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JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

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Jul 3, 2003
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Originally posted by: isekii
why would you tell another chick you hooked up with a different chick.
are you retarded?

Do you even have to ask this question ?
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QFT. I nominate this post for dumbest post of the day!
 
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saymyname

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Jun 9, 2006
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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I had a very, very odd weekend and now I feel pretty guilty about the whole thing. I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks now (let's call her Karen)- I'm really into her but we had an awkward talk... She's not sure how much she likes me, which means to me that we're far from a comitted relationship, though we've been seeing a lot of each other and have been hooking up everytime we hang out. So I view it as dating with a potential of a relationship.

But then Karen was sick this weekend so I needed to have someone else join me for a friend's birthday party. I invited that 19 year old I posted about, the one who flakes on me all the time and who I was hesistant to date because she was so young (I'm 25).. Well, some how I'm suddenly less pathetic in my move making and we ended up hooking up - and now I feel guilty and like a dirty old man... Do I have to tell Karen I hooked up with the youngin? I mean, I know i didn't cheat on her but I still feel scummy, especially since she was home sick.
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Sir, please shred your mancard.
 
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slackerinabox

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fbrdphreak

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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: jlbenedict
Pics of the 25 and 19 year old please :)
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I'm 25.. No pictures of me, kind sir.

"Karen" is 22 - here are some (i didn't meet her on myspace, just the pics are from there):
Fake tat
pretending to get randy with a friend (may not be safe for very conservative workplaces)
hey chubby lil' face

The 19 year old (yes, I met her on myspace but she lives 2 blocks away from me)
Her trying a little too hard to look hot
pic 2
pic 3 (on the right)
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Brown bag 'em both
 
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slackerinabox

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Mar 15, 2003
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Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: jlbenedict
Pics of the 25 and 19 year old please :)
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I'm 25.. No pictures of me, kind sir.

"Karen" is 22 - here are some (i didn't meet her on myspace, just the pics are from there):
Fake tat
pretending to get randy with a friend (may not be safe for very conservative workplaces)
hey chubby lil' face

The 19 year old (yes, I met her on myspace but she lives 2 blocks away from me)
Her trying a little too hard to look hot
pic 2
pic 3 (on the right)
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Brown bag 'em both
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really? I think they're both pretty cute
 
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Fraggable

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Jul 20, 2005
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Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.

Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
 
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slackerinabox

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Mar 15, 2003
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Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.
Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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That was what I was planning all along, but my friends urged me not to since she said she's not sure how she feels about me. If I nursed her to health I would have felt like the sap in a week when (if) she tells me she doesn't like me the way that I like her. I would feel used, so instead I went out with someone else and had fun.
 
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cherrytwist

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Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.

Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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Girlfriend! You did NOT go there!

I fail to see what the bible has to do with this guy hooking up with myspace girls.

Whatever happened to meeting people through friends, family, etc?

I'm so glad I've been out of the dating/bar/social "scene" for the past 10 years.

/leave thread
 
ColdFusion718

ColdFusion718

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Mar 4, 2000
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I wouldn't worry about it man. My sister is 29 and she's marrying someone who is 42 and we're all fine with it. They're great together and I've never thought of him as a dirty old man.

I'm 26 and I've dated girls who are 18, 19, 21, 23, and 27. It's no big deal as long as she's mature.

The 18-21 crowd seem to be more on the immature/indecisive side. When I'm dating those girls, I keep a few on the side so I'm not waiting on them--they wait on me instead.

It's all about having options.
 
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Fraggable

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Jul 20, 2005
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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.
Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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That was what I was planning all along, but my friends urged me not to since she said she's not sure how she feels about me. If I nursed her to health I would have felt like the sap in a week when (if) she tells me she doesn't like me the way that I like her. I would feel used, so instead I went out with someone else and had fun.
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You wouldn't have to feel like your times was wasted or feel used. Consider it something nice you did for a friend because it was the right and kind thing to do whether you ended up with her or not. If you do it with that kind of attitude you feel good about yourself afterwards. If she ends up liking you for it and you end up together, then good for you.

You mentioned that you were looking for a comitted relationship. Going out with more than 1 girl at a time is never going to create a comitted relationship if either of them ever finds out what's going on.
 
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Fraggable

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Originally posted by: cherrytwist
Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.

Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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Girlfriend! You did NOT go there!

I fail to see what the bible has to do with this guy hooking up with myspace girls.

Whatever happened to meeting people through friends, family, etc?

I'm so glad I've been out of the dating/bar/social "scene" for the past 10 years.

/leave thread
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There's plenty in there about relationships and comittments. I didn't say he needed to follow every letter of the book, just that he should consider taking some advice from it.

EDIT: You're right, it has nothing to do with 'hooking up with girls on myspace'. That's not quite what He had in mind when it comes to relationships.
 
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IceBergSLiM

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Jul 11, 2000
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what who cares. there are no rings on anybodies fingers. have fun. until you commit its nobodies business but yours.

The real question to ask yourself is why do you feel that it is wrong to enjoy the company of more than one women? Where did you learn this notion? Is it something you truely believe on a deep level or is it something that you absorbed through your environment and therefore acceopt it as the default?
 
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Mellman

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whats up w/ the 'voyeur' esque pictures of the 19 year old? lol looks like someone was taking spy shots in the shower....
 
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KarenMarie

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It is pretty apparent that you are not serious about this Karen chick or you would have never gone with another girl. The girl you are 'really into' gets sick and you hook up with someone else? Sorry, but you couldn't have been that 'into' her or you would not have been 'into' someone else at the drop of a hat.

If you really liked her and wanted more than just a light dating situation, you would have been patient and waited for Karen to see that you were serious and commit to you.


Now that is out of the way... if you care for no one and are a free agent, you can sleep with and date anyone you like as long as you are honest with everyone. As long as everyone involved is fully aware that there is no exclusivity anywhere... then you are doing nothing wrong.

The age thing... well, 25 and 19? Only 6 years, but a big 6 years, imho.

And as for your feeling guilty... What if this Karen girl finds out that you 'hooked up' with someone else and kicks you to the curb? Would you feel that you deserved it? Would you care?
 
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djheater

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Mar 19, 2001
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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.
Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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That was what I was planning all along, but my friends urged me not to since she said she's not sure how she feels about me. If I nursed her to health I would have felt like the sap in a week when (if) she tells me she doesn't like me the way that I like her. I would feel used, so instead I went out with someone else and had fun.
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Well... you sure showed her.
 
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yowolabi

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Jun 29, 2001
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Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: Fraggable
Seriously man, you have so many issues with girls. You need to take a look at how the Bible says to handle relationships and consider incorporating some of that into your style. It's not always about being with a girl 24/7 and every time you go anywhere, it's about finding one you like and trying to make it work out even when it's not easy. You could have gone to the party alone for a couple hours and then gone to be with sick Karen for a few hours for example.
Yes, I said it. I really think it would help you it.
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That was what I was planning all along, but my friends urged me not to since she said she's not sure how she feels about me. If I nursed her to health I would have felt like the sap in a week when (if) she tells me she doesn't like me the way that I like her. I would feel used, so instead I went out with someone else and had fun.
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Here's a hint. If you want her to feel more strongly about you, try doing something nice and selfless for her. Why would she want to commit to the type of man that will only care about her well being if he's 100% sure he'll be getting something back?
 
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