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[Doboji]

I'll make this real simple...

I'm in love with the girl... She's amazing.

She's probably going to be moving to Atlanta to do a 3 year pediatric residency...

Residency means 80 hours a week of back breaking work.

I have a good career picking up here in the DC area. Although I'm sure I could find a good job down in Atlanta. My Family and friends are here though.

Should I consider making the move to Atlanta? Should I consider trying to make a long distance relationship? Should I consider kicking her to the curb now, and begin the recovery process ASAP? Should I consider letting the relationship go until it crashes and burns when she moves?

-Max

Her and I

 

[mugs]

How long have you been together? How does she feel about you?

 

[Doboji]

6 months now... when the move happens it will be right around the 1 year mark.

She feels the same way.

-Max

 

[NutBucket]

How about look for a job in ATL but keep your options open?

EDIT: You poll SUCKS!

 

[GT1999]

Start looking for a job in Atlanta

 

[Mr N8]

Let her go. If you find that she is spending the little spare time she has writing or calling you, and you guys continue to be interested in each other, then consider the move. I'm not talking about waiting a week, I'm talking more like 3-5 months minimum.

 

[Argo]

My rule of thumb is: never change your life for a girl, unless you're positively sure she's the one.

 

[Ogg]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
Start looking for a job in Atlanta

 

[Ladiesnhan]

You can tell her to meet me at Sequoia at the waterfront this weekend and I'll let you know if it's worth it to move to Atlanta or not. That or you can do what MogulMonster said and wait 3-5 months to see if she does continue to call you and write to you. That is a true test to see if she really does want to make it work. But I would not recommend moving to Atlanta just because she's moving right now. That would be the biggest mistake of your life. Especially if the relationship fails after a few months.

 

[Shelly21]

Don't leave until you find a job, in the meantime, take all your vacations there to look for high paying jobs. Move back to DC when she's done is a possibility.

 

[ragazzo]

if you can find a better paying job in atlanta, go for that. otherwise, stay, advance in your career, save your money for a nice house while either dating others or trying the long-distance thing. she won't have much time for you either way (staying or going).

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Argo
My rule of thumb is: never change your life for a girl, unless you're positively sure she's the one.

:thumbsup:

 

[TheAudit]

Originally posted by: ragazzo
if you can find a better paying job in atlanta, go for that. otherwise, stay, advance in your career, save your money for a nice house while either dating others or trying the long-distance thing. she won't have much time for you either way (staying or going).

Good man.
That's what I would do.

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Doboji
I'll make this real simple...

I'm in love with the girl... She's amazing.

She's probably going to be moving to Atlanta to do a 3 year pediatric residency...

Residency means 80 hours a week of back breaking work.

I have a good career picking up here in the DC area. Although I'm sure I could find a good job down in Atlanta. My Family and friends are here though.

Should I consider making the move to Atlanta? Should I consider trying to make a long distance relationship? Should I consider kicking her to the curb now, and begin the recovery process ASAP? Should I consider letting the relationship go until it crashes and burns when she moves?

-Max

I actually moved to another country to be with a woman i truly loved, things didn't work out but i'll never regret that, i know i would have regretted it if i hadn't.

So i guess it all comes down to how much you love her, heh, doesn't it always? Love is one of the few things that ARE worth changing your life for.

I have a feeling you already know the answer.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: TheAudit

Originally posted by: ragazzo
if you can find a better paying job in atlanta, go for that. otherwise, stay, advance in your career, save your money for a nice house while either dating others or trying the long-distance thing. she won't have much time for you either way (staying or going).

Good man.
That's what I would do.

We have a winnAR.

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: Argo
My rule of thumb is: never change your life for a girl, unless you're positively sure she's the one.

I have been positively sure that she was the one every time, otherwise i wouldn't have bothered.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: ragazzo
if you can find a better paying job in atlanta, go for that. otherwise, stay, advance in your career, save your money for a nice house while either dating others or trying the long-distance thing. she won't have much time for you either way (staying or going).

You have to take into account the cost of living in both areas too... it's very high in D.C., I don't know about Atlanta. Personally the traffic alone would make me want to get out of the D.C. area (based on what a friend who lives down there has told me).

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: MogulMonster
Let her go. If you find that she is spending the little spare time she has writing or calling you, and you guys continue to be interested in each other, then consider the move. I'm not talking about waiting a week, I'm talking more like 3-5 months minimum.

Are you saying let her go completely?... she hasn't moved to atlanta yet... this will happen next March.
Do you mean I should stop seeing her, while she's here? or are you saying once she moves to Atlanta see what she does?

I'm a little confused as to what you mean.

-max

 

[SP33Demon]

I'm sort of in a reversed role as you Max. My g/f lives 210 miles away, and we've been together for almost 2 years... the long distance thing isn't bad, as long as you get to see each other at least 3 weekends/month. I'm actually in the middle of doing classes for med school, so I can't move to be with her at the moment. After I get into a medical school up near her (in PA), we're going to buy a house. My current classes will probably go on for another 2 years, but we've decided to stick it out until then... if you guys decide that you're ultimately committed to one another you could definitely do the LD thing. You should keep working in DC, but visit her on weekends via plane when you can. In the meantime, look for a job down there, and if there's nothing down there then just make sure you fly down there alot until she done her schooling...

 

[MercenaryForHire]

OMGWTFYAGTDOTORG.

- M4H

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Doboji
6 months now... when the move happens it will be right around the 1 year mark.

She feels the same way.

-Max

its a decision you'll have to make together.

If you really love her and this is the person you would like to marry then by all means move with her. careers are easy to find - the love of you life is not.

 

[richardycc]

Are you saying let her go completely?... she hasn't moved to atlanta yet... this will happen next March.
Do you mean I should stop seeing her, while she's here? or are you saying once she moves to Atlanta see what she does?

I'm a little confused as to what you mean.

-max

please come back and ask us this question in Feb, this problem might be solved itself by then.

 

[dquan97]

I think you mean long-distance relationship

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: dquan97
I think you mean long-distance relationship

oh yeah... durr...

-Max

 

[Yax]

I'm shocked at you people. NO one's asked yet.

PIX?

Edit: BTW, this is a boring YAGT. I say, try the long distance thingy, but keep your options open.