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So. I was dating this girl since I got out of high school, around three years ago. However, she broke up with me around a month ago, saying that she just didn't 'feel it' anymore. However, I suspected that there was another reason behind it.
Through the entire relationship, I always felt like she loved me more than I loved her... It was pretty apparant that she cared very much about me, so I really don't know what happened towards the end. She always told me that if she broke up with me, it would take her a long time to get over 'us'. In June, the sex became sparse, like once or twice a week, and she always finished long before I did. Then, because she got a new job, we started not being together all that much, and not really being all that close when we were together.
So, around a week after we broke up, I find out that she was very attracted to some guy she met before we broke up, and that in the last few weeks of the realtionship she thought of me 'as a really good friend.' When she was with me, she was thinking of this other guy.
The next week, I talk to her about this... All I want is the truth, because I've been a wreck thinking about her breaking up with me because she was with another guy. She tells me that she's just 'friends' and she probably will not date someone for a long time.
The next day, someone in one of my classes approaches me, telling me that my ex-gf is with his friend's younger brother. He claims that they are dating, and have been together for the last week or so.
Fast foward to today. Another friend from one of my classes has done the unthinkable. Not only has she personally met my ex's new guy, and hung around them for an hour, but she's taken pictures of them, to show me. She has pictures of them lying on the coutch, holding hands, and a picture of them making out!!!!! Well, as you can imagine, now I feel like sh!t. I'm suppose to meet her later this week to talk about things. Mainly, all I want to know is if they are having sex yet. I don't know why it really matters to me, but I think actually hearing from her that they are together, and having sex, would make everything better, since the worst part is wondering.
The same friend that took the pictures says that this guy also spends every weekend living with her. She has a small room, with a double bed, which makes me think that something is happening.
Here's the real kicker: Both my GF and I are pretty intelligent. We are both 21. This guy is a exchange student from Spain who can barely speak english, and is here for the equivalent of a GED. Also, he is 18. The only thing I can see that this guy has over me is looks, which really hurts, because I will freely admit that my GF is not the best looking.. She's put on around 20 pounds in the last few years.
So, if you made it through that, what do you think?
Here's what makes it so bad. I'm taking summer classes right now, and the only people I know in the entire town are the people that have told me about what is going on. So, I'm really lonely. On the weekends I visit friends from other cities, so I'm not bored, but on the week days all I can do is sit around and think about her and this guy.
Realistically, breaking up wasn't bad. If she did not have this guy, it wouldn't be a big deal. But, the fact that she moved on so quickly really hurts.
Thoughts?
UPDATE 7/26/2006
Well, I just hung out with her for around four hours. We went swimming by ourselves. I think it may have been ackward for her, but it wasn't so much for me. I asked her about the guy who she was hanging out with now, and got confirmation about a lot of stuff that I had heard. I didn't however figure out if they were having sex, but I don't think finding out is as important as it was when I wrote the OP. According to her, she is not really that 'into' this guy, but he is nice to have around as a distraction. (Fvck buddy!?)
I did, however talk to her about our relationship, and got the most honest replies I've ever had out of her. She said that she considered me "Like a really good friend" at the end of the relationship, and that she wasn't really turned on by being around me anymore. I sort of knew this already, from personal experience. A lot of times when we had sex, we would need to use lube, because the moisture just wasn't there. I think it was probably some type of psychological thing with her. I think I felt the same way, because many times when we had sex, I would not finish.
Overall, I think it was a good experience, and probably helped me get over it.
However, we are still going to this three-day concert event with her family next weekend. Her parents (not wealthy at all) bought us tickets ($100 a piece) and I would feel bad not going. I guess she has not told her parents that we broke up, so we are sleeping together in our own tent. That should be.... interesting.
So. I was dating this girl since I got out of high school, around three years ago. However, she broke up with me around a month ago, saying that she just didn't 'feel it' anymore. However, I suspected that there was another reason behind it.
Through the entire relationship, I always felt like she loved me more than I loved her... It was pretty apparant that she cared very much about me, so I really don't know what happened towards the end. She always told me that if she broke up with me, it would take her a long time to get over 'us'. In June, the sex became sparse, like once or twice a week, and she always finished long before I did. Then, because she got a new job, we started not being together all that much, and not really being all that close when we were together.
So, around a week after we broke up, I find out that she was very attracted to some guy she met before we broke up, and that in the last few weeks of the realtionship she thought of me 'as a really good friend.' When she was with me, she was thinking of this other guy.
The next week, I talk to her about this... All I want is the truth, because I've been a wreck thinking about her breaking up with me because she was with another guy. She tells me that she's just 'friends' and she probably will not date someone for a long time.
The next day, someone in one of my classes approaches me, telling me that my ex-gf is with his friend's younger brother. He claims that they are dating, and have been together for the last week or so.
Fast foward to today. Another friend from one of my classes has done the unthinkable. Not only has she personally met my ex's new guy, and hung around them for an hour, but she's taken pictures of them, to show me. She has pictures of them lying on the coutch, holding hands, and a picture of them making out!!!!! Well, as you can imagine, now I feel like sh!t. I'm suppose to meet her later this week to talk about things. Mainly, all I want to know is if they are having sex yet. I don't know why it really matters to me, but I think actually hearing from her that they are together, and having sex, would make everything better, since the worst part is wondering.
The same friend that took the pictures says that this guy also spends every weekend living with her. She has a small room, with a double bed, which makes me think that something is happening.
Here's the real kicker: Both my GF and I are pretty intelligent. We are both 21. This guy is a exchange student from Spain who can barely speak english, and is here for the equivalent of a GED. Also, he is 18. The only thing I can see that this guy has over me is looks, which really hurts, because I will freely admit that my GF is not the best looking.. She's put on around 20 pounds in the last few years.
So, if you made it through that, what do you think?
Here's what makes it so bad. I'm taking summer classes right now, and the only people I know in the entire town are the people that have told me about what is going on. So, I'm really lonely. On the weekends I visit friends from other cities, so I'm not bored, but on the week days all I can do is sit around and think about her and this guy.
Realistically, breaking up wasn't bad. If she did not have this guy, it wouldn't be a big deal. But, the fact that she moved on so quickly really hurts.
Thoughts?
UPDATE 7/26/2006
Well, I just hung out with her for around four hours. We went swimming by ourselves. I think it may have been ackward for her, but it wasn't so much for me. I asked her about the guy who she was hanging out with now, and got confirmation about a lot of stuff that I had heard. I didn't however figure out if they were having sex, but I don't think finding out is as important as it was when I wrote the OP. According to her, she is not really that 'into' this guy, but he is nice to have around as a distraction. (Fvck buddy!?)
I did, however talk to her about our relationship, and got the most honest replies I've ever had out of her. She said that she considered me "Like a really good friend" at the end of the relationship, and that she wasn't really turned on by being around me anymore. I sort of knew this already, from personal experience. A lot of times when we had sex, we would need to use lube, because the moisture just wasn't there. I think it was probably some type of psychological thing with her. I think I felt the same way, because many times when we had sex, I would not finish.
Overall, I think it was a good experience, and probably helped me get over it.
However, we are still going to this three-day concert event with her family next weekend. Her parents (not wealthy at all) bought us tickets ($100 a piece) and I would feel bad not going. I guess she has not told her parents that we broke up, so we are sleeping together in our own tent. That should be.... interesting.
Either way, probably best to just try and move on, as difficult as that could be.
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