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YAGT: Girlfriend has cancer

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I just got off the phone with my grandpa, who is a specialist in all kinds of cancer. He's telling me she doesn't even have ovarian cancer most likely. He's saying she is too young to get it, and that it is most likely a benign tumor that she has on or in the ovary. I don't know he kept telling me she has nothing to worry about.
 
Don't leave her now man, you can make it through this. It's probably curable. Just imagine what it's gotta be like for her to have to go through this alone.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
I just got off the phone with my grandpa, who is a specialist in all kinds of cancer. He's telling me she doesn't even have ovarian cancer most likely. He's saying she is too young to get it, and that it is most likely a benign tumor that she has on or in the ovary. I don't know he kept telling me she has nothing to worry about.
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Yeah, but unless he is the one treating her, how can he be certain?

 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

She is calling things off because she just doesn't feel like she will have the time or energy to be in a committed relationship. She's going to have to go through extensive testing, and surgery I assume. I didn't question or even challenge her decision, I think it's time for me to move on (though i'm sure we'll still be close friends).
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That is really stupid. In times like this, it's best to have a stable person who loves you. Now isn't the time to start/stop relationships. If there's ever a time that a girl would want a caring boyfriend, it would be a time like this.
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please, everyone read the whole thread before posting. it took me a whole 5-10 minutes to realize what a gigantic idiot I was, i literally called her within 10 minutes.
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Just EDIT the OP with updates.

Best of luck to you.

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Originally posted by: Muadib
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
I just got off the phone with my grandpa, who is a specialist in all kinds of cancer. He's telling me she doesn't even have ovarian cancer most likely. He's saying she is too young to get it, and that it is most likely a benign tumor that she has on or in the ovary. I don't know he kept telling me she has nothing to worry about.
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Yeah, but unless he is the one treating her, how can he be certain?
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Well he is a radiologist, and he's been studying cancer his whole life so I guess that has to count for something. I really don't know though, but he wants to see her cell counts and information, and then he can make a better assessment.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Originally posted by: daveymark
obviously you two arent as close as you thought you were, which is why she's breaking up with you. Time to move on. It's also possible she could be making it up so you would end up being more accepting of the fact that she's banging the outlaw biker. Be sure to keep in touch, visit her at the hospital, etc. I get the feeling she might be "cured" as soon as she never talks to you again though...I could be wrong about all this, but then again, I could be right.
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Making up ovarian cancer? Thats a little low. She'd have to be a grade A bitch to do that. :|

Sudheer PM'd me and it seems real from what he told me. By the way Sudheer, YGPM
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I never thought posting on here would actually help, but thanks to everyone who told me to stand by her and not to leave. I realized that I'm still deeply in love with her, and leaving her when she needs me the most would be a decision I would regret for the rest of my life. After she got home, she immediately contacted me, and at first she tried to convince me that things were going to be brutal and that it was best for us both to not be together. But I held my ground and told her I wasn't going anywhere, and she finally let down her guard and broke down crying. We both agreed that we need each other now more than ever, and that either of us leaving wouldn't solve anything or make anything better.
Marty I'm really scared for her though. She mentioned death as if it was a real possibility and that literally sent shockwaves through my body. They did catch this thing pretty early on, so I'm praying her chances of survival are good.
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Well, just know that they caught her's earlier than they caught my sister's... Keep positive.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
I know this is the last place to be looking for relationship advice or help, but I really need a pick me up today. I just found out my girlfriend has ovarian cancer. I don't even think the reality of it all has hit me yet. And to think I was getting mad at her today for not calling me back. I just feel so bad for her, with all that she's gone through in her life, she can never catch a break.

I didn't even have to ask about the status of our relationship, I've accepted the fact that it is definitely over for now. Right now I'm just so bummed out for her, and what she must be going through. Life really sucks sometimes.
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Why is your relationship over ? because she's sick and will be needing help ?
 
I talked to her today for a few hours, and understandably she didn't really want to talk about anything related to her health. All she said was there just wasn't enough information to determine what she has.

The relationship is NOT over, she was trying to end it to protect me, because if she does indeed have cancer the next few months are not going to be pleasant. She's got a very tough outer shell because of what she has gone through in her life, but deep down all she wants right now is love and support. Leaving her right now would be a mistake I would regret for the rest of my life. Even if we can't be romantically involved, I will always be there for her as a friend.
 
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
I talked to her today for a few hours, and understandably she didn't really want to talk about anything related to her health. All she said was there just wasn't enough information to determine what she has.

The relationship is NOT over, she was trying to end it to protect me, because if she does indeed have cancer the next few months are not going to be pleasant. She's got a very tough outer shell because of what she has gone through in her life, but deep down all she wants right now is love and support. Leaving her right now would be a mistake I would regret for the rest of my life. Even if we can't be romantically involved, I will always be there for her as a friend.
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:thumbsup:
Kudos to you for staying by her side.
 
Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne
I talked to her today for a few hours, and understandably she didn't really want to talk about anything related to her health. All she said was there just wasn't enough information to determine what she has.

The relationship is NOT over, she was trying to end it to protect me, because if she does indeed have cancer the next few months are not going to be pleasant. She's got a very tough outer shell because of what she has gone through in her life, but deep down all she wants right now is love and support. Leaving her right now would be a mistake I would regret for the rest of my life. Even if we can't be romantically involved, I will always be there for her as a friend.
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:thumbsup:
Kudos to you for staying by her side.
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that's the problem with love marty. When you really love someone, you don't have a choice.
 
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