pissed and I probably let it show in the way I talk. It?s enough to drive me nuts, but not bad enough to make me want to give it all up. Not yet, anyway. I wish there was some way that I could get her to agree to go for a few days of ?no talk, just sex.? That probably sounds harsh, but I don?t how else to say it. Sometimes I like to just sit and not say anything to anybody and be completely content that way.
I?ve thought that maybe I could suggest that we do something that she might not be completely comfortable doing, but wouldn?t cause her to cut me off completely. Suppose I asked her if I could DHITB. Maybe my asking her would take her by surprise and she would be speechless, but not to the point that she thinks I?m a freak or something. Maybe it would be enough to shut her up for a while she tries to straighten that out in her head. Does that make sense? This could be a completely bad idea but I?m trying to come up with something that she could ponder silently. Of course, if she said yes I?d probably mess my pants, but a yes wouldn?t necessarily be a bad thing.
Either way, I think giving her something to think about like that is only a temporary solution.What do you think? I'd bet I?m not the only person that is in or has been in a situation like this. Is this normal? Do any of you have a workable solution to this? If you've been in this situation, what has/hasn?t worked for you?
Cliff Notes:
1. Almost everything in relationship is great
2. GF wants to talk way too much
3. Need ideas of how to make her quit talking so much
4. ???
5. Profit?
Clarification
It's not just that I want to hit it all the time...that's beside the point. It also doesn't mean that I don't want to talk to her at all. If she's got something important or interesting to talk about I'm all for it. It seems to me that most of the time she just wants to talk about things for the sake of hearing herself talk. Maybe the stuff she wants to talk about is important to her or our definitions of important or worthwhile things to talk about are very different. I wouldn't want to tell her "The stuff you always want to talk about is insignificant and stupid" because that would be mean. I don't want to hurt her and make her feel bad. I may be a horndog, but I have feelings and compassion, too.
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