YAGT: Going after a girl with a bf? *UPDATE 4*

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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
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Originally posted by: PingSpike
So what? He's acknowledged that will most likely happen, and says he doesn't care.

These tests will always come, you cannot personally go around and beat up every guy your girlfriend might have sex with if given the chance, it would be a full time job. If the girl cheats on you, consider it a bullet that you dodged and move on.

Marriages don't break up because some dillhole tries to horn in on them. The cheating only happens if some one lets it. And they only let it if they don't care.

I completely agree. However, that doesn't mean I have to endorse or stand idly by when someone asks for advice on whether he should be a dillhole or not.
 

DougK62

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Originally posted by: Pacfanweb
My unstated point was that if she doesn't want another guy then it's a non-issue. If you have a nice-looking girl and you're not married or engaged, then she's likely to be asked out from time to time. And she should politely decline, while telling the guy she's happily involved with someone already.
I'd take that as a compliment that other guys are interested in my woman.
If she shows interest or leads the other guy on, that's when you have a problem, and kicking the other guy's ass won't solve it, either.

I REALLY wish people would read and understand this. It's SOOOOO true.

If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

 

JulesMaximus

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I'm of the opinion that you should go for it! If her current BF wasn't such a tool you wouldn't stand a chance. Obviously, she's not getting what she wants in her current relationship so go for it!

Good luck! :D

Edit-Don't listen to these whiny b!tches saying you're breaking some unwritten 'man code'. They are the sore losers guys like you are stealing their womens from. :D
 

Sex Smurf

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I wish you would have just done it first, then tell us about it instead of wasting all of our time.
 

gigapet

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: gigapet
the more I reread it the more ambiguous it becomes. what is your poiint again?

Sigh. The attitude too many people seem to have today is that a ring or a piece of paper that entitles two people to file their taxes jointly somehow fixes every problem in a relationship or prevents new problems from rising. The attitude also seems to include the idea that if there's no ring on her finger, she's somehow fair game like she's some kind of target and incapable of being committed to anyone or anything (such as a spouse with a magical ring).

Please don't tell me that I have to keep explaining this. If you don't understand this, I really hope you're not married and don't have plans to be any time soon.

Ok thats clear.

and like it has been stated previously....females are targets and hot females tend to be targets ring or not. If she is truly comitted it is a non issue when she gets hit on. end of story.
 

NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
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Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.
 

ondarkness

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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.


Nik is right,
Just like it takes two people to lie.
One to lie, and one to listen.

 

BD2003

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God damn youre a douchebag.

Ill be honest with you...you can try, but youll fail if you do. The fact that you even have to ask the question means you dont have the balls and confidence to pull it through. If I remember correctly, arent you one of those clueless "I cant get a girl no matter what I do" constant YAGTers?

If youre still in the phase where you have to consider when its appropriate to let her know you like a certain girl like youre in high school, then youre absolutely not in a position to steal another guys girl. He could likely do it to you, but not vice versa. And when you say things like "If I got to spend a year with a hot chick then, well, sweet!", that shows how inexperienced and desperate you are, and why you could never pull it off. Cause by saying that, you know that its something you don't deserve.

I can guarantee you if you try, that youll end up as a funny story she tells to her friends. Especially if you ask her to the zoo! Other men, maybe. But you, you need to wait until she breaks up with her man, before you have a chance.

And itd just be being a dick. Maybe not completely ethically WRONG in the strictest sense, but undeniably a dick move. And whilst it would also be morally and ethically WRONG for him to beat your ass, I can guarantee you he most definitely will, wrong or not. And she is not going to want you after her BF takes you out, for sure.
 

dug777

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Originally posted by: ondarkness
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: chrisms
If you think you can kick the guy's ass... do it. If you can't, stay away. Most people I know would get real pissed about someone trying to do this

:beer:

king hits would be handed out :|


Bump for King Hits!

:beer: but i think the term isn't used much round here :(
 
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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.

i'm with nik on this one. it is the guys fault just as much as the girls. UNLESS(very rare) she just finds random guy and rapes him. then it's just the "whore of a womans" fault.

like i said before, if i was in the situation and knew i could whoop the other guy i would kick his ass so hard he could wear it as a hat. then dump the girl.

if he's bigger, well friends and or baseball bat.
 

Sex Smurf

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Originally posted by: DP
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.

i'm with nik on this one. it is the guys fault just as much as the girls. UNLESS(very rare) she just finds random guy and rapes him. then it's just the "whore of a womans" fault.

like i said before, if i was in the situation and knew i could whoop the other guy i would kick his ass so hard he could wear it as a hat. then dump the girl.

if he's bigger, well friends and or baseball bat.

No chick that you aren't committed to is worth fighting over.
 

DougK62

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Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

 

gigapet

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Originally posted by: DP
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.

i'm with nik on this one. it is the guys fault just as much as the girls. UNLESS(very rare) she just finds random guy and rapes him. then it's just the "whore of a womans" fault.

like i said before, if i was in the situation and knew i could whoop the other guy i would kick his ass so hard he could wear it as a hat. then dump the girl.

if he's bigger, well friends and or baseball bat.

120% internet tough guy.... watch out.
 

azazyel

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Originally posted by: Jzero
Originally posted by: azazyel
Originally posted by: Jzero
Until you're married you have not made such a commitment.

That's the whole POINT of getting married. I dated a bunch of girls. I only married one. The other girls I bailed on when they pissed me off. My wife I'll stick with no matter what.

I would disagree with that. I don't see how signing a piece a paper matters at all. I am quite committed to my g/f of 7 years and I wouldn't dream of failing in that commitment. To me marriage is something you do when you want to start a family not something you do to make sure your partner doesn't cheat on you.

I dated a number of girls for 2+ years. There's a difference between dating some girl and dating some girl you know you want to marry.

There is a difference between 2 years and 7 as well.

In either case, however, NO ONE has made any actual commitment and either party is free to walk away at any time.

How can you possibly say that no one has made an actual commitment? If you need to stand in front of people and go through some ritualistic actions to secure your commitment I would say you didn't have that strong of one in the first place.

It is one thing and one thing only - a commitment made before the government, your families and (if you believe in that kind of thing) God that you are going to remain faithful and committed to this one person for the rest of your life.

That's so friggen cute. The government can kiss my arse and get out of my personal life. My family and friends are of no concern when it come to who I love and who I choose to be with. And god, well I while I am a religious person I don't think that god is all that crazy for ceremony.

Get back to me after you get married and maybe you'll get it.

Don't plan on it anytime soon. I trust in my partner enough not to need a contract.
 

NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
No chick that you aren't committed to (or who isn't committed to you) is worth fighting over.

I really hope through all the posts, this stands out and rings out loud and clear. Also, fixed.
 

chrisms

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Mar 9, 2003
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Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

Yes. The decision isn't mine or yours. You should always be prepared for this, and if you don't think you can take him you should stay away.
 

dug777

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

Yes. The decision isn't mine or yours. You should always be prepared for this, and if you don't think you can take him you should stay away.

you'd get a king hit from me if you tried anything ;)
 

gigapet

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Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

I am getting the sense that is the age group replying here.

If I am with a girl and she cheats or leaves me....not much i could do about it as it was probably my fault. The new guy was obviously fulfilling some need which I could not or chose not to fulfill which in the strictest survival sense is totally reasonable for her to be persuaded by.

These kids on here have trouble realizing that they are the ones not man enough if it happens.

 

DougK62

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Originally posted by: DP
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DougK62
If you're in a relationship with a woman and she cheats on you it is NOT the guys fault! It is the whore of a woman that you're with that's to blame.

As stated earlier, it takes two to tango. However, it must be determined whether he knew she was involved with someone else or not. Either way, it's not going to change the end result, it's just going to change whether you feel badly for the poor bastard because he doesn't know what he's getting himself into or whether you loathe him just as much as you hate her.

i'm with nik on this one. it is the guys fault just as much as the girls. UNLESS(very rare) she just finds random guy and rapes him. then it's just the "whore of a womans" fault.

like i said before, if i was in the situation and knew i could whoop the other guy i would kick his ass so hard he could wear it as a hat. then dump the girl.

if he's bigger, well friends and or baseball bat.

No way is it the guy's fault just as much as the girl's. If that were the case, then you could take the guy out of the equation and the relationship would just be fine and dandy. That's just not true. If a girl would cheat with another guy then the relationship is already fvcked up and she'll just find a different guy. It's at LEAST mostly the girl's fault - and in my mind it's 100% her fault.

 

chrisms

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Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

Yes. The decision isn't mine or yours. You should always be prepared for this, and if you don't think you can take him you should stay away.

you'd get a king hit from me if you tried anything ;)


I don't get it...

But I am not one to start fights over this crap. I'm just saying a lot of people do so you should be prepared, I've known a couple people who got themselves into a situation where they faced an ass kicking and it isn't fun.
 

gigapet

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Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

Yes. The decision isn't mine or yours. You should always be prepared for this, and if you don't think you can take him you should stay away.

you'd get a king hit from me if you tried anything ;)

in america king hits get you jail time.
 

GoingUp

Lifer
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Well remember that if she leaves him for you, shell probably leave you for someone else.
 

KidViciou$

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NO MAN! DO NOT MAKE A MOVE YET!!!

what you gotta do is infilitrate their relationship, by becoming really good friends with her. i'm currently in the same situation, and my moves seem to be payin off!
 

dug777

Lifer
Oct 13, 2004
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Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: DougK62
Do people really "beat up" guys that try to "steal their girl"? How old are you guys? 15-16?

Yes. The decision isn't mine or yours. You should always be prepared for this, and if you don't think you can take him you should stay away.

you'd get a king hit from me if you tried anything ;)

in america king hits get you jail time.

which was what my thread was all about :(
 

NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: DougK62
No way is it the guy's fault just as much as the girl's. If that were the case, then you could take the guy out of the equation and the relationship would just be fine and dandy.

Uh, no. Because it's partly her fault, and she's still in the picture, there would still be a problem. If a guy knows she's taken and pushes her to become unfaithful, he's somehow magically completely innocent??

Why's this so hard to understand? :confused: