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2Xtreme21

2Xtreme21

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Girl I graduated high school with IM's me randomly last week to talk about the Penguins (Pittsburgh's NHL team)... was kinda weird as I haven't seen or heard from her in 2 years, and all of a sudden wants to talk about them as if we'd known each other forever. Before I go on I'm going to preface by saying we were somewhat close in high school, but never romantically close, even though I liked her and I'm sure she knew.

Anyway, one thing leads to another and I ask her if she wants to go to a game. She says emphatically "SURE" and we end up going yesterday. It was a great night and I had a lot of fun and she really seemed like she was enjoying herself as well. Game was over, didn't wanna go anywhere else, dropped her off at her house, home by 11:00. (-_-)

Question is, think I'd generally know whether or not it was going anywhere after the first "date"? She said she'd look into getting tickets for another game over Christmas break, implying she wants to do it again, but that really doesn't say a whole lot. Ideas?
 
JohnAn2112

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No advice from me, but I want to say I envy you for being at the game when Sidney put up 6 points. ;)
 
2Xtreme21

2Xtreme21

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I offered to pay, but she insisted to pay for her own.

And yes, it was a fantastic game. He now leads the league in points! :D
 
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Nutdotnet

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How can we tell you if it's going anywhere?

Why don't you call her and ask her out? Show her your sausage or something.

Seriously man...if you don't WANT another friend then don't ALLOW this to become a friendship. Quit being the friendy, shy guy and stick you noodle in her sauce!
 
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TheWart

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Maybe offer to take her out to dinner before the next game, or just call her up and ask her out to dinner (between now and the next game), and that should help clarify things.
 
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neovan

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Why don't you just tell her that you are starting to develop feelings for her and see how she reacts?
 
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Riverhound777

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Originally posted by: neovan
Why don't you just tell her that you are starting to develop feelings for her and see how she reacts?
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Yeah, tell her how much you've always loved her and dream about her every night. Then shed a few tears, women love that sensitive stuff!
 
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monk3y

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No need to hurry things... Take it slow and see if she is indeed interested in you. You will know if she calls you or IMs you randomly. Let her be the one chasing after you.
 
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Nutdotnet

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Originally posted by: monk3y
No need to hurry things... Take it slow and see if she is indeed interested in you. You will know if she calls you or IMs you randomly. Let her be the one chasing after you.
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Bullshit...he's the man, he needs to be the agressor.

No, you don't have to say, "Oh, I really like you, will you be my girlfriend" but, make a move, stick your tongue down her throat....don't get so friendly that she puts you in the friend zone so while you're paying for her hockey games she's giving the business to some dude in the back of a Dairy Queen.

Good luck!
 
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halik

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Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
I offered to pay, but she insisted to pay for her own.

And yes, it was a fantastic game. He now leads the league in points! :D
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Nope, you're not getting anywhere. If this was supposed to be a date, she'd let you pay.
 
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spidey07

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WTF!

You guys go out on a date and you don't kiss her?

Bad move buddy. Ask her out on another date and make sure you touch her during the date then at the end of the night move on in.
 
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monk3y

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Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Originally posted by: monk3y
No need to hurry things... Take it slow and see if she is indeed interested in you. You will know if she calls you or IMs you randomly. Let her be the one chasing after you.
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Bullshit...he's the man, he needs to be the agressor.

No, you don't have to say, "Oh, I really like you, will you be my girlfriend" but, make a move, stick your tongue down her throat....don't get so friendly that she puts you in the friend zone so while you're paying for her hockey games she's giving the business to some dude in the back of a Dairy Queen.

Good luck!
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I'm just saying what has worked for me... I'm not telling him NOT to be aggressive. I'm telling him not to become obsessed with her unnecessarily. I've been in situations where I was being WAY too aggressive for absolutely NO reason (the girl obviously wasn't interested in me and all that happened was me getting hurt). Girls usually let a guy know, just look for queues and once you see them... Then be the aggressor.

Girls (at least in my experience) don't like a guy that's ready to be there all the time. That's what friends are...
 
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glutenberg

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I swear every YAGT, the advice from these guys is, "touch her." Are you guys just out for a grope?
 
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Originally posted by: glutenberg
I swear every YAGT, the advice from these guys is, "touch her." Are you guys just out for a grope?
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hahahaha, i was thinking the same thing.
 
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glutenberg

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Also, it seems wierd to be asking for relationship advice on ATOT. If you think about the posters (in general, the ones that post the initial YAGTs), we have one guy who's upset about his high school relationship and winter formal with a chick, then we have another guy who thinks showing anime porn is the way to a girl's heart, freedombeats endless female friends, and the list goes on. The only worthwhile YAGT so far would be Azuric's thread and that's just because he posted up pictures of two good looking girls for all these lonely guys who are giving you the advice of prodding this girl like a piece of meat.
 
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JEDI

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Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
Girl I graduated high school with IM's me randomly last week to talk about the Penguins (Pittsburgh's NHL team)... was kinda weird as I haven't seen or heard from her in 2 years, and all of a sudden wants to talk about them as if we'd known each other forever. Before I go on I'm going to preface by saying we were somewhat close in high school, but never romantically close, even though I liked her and I'm sure she knew.

Anyway, one thing leads to another and I ask her if she wants to go to a game. She says emphatically "SURE" and we end up going yesterday. It was a great night and I had a lot of fun and she really seemed like she was enjoying herself as well. Game was over, didn't wanna go anywhere else, dropped her off at her house, home by 11:00. (-_-)

Question is, think I'd generally know whether or not it was going anywhere after the first "date"? She said she'd look into getting tickets for another game over Christmas break, implying she wants to do it again, but that really doesn't say a whole lot. Ideas?
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u blue it. should have tried to kiss her goodnite.

now u r in the friend zone.

accept it or move on
 
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spidey07

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Originally posted by: glutenberg
I swear every YAGT, the advice from these guys is, "touch her." Are you guys just out for a grope?
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You have much to learn about the ways of women.

My guess? You don't know how to get intimate with a woman and can't pick up on the very obvious signs. Touch means to ya know, actually touch the woman?

Shoulder, leg, neck. Any kind of touch. If she feels comfortable with this on the first date then you she is giving you the "it's OK to nail me" sign.
 
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glutenberg

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: glutenberg
I swear every YAGT, the advice from these guys is, "touch her." Are you guys just out for a grope?
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You have much to learn about the ways of women.

My guess? You don't know how to get intimate with a woman and can't pick up on the very obvious signs. Touch means to ya know, actually touch the woman?

Shoulder, leg, neck. Any kind of touch. If she feels comfortable with this on the first date then you she is giving you the "it's OK to nail me" sign.
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More power to you if it works. I'm just saying that it's funny how everyone hops in with a "touch her" response. Plus, this is a tech discussion board. It's really not the greatest place for relationship advice.
 
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