YAGT: Girl I dont know that well, should I ask her out?

[skywalker66]

Hey, there's this girl that I don't know that well,
I created a long thread about her awhile back, I guess the bottom line is that I am attracted to her, and am wondering if I should ask her out.

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1138213&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=

You see, I met her a year ago at this job I used to work at Dairy Queen, only talked to her for a little bit, (only had 3 shifts with her) but she's like the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen.

now I found out I go to the same college as her and I've bumped into her a few times and said hi, and have talked to her for a little bit.

I just really want to ask her out, but I dont want to blow it, I dont want to scare her and get rejected, or i dont want to create an awkward situation.

Plus I dont know how to ask her out. i havent talked to her long enough to get a number or nothing, she usually keeps conversations short, so the only time I can really ask her is if I bump into her in the halls, and thats hard to do if she has friends with her or something, or if shes walking someplace, i mean for me just to walk up, jump in, start talking to her, and ask her out?
I dunno, it seems a little iffy. She's also really Christian, which is another thing that draws me to her, so I don't know how well she'd take it if I just asked her out, what if she thought I was mackin on her or something?

Plus the other thing is that she has already been going to this college for a year, (while this is my first year) I dont even know if she has a boyfriend or something kinda like that, or not.
Is it safe to ask a girl out if you dont know whether she has a boyfriend or not, or should I figure that out first?

I guess I could fake like I'm just trying to ask her out as a friends thing, but honestly I really am into her, I swear it was like love at first site. If I asked her out, I'd be doing it more for the sake of a date, not just for friends to hang together.
I mean, I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER BETTER, I want to know if my instincts are right!
But at the same time I don't want to scare her, because honestly I have really been obsessed about her, and I dont want her to see that and have it scare her off.

What do i do?

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
Hey, there's this girl that I don't know that well,
I created a long thread about her awhile back, I guess the bottom line is that I am attracted to her, and am wondering if I should ask her out.

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1138213&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=

You see, I met her a year ago at this job I used to work at Dairy Queen, only talked to her for a little bit, (only had 3 shifts with her) but she's like the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen.

now I found out I go to the same college as her and I've bumped into her a few times and said hi, and have talked to her for a little bit.

I just really want to ask her out, but I dont want to blow it, I dont want to scare her and get rejected, or i dont want to create an awkward situation.

Plus I dont know how to ask her out. i havent talked to her long enough to get a number or nothing, she usually keeps conversations short, so the only time I can really ask her is if I bump into her in the halls, and thats hard to do if she has friends with her or something, or if shes walking someplace, i mean for me just to walk up, jump in, start talking to her, and ask her out?
I dunno, it seems a little iffy. She's also really Christian, which is another thing that draws me to her, so I don't know how well she'd take it if I just asked her out, what if she thought I was mackin on her or something?

Plus the other thing is that she has already been going to this college for a year, (while this is my first year) I dont even know if she has a boyfriend or something kinda like that, or not.
Is it safe to ask a girl out if you dont know whether she has a boyfriend or not, or should I figure that out first?

I guess I could fake like I'm just trying to ask her out as a friends thing, but honestly I really am into her, I swear it was like love at first site. If I asked her out, I'd be doing it more for the sake of a date, not just for friends to hang together.
I mean, I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER BETTER, I want to know if my instincts are right!
But at the same time I don't want to scare her, because honestly I have really been obsessed about her, and I dont want her to see that and have it scare her off.

What do i do?

Get to know her better. Find out if she has a bf through small talk or something. Then make your move..as in.. "Hey..would you like to go out this Friday...get some coffee or something?" nothing too extreme.

 

[TheBDB]

What do i do?

Dude, just ask her out. It isn't that hard.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

What do i do?

Bring it on over to http://www.yagt.org

btw, that Auto parse URLs checkbox makes linking easier



and...just ask her...

 

[StageLeft]

Please go to yagt.org

 

[Yossarian]

ban!

 

[jaydee]

GTKHBF

 

[jim1976]

Classic case of LUUUUUV!!!

Dude don't have second thoughts and think all the possibilities over and over...
Won't change a thing except your mental situation if u know what i mean...
Do what u feel. If it's ment to be it will be.If not WTF??? What doesn't kill u makes u stronger

 

[AkumaX]

yes.

 

[PHiuR]

im no expert but...get to kno her a bit better first...somehow..SOMEHOW..talk to her more....then hangout first...slowly but surely...it will happen.

 

[waylman]

DUDE, you are all worked up over nothing. Ask her if she wants to get a coffee one day, or have lunch. She will tell you if she has a b/f or not. Stop worrying about getting rejected. If she says no, move on to the next tasty piece of ass.

 

[Ness]

Stop being a sissy and ask if she wants to do something sometime. Even if she has a boyfriend, you might have fun

 

[ElFenix]

ask her out. if she has a bf she will tell you. if you go out with her you will get to know her then. if you hang out too much you risk the friend zone. jebus the lack of sense on this place is depressing

 

[jim1976]

Originally posted by: PHiuR
im no expert but...get to kno her a bit better first...somehow..SOMEHOW..talk to her more....then hangout first...slowly but surely...it will happen.

Cmon man don't fuc... with his emotions.
I don't know your experiences and your age but believe me


IF THE BITCH LIKES U , U WILL UNDERSTAND IT

Exceptions confirm the rule..

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: jim1976
Classic case of LUUUUUV!!!

Dude don't have second thoughts and think all the possibilities over and over...
Won't change a thing except your mental situation if u know what i mean...
Do what u feel. If it's ment to be it will be.If not WTF??? What doesn't kill u makes u stronger

so are you saying I should ask her or not?

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: jim1976

Originally posted by: PHiuR
im no expert but...get to kno her a bit better first...somehow..SOMEHOW..talk to her more....then hangout first...slowly but surely...it will happen.

Cmon man don't fuc... with his emotions.
I don't know your experiences and your age but believe me


IF THE BITCH LIKES U , U WILL UNDERSTAND IT

Exceptions confirm the rule..

hmm so that means she probably doesnt like me?

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

hmm so that means she probably doesnt like me?

you'll never know unless you ASK!

 

[jim1976]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: jim1976
Classic case of LUUUUUV!!!

Dude don't have second thoughts and think all the possibilities over and over...
Won't change a thing except your mental situation if u know what i mean...
Do what u feel. If it's ment to be it will be.If not WTF??? What doesn't kill u makes u stronger

so are you saying I should ask her or not?

U want that don't u?? So do it man WTF
TIME IS MONEY. Don't u ever wait for a bitch...If she understands that u want her that much she will have you for dinner....

 

[skywalker66]

ok, heres the problem...

This has been gnawing at me for quite awhile. I dont have much patience. Maybe, maybe, technically all would work out better if I waited and SOMEHOW got to know her better just by random bump-ins and chance (would probaly take a whole year) but honestly this is driving me FRICKIN CRAZY!!! And by NO means do I want to wait that long!!!
And I am going to be really bothered if I find out that she met some guy in the time that I was waiting.


Its already 7 weeks into the school year. I've been going to this school, this Christian college for 7 weeks, and heck she's been going for a year and 7 weeks. so wadda ya say boys, do i do it?


And if I do ask her...

do I just wait until the next time I see her in the halls, turn around, start walkin with her, and lay the words down?
what if she has friends with her?

Or do I look her up in the college directory and call her? (theres an online picture directory thats pretty cool)
i dont want to freak her out, would calling her, or just stopping by her 6 person on-campus appartment be bad?

this seems complicated...

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
ok, heres the problem...

This has been gnawing at me for quite awhile. I dont have much patience. Maybe, maybe, technically all would work out better if I waited and SOMEHOW got to know her better just by random bump-ins and chance (would probaly take a whole year) but honestly this is driving me FRICKIN CRAZY!!! And by NO means do I want to wait that long!!!
And I am going to be really bothered if I find out that she met some guy in the time that I was waiting.


Its already 7 weeks into the school year. I've been going to this school, this Christian college for 7 weeks, and heck she's been going for a year and 7 weeks. so wadda ya say boys, do i do it?

DO IT DAMNIT

you're probably never going to have the same classes with her or something else where you have an in, so you just get to ask, that is your in.

 

[Cooljt1]

omfg....ask her out already....damn....it's like you want someone to tell you not to ask her out even though your heart and mind say otherwise

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
Hey, there's this girl that I don't know that well,
I created a long thread about her awhile back, I guess the bottom line is that I am attracted to her, and am wondering if I should ask her out.

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1138213&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=

You see, I met her a year ago at this job I used to work at Dairy Queen, only talked to her for a little bit, (only had 3 shifts with her) but she's like the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen.

now I found out I go to the same college as her and I've bumped into her a few times and said hi, and have talked to her for a little bit.

I just really want to ask her out, but I dont want to blow it, I dont want to scare her and get rejected, or i dont want to create an awkward situation.

Plus I dont know how to ask her out. i havent talked to her long enough to get a number or nothing, she usually keeps conversations short, so the only time I can really ask her is if I bump into her in the halls, and thats hard to do if she has friends with her or something, or if shes walking someplace, i mean for me just to walk up, jump in, start talking to her, and ask her out?
I dunno, it seems a little iffy. She's also really Christian, which is another thing that draws me to her, so I don't know how well she'd take it if I just asked her out, what if she thought I was mackin on her or something?

Plus the other thing is that she has already been going to this college for a year, (while this is my first year) I dont even know if she has a boyfriend or something kinda like that, or not.
Is it safe to ask a girl out if you dont know whether she has a boyfriend or not, or should I figure that out first?

I guess I could fake like I'm just trying to ask her out as a friends thing, but honestly I really am into her, I swear it was like love at first site. If I asked her out, I'd be doing it more for the sake of a date, not just for friends to hang together.
I mean, I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HER BETTER, I want to know if my instincts are right!
But at the same time I don't want to scare her, because honestly I have really been obsessed about her, and I dont want her to see that and have it scare her off.

What do i do?

Here is my Viewpoint on life.


Rather Than sit here and wondering if you should or shouldn't when you know you want to ask.

If you don't ask you'll never know, and knowing is better than wondering if you should or not.
if you dont' you will regret it later. you can ask her. Be bold man. just buck up and ask her. Life is Full of missed oppertunities. if you don't occasionly kick a door down your going to be stuck in that hallway forever.

 

[jim1976]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
ok, heres the problem...

This has been gnawing at me for quite awhile. I dont have much patience. Maybe, maybe, technically all would work out better if I waited and SOMEHOW got to know her better just by random bump-ins and chance (would probaly take a whole year) but honestly this is driving me FRICKIN CRAZY!!! And by NO means do I want to wait that long!!!
And I am going to be really bothered if I find out that she met some guy in the time that I was waiting.


Its already 7 weeks into the school year. I've been going to this school, this Christian college for 7 weeks, and heck she's been going for a year and 7 weeks. so wadda ya say boys, do i do it?

wtf???
Man get serious, nothin will EVER change.No matter how long u r goin 2 wait.
If she likes u, then WE HAV A WINNER.
But risking to wait u might end up beeing her puppet.
Cauz bitches luv to hav guyz nuts for them.And if she understands that u r one of them then i feel sorry for u!!!
Do it now or never

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
ok, heres the problem...

This has been gnawing at me for quite awhile. I dont have much patience. Maybe, maybe, technically all would work out better if I waited and SOMEHOW got to know her better just by random bump-ins and chance (would probaly take a whole year) but honestly this is driving me FRICKIN CRAZY!!! And by NO means do I want to wait that long!!!
And I am going to be really bothered if I find out that she met some guy in the time that I was waiting.


Its already 7 weeks into the school year. I've been going to this school, this Christian college for 7 weeks, and heck she's been going for a year and 7 weeks. so wadda ya say boys, do i do it?


And if I do ask her...

do I just wait until the next time I see her in the halls, turn around, start walkin with her, and lay the words down?
what if she has friends with her?

Or do I look her up in the college directory and call her? (theres an online picture directory thats pretty cool)
i dont want to freak her out, would calling her, or just stopping by her 6 person on-campus appartment be bad?

this seems complicated...

Jesus H. Christ...ASK HER!!!

Someone willing to write up a play-by-play??

 

[Ness]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: jim1976

Originally posted by: PHiuR
im no expert but...get to kno her a bit better first...somehow..SOMEHOW..talk to her more....then hangout first...slowly but surely...it will happen.

Cmon man don't fuc... with his emotions.
I don't know your experiences and your age but believe me


IF THE BITCH LIKES U , U WILL UNDERSTAND IT

Exceptions confirm the rule..

hmm so that means she probably doesnt like me?

Girls are dumb like that. If they do like you, they make you figure it out. They don't want to come across as easy. They always look for some story book situation, and they can't get that way by saying "He looked at me, I threw him all sorts of signals, he asked me out... BOOM, love."

They want you to prove you have the balls to ask them out. That is the greatest lesson about girls you will ever get... at least the greatest lesson I've ever learned.