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YAGT: How will I make my relationship last through college?

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Originally posted by: Ranger X
You may feel like you are in "love" now but once you're in college and while you're making new friends, your girlfriend will seem like yesterday's news.
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Can I be sure of this, though? It's hard to say that is definite. I will be interested in meeting new girls but how can I say NOW, here at home, never having been to college, that I will be guaranteed to enjoy those women more than the one I already have? That is why I am afraid to break it off before I even go to college. I don't want to ruin a good thing if it didn't have to be ruined.
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: Ranger X
You may feel like you are in "love" now but once you're in college and while you're making new friends, your girlfriend will seem like yesterday's news.
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Can I be sure of this, though? It's hard to say that is definite. I will be interested in meeting new girls but how can I say NOW, here at home, never having been to college, that I will be guaranteed to enjoy those women more than the one I already have? That is why I am afraid to break it off before I even go to college. I don't want to ruin a good thing if it didn't have to be ruined.
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Just remember that old cliche - if you really love something let it go...

 
Originally posted by: Jzero
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: Ranger X
You may feel like you are in "love" now but once you're in college and while you're making new friends, your girlfriend will seem like yesterday's news.
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Can I be sure of this, though? It's hard to say that is definite. I will be interested in meeting new girls but how can I say NOW, here at home, never having been to college, that I will be guaranteed to enjoy those women more than the one I already have? That is why I am afraid to break it off before I even go to college. I don't want to ruin a good thing if it didn't have to be ruined.
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Just remember that old cliche - if you really love something let it go...
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Is that sort of like saying...cast your treasure into the wind, and if it returns it's yours?

Meaning...we should separate and be free...and if we come back to each other, it was meant to be?

We have been talking a great deal yesterday/today and many tears have been shed. I feel like once I'm there, without her, but with lots of other girls, I will want fun, and eventually companionship that I can enjoy every day, not just a few months of the year. I think that all sounds correct, but then I look at some of the other couples I know that HAVE survived through a whole year or more apart, with one in college and one in high school, and I ask myself, how did they do that?

 
After MUCH discussion we've decided not to break up before I leave. Yes, I know, that is against the opinion of many here.

The thing is, when I first go there, before I know anybody or meet anybody, am I actually going to WANT to replace her? No. Am I actually going to WANT to get some p00n and lose my girlfriend because of it? No. That is why we can't do it before we leave. We can't make ourselves just because we don't *think* it's going to work.

After that, time will only tell. Perhaps I won't be overly interested in most of the people I encounter, and perhaps I'll talk to my girlfriend enough and see her enough to keep things strong.

On the other hand, maybe my feelings for her will fade and I'll want to get something started with someone on campus. If so, then THAT'S when we'll break up, not a day sooner.
 
arch, dont you know by now that your best interest is not taken into consideration by the general ATOT community? don't listen to these dumbasses that tells you to break up. they live off of secretly ruining your life so you can join them in their miserable little world.
 
Well, I try to listen to all opinions with an open mind. I surely don't listen strictly to everything I read, but at the same time I do at least consider it when deciding things myself.
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
Originally posted by: Yossarian
Originally posted by: archcommus
The thing is, I know that if I cheated on her and ended it, I would be miserable thereafter, because she is such a major portion of my life and I can't picture functioning without her.
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you should try picture her smoking massive pole, because that's what she'll be doing freshman year. sorry but it's true.
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Well that's still a year away. For now we're talking about ME in college and HER in high school.
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well in that case, you should picture yourself smoking massive pole, and imagine her reaction.
 
Originally posted by: xXped0thugXx
Originally posted by: KLin
You'll be broken up within a month.
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exactly, stop being so sensitive. There is a ton of better girls in college.
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Oh wait...I forgot that you know exactly how my girlfriend is and you know that there are lots of better ones. :roll:

 
Hey, you should have just listened to me. I was being serious.

Don't you know I'm the end-all-be-all of advice?!?! 😛
 
Don't bother. Ditch her now.......

You will run across TONS of hotties in college. Part ways now so you both don't do some you regret later.

 
you wont.i dated a girl for two years before we both went to college, and then a year into college.
we both screwed around on each other.the relationship fell apart.
more trouble than its worth unless she means everything to you.
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
So I've been dating a girl now for almost two years. Am I allowed to say I love the girl when I'm only 18 years old? I want to.

She is 10 months younger than me, I'm going to college in the fall, she will be a senior in high school. My college is only an hour away BUT I will not have a car my freshman year.

So do you think it'll be rough? Is it possible to make it last? I'm being extremely discouraged by all the asses I'm surrouded by who say you'll be broken up within a month. I don't think they realize how upsetting that is to me when they mention that and say how likely it is.

What do you think, is it possible? Or completely unheard of?
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it's possible but I had the same situation as you (her senior in HS, me frosh at college, hour drive between us, going out almost 2 years) and it didn't even last a full semester. Just too hard and both of us figured out quickly we just weren't ready for that kind've commitment. I'm not in favor of it but one of my housemates dated his HS g/f all the way through college (him in NY, her in Boston) and are still together so anythings possible.
 
Not unheard of. Definitely doable. Based upon the statistics, however, I give your chances of remaining together about 5-10%.
I said I need to go feeling open and free, so I can meet new girls, go on dates if I want, etc. She understood and realized that she'd want to do the same thing when she goes to college.
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Oh, now having read that I think 1-2% is about as good as it gets. Forget her now, you won't make it.
 
Originally posted by: archcommus
So I've been dating a girl now for almost two years. Am I allowed to say I love the girl when I'm only 18 years old? I want to.

She is 10 months younger than me, I'm going to college in the fall, she will be a senior in high school. My college is only an hour away BUT I will not have a car my freshman year.

So do you think it'll be rough? Is it possible to make it last? I'm being extremely discouraged by all the asses I'm surrouded by who say you'll be broken up within a month. I don't think they realize how upsetting that is to me when they mention that and say how likely it is.

What do you think, is it possible? Or completely unheard of?
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Meh.... ignore the nay sayers... it has and can happen that people end up with their high school sweethearts for the rest of their life quite happily. Give it a shot... communication is key. The hard part is the likelihood of staying faithful to each other in the first couple years of school is going to be very very rough. And the wondering about all those hot freshmen chicks finally out from the watchful eye of mom and dad.... yeah that wondering will eat at you.

-Max
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Not unheard of. Definitely doable. Based upon the statistics, however, I give your chances of remaining together about 5-10%.
I said I need to go feeling open and free, so I can meet new girls, go on dates if I want, etc. She understood and realized that she'd want to do the same thing when she goes to college.
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Oh, now having read that I think 1-2% is about as good as it gets. Forget her now, you won't make it.
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Don't hold that against us, our intention for a long time now has been to stay together, both of us want it to. To the poster who mentioned it, yes, she DOES mean everything to me. I only started to form the opinion that I'll want to meet other people because everyone tells me I will want to. When I really think about it, I might be seeing all the hot girls, but I don't want to date any of them and lose her as a result of it. I gave in and actually started to believe all of those who say I will want to date all the hot chicks. Then I just spend one day with her and realize that no hot chick no matter how much p00n she offered could ever replace her.

We are too huge a portion of each other's lives to break up prematurely. If my feelings change during the first semester, then okay, they do, nobody knows what's going to happen. I DO know that I can't leave her now while I still feel about her the way I do.

As it's been said, it CAN happen, but maybe it's not probable. We're not going to end things prematurely *expecting* them to end later if we don't. We will give it our best shot. I will be tempted by other girls, but all I have to ask myself is "Do I want to date her just for fun tonight, or as someone to replace Maura?" I'm almost positive that answer will always be the first choice, and that is why I won't act on it. IF our feelings happen to change after we've been apart for a few months, then we deal with that then.
 
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