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YAGT: Is it wrong to step away from your own car and gf...

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AznMaverick

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mY gf and i were verbally fighting. I needed to cool down so i stepped out of the car to go and walk around, get some fresh air, and chilll out, (we were in a pretty good sized park). Next thing i know she comes looking for me and runs away from me, telling me that "how could i do this to her" yada yada. It was her fault in the first place for p!ss!ng me off that badly. i'm usually a calm guy and is quiet and soft spoken. she got me to yell my lungs out, so i figured i need to cool down. what do you all think?

oh yea, and the only reason that i could think of is safety, but i left her in the car...she could've just locked the doors and stayed there. I didn't stray off too far though, maybe like 50 yards, i wasn't hard to find also. Then she found me, and tried to run away and also tried to catch a ride form a stranger or walk home in the dark for 2 miles. i'm so frustrated, i was apologizing but not totally. (i'm sorry that i left ehr there and she could've been kidnapped or whatever, but i highly doubted that would've happened.) i dunno...i still don't know what i did wrong...maybe i need a female's perspective?

Sorry guys, i don't usually post stuff like this on a public forum, but i'm just so frustrated. i can't tell my friend because i don't want them thinking less of her. thanks for the replies.
 
don't yell at a girl, just slap em





On a serious note, nothing wrong with that, it's better to cool down than continue fighting to the point it keeps escalating worse and worse.
 
hitting = bad
cooling down = good!

I say you did the right thing. You just need to explain to her why you did what you did and I'm sure she'll understand.
 
i know that's what i thought. but she says that if her brother found out, he'd lose his job because he'd beat me up. i don't know what so bad about the situation...
 
Originally posted by: weirdichi
hitting = bad
cooling down = good!

I say you did the right thing. You just need to explain to her why you did what you did and I'm sure she'll understand.
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i told her that, she still is "really sad" and keeps telling me "i don't know why you would do that to me"
 
Originally posted by: AznMaverick
i know that's what i thought. but she says that if her brother found out, he'd lose his job because he'd beat me up. i don't know what so bad about the situation...
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Your girlfriend threatened to have her brother beat you up? Sounds like it's time for a new girlfriend.
 
Originally posted by: sonz70
wow the first two replies were to smack her


we are a violent bunch here 🙁
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I'm not sure about the other poster, but my reply was joke.
 
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
 
Originally posted by: skyking
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
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she has been in an abusive relationship. i would never hit her though, and i know that for a fact. but she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home. while she was swearing tons and telling me how bad i was and how much i reminded her of her ex that abused her. (she was gonna catch a ride from a stranger or walk about 2 miles home in the dark).
 
Originally posted by: AznMaverick
Originally posted by: skyking
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
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she has been in an abusive relationship. i would never hit her though, and i know that for a fact. but she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home. (she was gonna catch a ride from a stranger or walk about 2 miles home in the dark).
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Again, your girlfriend sounds crazy.
 
Originally posted by: AznMaverick
Originally posted by: skyking
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
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she has been in an abusive relationship. i would never hit her though, and i know that for a fact. but she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home. (she was gonna catch a ride from a stranger or walk about 2 miles home in the dark).
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sighn her up for ATOT, shes an attention whore
 
Originally posted by: AznMaverick
Originally posted by: skyking
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
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she has been in an abusive relationship. i would never hit her though, and i know that for a fact. but she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home. (she was gonna catch a ride from a stranger or walk about 2 miles home in the dark).
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Bumpy ride ahead for you, dude. You don't know what you'll do. She might force the issue and try to make you fulfill the cycle. She also threatened you with violence from her brother. Does that sound likely? Could the guy get pissed for whatever and hit you?

Think about all that, and consider getting out while the getting is good.
 
Originally posted by: skyking
Originally posted by: AznMaverick
Originally posted by: skyking
Man, she has issues. I'd look into her past and see if there is any abuse. It almost sounds like she'd prefer the abuse to the abandonment, which is classic codependent abuse cycle.
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she has been in an abusive relationship. i would never hit her though, and i know that for a fact. but she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home. (she was gonna catch a ride from a stranger or walk about 2 miles home in the dark).
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Bumpy ride ahead for you, dude. You don't know what you'll do. She might force the issue and try to make you fulfill the cycle. She also threatened you with violence from her brother. Does that sound likely? Could the guy get pissed for whatever and hit you?

Think about all that, and consider getting out while the getting is good.
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You have a point. he is a very protective brother, but again...i don't know what i did wrong in this case. if i hit her, i could totally understand. but she's the one that had me drive down to her house to talk to me. then we started fighting. i told her from the beginning that nothing would get solved with the both of us because of how angry i was prior to leaving...man
 
your girlfriend is probably suffering from borderline personality disorder.

no, i'm not joking. i suggest you at least educate yourself about it, as it will probably explain a lot of her behavior. she'd benefit from therapy (therapy, not counseling).
 
"she made me chase her down for about 1/4 of a mile and i had to beg her to take her home."

She's training you. Threatening to have you beat up, the drama act in the park, then making you beg to take her home? Life is too short. Tell her to take her psycho act somewhere else.
 
Based on OP and replies afterwards I recommend a dumping. There's plenty of other chicks that aren't trying to mindfvck you, or have their brother beat you up every time you won't take out the trash.
 
Sounds like that girl is trying to manipulate you. Just move on, there's other girls out there.
 
I would have done the same thing, if she acted up like that it would have made me even more pissed. Prob wouldn't talk to her, then I would take her home and honestly be close to telling her to fck off.
 
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