YAGT: How long to wait after initial call or email

[tontod]

I played mixed doubles tennis last Saturday. It was a round robin setup, 10 guys, 10 girls. A person plays with a member of the opposite sex for 30 minutes, then switch. So, there were 5 of these 30 minute sessions. I kinda sucked since I havent played all winter, but in the last 30 minute session I played pretty good. Afterwards, all of us went to the Sheraton and had appetizers. It was organized by Boston Ski and Sports Club. So it was tennis and appetizers that was part of the deal. So, at the Sheraton I did a lot of small talk and got a phone number from one girl and an email address from another girl. It was pretty easy to get it - said I wanted to play tennis, was looking for people to play tennis with - which is true, but also wanted to go out on a date.

I sent the email yesterday to the girl and I called the other girl earlier today and left a message. Neither have responded yet. Now, I'm thinking the 3 day rule applies? Wait till Thursday for the email reply and Friday for the other girl to call back? I'm guessing I'll email and call just once more and if I still dont hear anything, I'll drop the whole thing.


Cliffs:
1) Played mixed doubles tennis
2) Afterwards everyone met at Sheraton over appetizers
3) Got a phone number from one girl and email from another
4) Called the girl yesterday and emailed the other one today
5) No response yet, how long to wait before I sent another email or call?

Oh, and no pics, sorry.

 

[ColdFusion718]

You've already tossed the ball into their court. They got your email if it wasn't bounced back to you. I would just leave it at that. If you email a second time, it will spell desperation.

 

[spidey07]

1) if you get contact info, call the next day to setup date. Have date already planned on what you are doing, when/where/what.

and no pussyfooting around man.

email is kind crappy - you lead them, not the other way around.

how long to wait? 2 days and then another contact. no response...move on. they have your info.

-edit-
And you don't toss the ball into their court. It is your ball. It always is your ball but you never toss it to a girl and say "hi, wanna play?"

as I look at my sig.

make them chase you, not the other way around.

 

[tontod]

When they call back, I'm going to set something up. About the email - if she starts corresponding, I'm going to get her number.

 

[Vinfinite]

you have to wait for a call/email back, otherwise you're fvcked

 

[Azurik]

The OP works for the same company I do, and in the same building. He showed me pics of said girls yesterday, while they were playing "tennis". The pics are somewhat NSFW though, should the OP post?

 

[Doctorweir]

1) Which one is hotter => post said pics...why not NSFW? Regular tennis, right.......?
2) Do the girls know each other? => If yes, you are fvcked

 

[j00fek]

:camera: who cares about nsfw

 

[GeneValgene]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
You've already tossed the ball into their court. They got your email if it wasn't bounced back to you. I would just leave it at that. If you email a second time, it will spell desperation.

 

[gigapet]

repost

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview...atid=38&threadid=1842738&enterthread=y



Answer: they are 1) busy or 2) don't like you like that

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: tontod
I played mixed doubles tennis last Saturday. It was a round robin setup, 10 guys, 10 girls. A person plays with a member of the opposite sex for 30 minutes, then switch. So, there were 5 of these 30 minute sessions. I kinda sucked since I havent played all winter, but in the last 30 minute session I played pretty good. Afterwards, all of us went to the Sheraton and had appetizers. It was organized by Boston Ski and Sports Club. So it was tennis and appetizers that was part of the deal. So, at the Sheraton I did a lot of small talk and got a phone number from one girl and an email address from another girl. It was pretty easy to get it - said I wanted to play tennis, was looking for people to play tennis with - which is true, but also wanted to go out on a date.

I sent the email yesterday to the girl and I called the other girl earlier today and left a message. Neither have responded yet. Now, I'm thinking the 3 day rule applies? Wait till Thursday for the email reply and Friday for the other girl to call back? I'm guessing I'll email and call just once more and if I still dont hear anything, I'll drop the whole thing.


Cliffs:
1) Played mixed doubles tennis
2) Afterwards everyone met at Sheraton over appetizers
3) Got a phone number from one girl and email from another
4) Called the girl yesterday and emailed the other one today
5) No response yet, how long to wait before I sent another email or call?

Oh, and no pics, sorry.

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

 

[Azurik]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: tontod
I played mixed doubles tennis last Saturday. It was a round robin setup, 10 guys, 10 girls. A person plays with a member of the opposite sex for 30 minutes, then switch. So, there were 5 of these 30 minute sessions. I kinda sucked since I havent played all winter, but in the last 30 minute session I played pretty good. Afterwards, all of us went to the Sheraton and had appetizers. It was organized by Boston Ski and Sports Club. So it was tennis and appetizers that was part of the deal. So, at the Sheraton I did a lot of small talk and got a phone number from one girl and an email address from another girl. It was pretty easy to get it - said I wanted to play tennis, was looking for people to play tennis with - which is true, but also wanted to go out on a date.

I sent the email yesterday to the girl and I called the other girl earlier today and left a message. Neither have responded yet. Now, I'm thinking the 3 day rule applies? Wait till Thursday for the email reply and Friday for the other girl to call back? I'm guessing I'll email and call just once more and if I still dont hear anything, I'll drop the whole thing.


Cliffs:
1) Played mixed doubles tennis
2) Afterwards everyone met at Sheraton over appetizers
3) Got a phone number from one girl and email from another
4) Called the girl yesterday and emailed the other one today
5) No response yet, how long to wait before I sent another email or call?

Oh, and no pics, sorry.

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

seconded

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

True, if you got her number under the pretext of setting up another tennis match and then you called her the next day asking for a date, she might think it's kind of creepy.

 

[Adica]

Definetely just wait till they contact you, otherwise you may seem desperate. You made the 1st move, now the ball is in their court.

 

[Rapidskies]

You have to ask yourself DO YOU LOVE HER and if the answer is YES then you have to do anything in your power for her. Don't let anything stand in your way, that's my filosophy on life and it has gotten me where I am today, a MANAGER of a MAJOR restaurant. When you and your bethrothed are 90 and looking back on your lives she will appreciate your persistance and tacticity. Carpet Diem!

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: Rapidskies
You have to ask yourself DO YOU LOVE HER and if the answer is YES then you have to do anything in your power for her. Don't let anything stand in your way, that's my filosophy on life and it has gotten me where I am today, a MANAGER of a MAJOR restaurant. When you and your bethrothed are 90 and looking back on your lives she will appreciate your persistance and tacticity. Carpet Diem!

<---taps sarcasm meter

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: Rapidskies
You have to ask yourself DO YOU LOVE HER and if the answer is YES then you have to do anything in your power for her. Don't let anything stand in your way, that's my filosophy on life and it has gotten me where I am today, a MANAGER of a MAJOR restaurant. When you and your bethrothed are 90 and looking back on your lives she will appreciate your persistance and tacticity. Carpet Diem!

<---taps sarcasm meter

Yeah mine's a little fuzzy on that one too...

 

[tontod]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: gigapet

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

True, if you got her number under the pretext of setting up another tennis match and then you called her the next day asking for a date, she might think it's kind of creepy.

Dont want to cut and paste the exact words, but I didnt ask for a date. I called a couple of days later, just said I had a fun time playing tennis that evening, was nice to meet her and to give me a call when she got a chance. I was thinking if she called back that I would try to set up a tennis match, and then maybe just eat something afterwards. If that went well, then I might try to set up a date. Still waiting for that phone call or email reply, nothing yet, not looking too good, oh well.

 

[spidey07]

So c-ll her -nd set something up.

Some women don't c-ll m-n. 3 strike rule is in effect.

 

[imported_Pablo]

CARPET DIEM! CARPET DIEM! PROPOSE!

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: tontod

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: gigapet

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

True, if you got her number under the pretext of setting up another tennis match and then you called her the next day asking for a date, she might think it's kind of creepy.

Dont want to cut and paste the exact words, but I didnt ask for a date. I called a couple of days later, just said I had a fun time playing tennis that evening, was nice to meet her and to give me a call when she got a chance. I was thinking if she called back that I would try to set up a tennis match, and then maybe just eat something afterwards. If that went well, then I might try to set up a date. Still waiting for that phone call or email reply, nothing yet, not looking too good, oh well.

well we can't help u improve without a transcript of the email. as far as the voicemail......i wouldnt have even left a message if thats all you were going to say.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
You've already tossed the ball into their court. They got your email if it wasn't bounced back to you. I would just leave it at that. If you email a second time, it will spell desperation.

QFT.

 

[lightpants]

"Desperation is a stinky cologne, John"

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

A person plays with a member of the opposite sex for 30 minutes, then switch. So, there were 5 of these 30 minute sessions. I kinda sucked since I havent played all winter, but in the last 30 minute session I played pretty good. Afterwards, all of us went to the Sheraton and had...

heh heh heh...

lightpants... Super Troopers FTW!

 

[tontod]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: tontod

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: gigapet

Also Please insert transcript of th eemail you sent and a synopsis of the VM you left please. We need the full disclosure to properly diagnose this situation.

True, if you got her number under the pretext of setting up another tennis match and then you called her the next day asking for a date, she might think it's kind of creepy.

Dont want to cut and paste the exact words, but I didnt ask for a date. I called a couple of days later, just said I had a fun time playing tennis that evening, was nice to meet her and to give me a call when she got a chance. I was thinking if she called back that I would try to set up a tennis match, and then maybe just eat something afterwards. If that went well, then I might try to set up a date. Still waiting for that phone call or email reply, nothing yet, not looking too good, oh well.

well we can't help u improve without a transcript of the email. as far as the voicemail......i wouldnt have even left a message if thats all you were going to say.

I just wanted to get a dialogue going before asking her out. Figured that might be better than asking her out over email. If she had replied, then I would have taken things further.

The phone message was similar - no response from that either. I wasnt going to ask her out on voicemail. I was expecting her to call back, if she did I was going to suggest tennis and get something to eat afterwards.