YAGT: I am incapable of breaking up with women

[Ilmater]

Maybe "incapable" is a bit far considering that I HAVE broken up with all but one woman I've ever dated (well, I DID break up with her, but not until I found out she was cheating on me, so so I don't count it). However, I ALWAYS let relationships I'm not happy in drag on FOR MONTHS longer than I want, and it ends up sh1ttier for both of us in the long run.

Hopefully some women in here will tell me how to do this easier, but I'm with a girl right now that I'm entirely tired of, but I can't break up with her. Heck, she doesn't even live in this STATE and I can't break up with her because I feel like I'm the only one she can talk to (just moved there = no friends). She wants to try and make it work, but A) she can't live with me, B) she's not financially stable enough to move back, and C) I can't stand talking on the phone to her.

 

[acemcmac]

me too.

I think it's something she puts in the food and the sex

.....

what were we talking about?

 

[acemcmac]

oh, this is a long distance relationship? dude, that should be easy

 

[Ipno]

Just tell them you are from the future and you need to go back to your own time in the time machine that you built.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Buy a cheap fax machine & hook it up to your phone for a few weeks if she calls you on a regular phone.

You wouldn't believe how that cuts down the calls

 

[dullard]

Don't make it harder on yourself and the woman. Simply say this: "I am breaking up with you." Six words, seven syllables. You'll be done with it. Doing that is so much more simple and so much less painful than months of a bad relationship.

 

[lightweight]

Try being honest with her, that's really the best advice I can give you. Tell her that you don't want to be with her anymore. If she asks for justification, then you can tell her what you just told us. You're primary focus is to be as upfront as possible about it, which is better than being disingenious. Do NOT pull the pity trip, and feel like you need to save her. She will get over it much faster if you're honest.

Edit: beaten

 

[nakedfrog]

I defer to the wisdom of Homer Jay Simpson:
"Three words: I am gay"

 

[PingSpike]

I don't get whats so hard about it. All you have to do is stop calling them. I mean, its harder to not break up with them...because that involves picking up the phone.

 

[40Hands]

Yep I have a hard time doing that too. Just broke up with my gf last weekend. She started to sense that we were "fizzling out" I still feel bad about it but in the end it was best for the both of us.

 

[yllus]

The key is to force yourself to do it. Let out everything you dislike about her to your friends until they're saying, "Man, what a b@$*h!" along with you. At that point the peer/social pressure to get out of the relationship will be so strong that you will be impervious to the lure of staying put, even if it does mean regular sex.

Nowadays of course I just say, "It's over," and move on.

 

[733SHiFTY]

yeah man, Its not hard, just tell her how you feel

usually that works for me

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
I defer to the wisdom of Homer Jay Simpson:
"Three words: I am gay"

alternatively "crocodiles have bit off my face"

seriously, just tell her you need some time to be alone and get yourself together. "its not you, its me blah blah blah"

 

[sixone]

It's not supposed to be easy. Are you a mouse or a man?

Do you only pick GF's who have no one else to lean on? Is that the best you can do - dansels in distress? Maybe you should limit yourself to girls who want you but don't need you.

 

[torpid]

Whatever you do, don't do the girl thing, which is to invite the other person to dinner, have dinner, make the other person pay, and then break up with them.

 

[BrianH1]

It's not you, it's me.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: dullard
Don't make it harder on yourself and the woman. Simply say this: "I am breaking up with you." Six words, seven syllables. You'll be done with it. Doing that is so much more simple and so much less painful than months of a bad relationship.

Wow... that's cold.

 

[xarmian]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
I don't get whats so hard about it. All you have to do is stop calling them. I mean, its harder to not break up with them...because that involves picking up the phone.

quoted cause it's damn funny

Originally posted by: sixone
It's not supposed to be easy. Are you a mouse or a man?

Do you only pick GF's who have no one else to lean on? Is that the best you can do - dansels in distress? Maybe you should limit yourself to girls who want you but don't need you.

this is my more recent take on dating.. limit to girls who don't need you.. it's challenging but well worth it.

-Dave

 

[aidanjm]

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: yllus
The key is to force yourself to do it. Let out everything you dislike about her to your friends until they're saying, "Man, what a b@$*h!" along with you. At that point the peer/social pressure to get out of the relationship will be so strong that you will be impervious to the lure of staying put, even if it does mean regular sex.

Nowadays of course I just say, "It's over," and move on.

HAHHAAHHA! Dude, my friends were basically BEGGING me to break up with my last gf, and that was AFTER months of ridicule about her.

Peer pressure < *

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: dullard
Don't make it harder on yourself and the woman. Simply say this: "I am breaking up with you." Six words, seven syllables. You'll be done with it. Doing that is so much more simple and so much less painful than months of a bad relationship.

Wow... that's cold.

Not cold - honest. If honesty is not that important to you, then you deserve to suffer for months while you screw up some courage.

 

[tami]

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: dullard
Don't make it harder on yourself and the woman. Simply say this: "I am breaking up with you." Six words, seven syllables. You'll be done with it. Doing that is so much more simple and so much less painful than months of a bad relationship.

Wow... that's cold.

it's not really cold if you consider yourself suffering as a result of the relationship. i'd bet that she also doesn't feel like it's completely working out, and when she gets over it, she'll know it was for the best.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: sixone
It's not supposed to be easy. Are you a mouse or a man?

Do you only pick GF's who have no one else to lean on? Is that the best you can do - dansels in distress? Maybe you should limit yourself to girls who want you but don't need you.

Easy there! This is the only situation like this. My last relationship lasted 3 months longer than it should have, and she absolutely had friends to fall back on.

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Ilmater

Originally posted by: dullard
Don't make it harder on yourself and the woman. Simply say this: "I am breaking up with you." Six words, seven syllables. You'll be done with it. Doing that is so much more simple and so much less painful than months of a bad relationship.

Wow... that's cold.

Not cold - honest. If honesty is not that important to you, then you deserve to suffer for months while you screw up some courage.

I AM honest, it just takes time.

 

[sourceninja]

Step 1) find another girl for a non-serious relationship
Step 2) invite girl over for dinner
Step 3) invite girlfriend over for late dinner tell her to just come on
Step 4) have girlfriend catch you getting it on on kitchen table
Step 5) No more girlfriend, and you got laid.