YAGT: I need help bringing this girl in.
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"I'd like to take you out on a date. How's Thursday work for you?"
Your friend is going about it all wrong. Make you intent clear, early. It's basically a "I want to nail you" attitude, but more subtle.
Your friend is going about it all wrong. Make you intent clear, early. It's basically a "I want to nail you" attitude, but more subtle.
GuitarDaddy
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UberNeuman
Lifer
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NO.
You don't call a woman to "hang out" or "drop everything you are doing".
You set up the date, you do the date. Make your intentions unmistakably clear. If she doesn't bite, her loss.
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yeah really. otherwise, you're just setting yourself up for a long and painful process that will end 6 weeks from now with you sitting dejectedly in your car after she turned down your request to watch her and her girlfriend getting it on.
By saying "date" you are making your intentions clear.
Have you ever listened to women when they are getting ready for a date? They know what to expect. Make it VERY clear.
Let's put it this way - if she is interested in you she'll jump through hoops to make it happen, as long as she knows you are going on a date. It's an event.
If she's not interested in you then she'll wiffle-waffle/dance.
I still remember one of my first real loves, after some time of dating - 2 months she professed.... She kept wondering of why she wasn't a "weekend girl" on our first few dates.
I can be flamed for this big time and you can have at it. Make you intentions VERY clear - I want to get to know you better on a level that involves sexual organs.
GuitarDaddy
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The fear of rejection is a powerful thing, just like the fear of pain. It's like when you get a nasty thorn or a nail stuck in your foot as a kid, you can hobble around thinking about how it's going to hurt when you pull it out, put some ointment on it, wiggle it around a bit, etc... But your only delaying the pain and making it worse.
The best approach is to grab that sucker and yank it out without thinking about it, then deal with the pain which is not usually as bad as you expected. The same goes for asking someone out. You can waffle around, plot and plan, try and ease into it, but the end result will be the same. Either she will accept or she won't, and the more effort and thought you put into it the harder the rejection will be.
Or there is always the ATOT standard approach. Plot and plan for weeks, never get the guts to actually ask, then spend several months wondering what it would have been like, then post a YAGT about how all women are biathes
The best approach is to grab that sucker and yank it out without thinking about it, then deal with the pain which is not usually as bad as you expected. The same goes for asking someone out. You can waffle around, plot and plan, try and ease into it, but the end result will be the same. Either she will accept or she won't, and the more effort and thought you put into it the harder the rejection will be.
Or there is always the ATOT standard approach. Plot and plan for weeks, never get the guts to actually ask, then spend several months wondering what it would have been like, then post a YAGT about how all women are biathes
eits
Lifer
Oh for the love of Guinness, you're the second guy tonight who choosing to talk on AIM over talking on the phone.
Please, please, go ask her for her number and talk to her over the phone.
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