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drinkmorejava

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19yo is definitely hotter.

The problem still remains that you seem incapable of finding someone who likes you as much as you like them, and thus settle for screwing them for the hell of it because you're a non-committal....
 
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slackerinabox

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Originally posted by: Fraggable
From what you just said about Karen, move on if she can't decide. But don't go with 2 girls at once. If she wants to stick around and 'decide how she feels about you', let her know you aren't about to wait around for her. It sounds sort of like she's already told you not to wait around though.

In my experience the part where they decide how they feel about you is a load of crap and usually means there's an ulterior motive for being near you - like to incur jealousy with someone else or some thing along those lines.

I feel like this thread needs a post from Vladmir...
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I can't say it's fair or prudent to "move on" so quickly, it has only been a few weeks of official dating (though she slept over for 5 or 6 days of that)...The problem is that we took things at a weird pace. First we were friends for a year, never thinking about dating (ok,I did bu she didn't). then we went on a date and she ended up spending the weekend over after that one date. Then she came over that thursday and stayed another weekend.. much too soon and much too intense. after all that sex I felt obligated to ask her if it was ok if i dated other people, she said of course. then i implied that I'd rather just date her by telling her that I liked her alot, she said she doesn't know how she feels yet.. So what more can I do to be sensitive??? So I think me seeing other people is not only fair but the only option I have now, short of being melodramatic and dumping Karen prematurely.
 
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Maxspeed996

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
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Ummm.. Stop reading my posts then... And I haven't really been rejected by either of these girls.. It's a complicated situation to me and, if you don't care then just, well, move on... Just ignore anything I post, fair?
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answer my questions

The real question to ask yourself is why do you feel that it is wrong to enjoy the company of more than one women? Where did you learn this notion? Is it something you truely believe on a deep level or is it something that you absorbed through your environment and therefore acceopt it as the default?
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You're right, I shouldn't feel guilty but it probably stems from being the long term relationship guy... I feel weird seeing more than one girl, feel weird not telling everyone the whole truth (I never lie, mind you) and am not used to having to be slick all the time - that's really tiring. Slick as in suave, charming.

It also probably has a lot to do with my upbringing. Both very traditional indian and very christian. I don't feel it's *wrong* but i do feel guilty, even though Karen was the one who wanted to keep it open while I really would like to just date one girl (it's so much cheaper!).[/quote]

Bro , you are a good guy , do yourself a favor and reward yourself!! I'm not telling you to try to get both these chicks on the line , and try to be "slick" and keep them both from knowing about each other. But man , you gotta let a girl know that you are serious about being with someone , and you are going to , whether she's the one or not...there are other fish in the sea. This isn't the "free pass" to go out and be promiscuous, (stealing a word from my mom there) but c'mon! You are on the earth for a limited amount of time , there is nothing wrong with you enjoying yourself as long as it's not at someone else's expense. Keep it real man! And you'd better be asking that 19 yr old out again soon. Invite her over , throw some steaks on the grill ,throw some baked potatoes in the oven. get a nice bottle of red wine , rent a movie , man she'll dig it , and you'll have a good time!!
 
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slackerinabox

Lifer
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Originally posted by: drinkmorejava
19yo is definitely hotter.

The problem still remains that you seem incapable to finding someone who likes you as much as you like them, and thus settle for screwing them for the hell of it because you're a non-committal....
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You're kinda right, interesting perspective. I don't really want all the casual sex but am taking it because I'm not finding what I want. I'm a whore! No, I'm enjoying it but it's also not what I want and trying to find what I want is getting hard.

Why is it that so many girls I've been meeting have told me that they have either never dated long term before or they seem commitment phobic? Am I attracted to a certain personality type or is it something else?
 
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slackerinabox

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Juno
those girls look gothic to me.

*shivers*
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nope, they're not gothic at all.. karen's more of a hipster and the 19y.o. is a cute, goofy kid who wears a little too much makeup. her hair is actually light brown not black and there's nothing goth about her
 
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blue1friday2

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uh... both these girls look really young. I'm 25 and there is no way I'd even consider dating a 19 yr old... seriously yikes! you must have a "barely legal" fetish.
 
nakedfrog

nakedfrog

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You should get one of them to hold up a sign that says "Yes, Nik, this is freedombeat's hookup" or something :p
 
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slackerinabox

Lifer
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Originally posted by: cowsclaw
what happened to the girl from the brunch thread?
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she got really, really strange... she flaked on me for brunch then started replying to my emails very cryptically. I gave up trying to hang out with her but we still talk, i just don't think I have a chance in hell with her
 
Whoozyerdaddy

Whoozyerdaddy

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: cowsclaw
what happened to the girl from the brunch thread?
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she got really, really strange... she flaked on me for brunch then started replying to my emails very cryptically. I gave up trying to hang out with her but we still talk, i just don't think I have a chance in hell with her
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Is the girl you've been seeing for a few weeks the same one you took to the fancy restaurant a couple weeks ago? From three weeks ago... Edit: Found the pic in the thread. So this girl you lusted after for over a year... who you thought was out of your league... Nevermind. I'm at a loss for words.

Also, this pic was posted by you in this thread too. So this is the girl from that thread?
 
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theprodigalrebel

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There's something about pictures from MySpace that is so typically...MySpace-ish.
More power to you, my man.

The rule is: you can only mention ex-gfs to Serious Girlfriends - that too only as 'that b!tch was a waste of my time'
Everything else: feign ignorance.
 
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slackerinabox

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: cowsclaw
what happened to the girl from the brunch thread?
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she got really, really strange... she flaked on me for brunch then started replying to my emails very cryptically. I gave up trying to hang out with her but we still talk, i just don't think I have a chance in hell with her
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Is the girl you've been seeing for a few weeks the same one you took to the fancy restaurant a couple weeks ago? From three weeks ago... Edit: Found the pic in the thread. So this girl you lusted after for over a year... who you thought was out of your league... Nevermind. I'm at a loss for words.

Also, this pic was posted by you in this thread too. So this is the girl from that thread?
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Yes, the girl I've been seeing for a few weeks is the same girl I took to a swank restaurant. You're right, I did think she was out of my league and am happy that I was wrong.

And, yes, girl #2 was posted about a few weeks ago as well but only now are things slowly working. I take a loooong time to get confident enough to make a move.
 
minendo

minendo

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*update*
people like sully always imply that I b.s. about the girls I post about, so here are two cell phone pictures of the 2 girls I took on my samsung cameraphone. They're horrible pics but, please, stop saying that I'm just grabbing pictures of random people off of myspace. It's getting old and tiring..
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Now why would people like sully think such a thing? Hell, you are one of the top film producers/directors in the world.
 
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