YAGT: Having some SERIOUS relationship issues, maybe it is just me? I dont know please chime in.

[tooltime]

remove the emotion and you'll see things clearly...yeah, easy to say huh

but really, try talking to someone not involved like a friend

it's hard when your so close to this kind of issue

 

[Delbert]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I haven't read the whole thread, I admit, but what doesn't make sense to me is why you were searching for "VT hotties" or whatever to begin with. Why would you want to meet women?

See...Lots of women view men looking at porn differently than men do. It?s one of those women are from Venus things. To us it?s like watching sports, reading sci-fiction or whatever?no big deal. They feel all hurt as if we were actually having sex with the girls in the pics. I don?t get it either, but she is not uncommon. I do wish they were less sensitive to it.

 

[DukeN]

She's a bit immature IMO - give her time - does she like live in a protective/enclosed environment?

 

[IonYou]

Originally posted by: Muadib

Originally posted by: Ornery
...she's open to change...

People don't change. They may change habits & appearance, but short of some type of brain damage, their personalities stay the same FOREVER!

I gotta disagree with this because I've known quite a few people with low self esteem who have turn thing around for themselves. I've known addicts who are now clean, and who are now good upstanding people. I went to school with a guy who was homeless for 2 years who became a millionaire. People can change. It's not easy, but it's very possible.

People can and sometimes do change. But here's the catch: only when they are ready to and want to. Some people choose to never change, that doesn't mean no one can.

To the OP I would put off the wedding until these issues are resolved. Maybe it's just pre wedding jitters that are a contributing factor? Even still counselling and even putting off the wedding may be necessary. You can get through this, you don't have to drop her like a hot potato as some have suggested, but FFS don't stick your head in the sand and pretend it was nothing even if she forgives you and then says it's ok. You both need to deal with it together, or split one or the other.

 

[IonYou]

Originally posted by: mrrman
I find that women find the mosts stupidist things in the simplist form...and what is worst they never forget. I find counselling useless from my own experience..they want you to answer each question repeating the question. I told them to stick it and walked out. Women I find are also jealous and want to control men feelings and thoughts. Thats my 2 c worth...imagine if you got married and she was still like this, I would rather be single. She has to get her insecurities in check or its just going to get worse.

They probably asked you the same questions over and over to get you to open up to what your underlying problem was. A lot of people suppress their problems and don't want to deal with them. The fact that you walked out tells me you might have given up too soon.

 

[petejk]

you will get divorced



sorry...she can't handle something small like this...just wait till "real issues" come your way


GOOD LUCK


-petro

 

[m316foley]

If you care about her, just apologize. Pick and choose your battles and this one doesn't sound like one that really needs fighting. Now, if you guys argue over other small things, then you may want to seek counseling if you both care about each other.

Just my $0.02