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[KC5AV]

Originally posted by: Doboji
6 months now... when the move happens it will be right around the 1 year mark.

She feels the same way.

-Max

Why don't discuss with her what she thinks you should do? Maybe she's just heading to Atlanta to get away from you. 😉

 

[poopaskoopa]

:camera:?

And yeah.... She's a doctor, right... Dude, that's money!!! 😀

 

[Isshinryu]

Originally posted by: Doboji
I'll make this real simple...

I'm in love with the girl... She's amazing.

She's probably going to be moving to Atlanta to do a 3 year pediatric residency...

Residency means 80 hours a week of back breaking work.

I have a good career picking up here in the DC area. Although I'm sure I could find a good job down in Atlanta. My Family and friends are here though.

Should I consider making the move to Atlanta? Should I consider trying to make a long distance relationship? Should I consider kicking her to the curb now, and begin the recovery process ASAP? Should I consider letting the relationship go until it crashes and burns when she moves?

-Max

Internship/Residency is a relationship breaker...even if you lived in the same town to begin with it would be amazingly hard. Good luck.

 

[moshquerade]

you are in love, and sure you are in love?
you can get a job there no problem?


move to be with her.

 

[phreakah]

tough decision, but i'd say stay where you are and pick up on your career.. she's gonna be really busy working 80 hours weeks

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
I'm shocked at you people. NO one's asked yet.

PIX?

Edit: BTW, this is a boring YAGT. I say, try the long distance thingy, but keep your options open.

PIC

Wasn't meant to be entertaining... I'm just trying to get some input.

-Max

 

[nan0bug]

If you love her, move. YOu can always come back to visit friends and family, but if you're truly in love with her, thats something thats hard to replace. Better to move than spend the rest of your life with regret.

 

[iamme]

holy crap, with a name like doboji, i thought you were korean :Q

guess not.

 

[Kibbo]

Man,

I've gotta say that the residency will make it hard to keep a relationship together. Let her go, keep in touch, don't make any final decisions untill she's had a taste of the Doctor's life.

 

[maziwanka]

try the ld thing for a bit. search for jobs in atl later (that way your career will be better off and then you'll be in a better position to search for jobs in atl)

 

[ndee]

quote from DMX - Let me fly:
If you love something let it go,
if it comes back to you it's yours.
If it doesn't, it never was.

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: nan0bug
If you love her, move. YOu can always come back to visit friends and family, but if you're truly in love with her, thats something thats hard to replace. Better to move than spend the rest of your life with regret.

I agree, IF he truly feels he loves her.

Only he knows that, and only he knows what he wants to do.

 

[SilverTorch]

1. Find a suitable job in Atlanta. You need one to support you 2 there, as much as eloping sounds romantic, you gotta have something to run away to 🙂
2. Sit her down and talk, I think thats what a lot of relationships lack .... communication. Talk with her about this situation, let her know that you are willing to move with her (that is if you are) and that you have a job lined up in Atlanta (just to let her know that you thought this through as well). See what she thinks about it. Get her input on this as well, as much at the ATOT community can talk about this and give advice, you are not going to spend the rest of your life with us.
3. Ohh yea, don't let your head do all the thinking.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
I'm sort of in a reversed role as you Max. My g/f lives 210 miles away, and we've been together for almost 2 years... the long distance thing isn't bad, as long as you get to see each other at least 3 weekends/month. I'm actually in the middle of doing classes for med school, so I can't move to be with her at the moment. After I get into a medical school up near her (in PA), we're going to buy a house. My current classes will probably go on for another 2 years, but we've decided to stick it out until then... if you guys decide that you're ultimately committed to one another you could definitely do the LD thing. You should keep working in DC, but visit her on weekends via plane when you can. In the meantime, look for a job down there, and if there's nothing down there then just make sure you fly down there alot until she done her schooling...

which school are you at?

as to the OP, keeping options open sounds good unless you are 80-100% sure she's the one. i've always had a thing against dating doctors/future doctors though. maybe it's cause i want to be one and having one md in a relationship is hard enough.

 

[PanzerIV]

See how things pan out by March of next year. If they are stronger than ever I think you have your answer. Let her move there first then begin the process of finding a job in Atlanta. You'll have to do a short term long distance thing but I feel you're better off having initiated this drastic move after you've gotten another half year of the relationship under your belt.

If by March you're convinced she's still worth it you'll know what to do.

 

[brawd]

I'm a strong believer that long distance relationships just don't work unless your engaged or married and have definate future together even then its iffy.
I also think moving to a far off place for a girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't work unless your engaged or married and have a definate future together and even then its iffy.

I hope that helps.

 

[Doboji]

Thankyou all for the good advice... I will take alot of it...

1) I'm going to definitly have a nice long talk with her about how I feel, and basically the whole nine yards....

2) I'm going to ride it out for now... I still have 6 months to think about things.. weigh how I feel etc....

the biggest indicater to me right now, is when I really examine how I feel. I am so in love with this woman... I didn't realize women of her caliber existed. If I still feel the way I do right now, when she leaves... then I think I'll have to move. Even though the concept scares the crap out of me.

It's a really frightening thought... moving to a new city, with no connections, to be with a woman who will be a stressed out exhausted wreck for 3 years. The chances for this thing to blow up in my face are astounding! AGH... Ahh well think of it this way... in a year or so, you'll read either:

A) YAGT: Oh god she left me, sob sob sob

or

B) YAGT: I'm getting married 😀

-Max