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guapo337

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Before me and my gf got together or whatever, she was really close with these two other girls. They spent basically all their time together. Well, swim season started, and they were closer than ever, but they started hanging out with other people, myself being one of those people. Anyways, my gf and I now hang out a fair amount, but it is not clingy or unhealthy in the least bit. Her friends are getting incredibly annoyed with her and myself basically because she doesnt spend all her time with them anymore. She still hangs out with them quite a bit, but now there's someone else she hangs out with too. In no way do exclude our friends at all, yet her friends are getting really pissed about how she isn't always there. She tried to confront them about it, and they both got irrational, and simply said that she "just didnt understand" and that they were going to have to wait til she "needed them again".

This wouldnt be that much of my business, cept the seem to make pretty malicious remarks about me/us to her and my friends. I dont appreciate this in the least bit... Do i have the right to talk to them about it, or should I leave to to my gf?

One of the friends has told a mutual friend of ours that she feels like she's being replaced by myself, in my gf's life. That is not what is happening. Except, she bitches about this, then my gf doesnt wanna hang out with her, and then it looks like that's happening, and it's a vicious circle.

Also, even with this problem that exists, the two friends, when hanging in person with my gf, play it off like nothing's wrong. They act all girlish and whatnot, seemingly having a fake friendship. It is unbearable.

What to do?
 
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giguana

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tell them to get their heads out of their asses, and you're not trying to replace them, but you have a right to hang with your gf. tell them that they are the one's shooting themselves in the foot by always bitching about your gf not being w/ them 24/7. it makes it so SHE doesn't WANT to hang out with them.

btw...are you in high school still? not to be rude or make assumptions, it just sounds like how typical hs girls act.
 
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captains

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let your gf handle it.....unless u like to argue a lot.....or if u want to hook up with one your gf's friends then talk to them and be the nice guy, that way if things fall through u can always date her friends
 
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yowolabi

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You shouldn't talk to them. It's between your girlfriend and her friends, and she's got to handle this one herself. There's nothing you can say or do to make a difference unless you stop hanging out with your gf.

If they're bad friends, then your gf will see that and stop being friends with them. Otherwise, they'll eventually come to grips with the fact that she has other interests.

There is one thing you can do. Find them boyfriends too and your problem will be solved.
 
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guapo337

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Originally posted by: radioouman
Originally posted by: yowolabi

There is one thing you can do. Find them boyfriends too and your problem will be solved.
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So true.
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ya see, it would be so damn hard though. one of them is my best friend's sister. none of my friends would ever get interested in her, and i dont think any guy would. as for the other one, i dont know. it just doesnt seem possible. ;)

no pics, boys.. sorry. thanks for the advice.
 
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Lash444

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Originally posted by: yowolabi
You shouldn't talk to them. It's between your girlfriend and her friends, and she's got to handle this one herself.
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I agree, stay out of this one. If you jump into a catfight with these two its a lose lose situation for you. They will just jump down your girlfriends throat about how much of an a$$hole you are. You are better off just telling your girlfriend how you feel about it and leave it at that. Let them look like a couple of idiots, by not restricting your girlfriend in anyway. Giving your girlfriend ultimatums like "no seeing them" or what not will eventually lead to problems for you.

But in the words of the guy from Reading Rainbow....Dont take my word for it.
 
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guapo337

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Originally posted by: Lash444
Originally posted by: yowolabi
You shouldn't talk to them. It's between your girlfriend and her friends, and she's got to handle this one herself.
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I agree, stay out of this one. If you jump into a catfight with these two its a lose lose situation for you. They will just jump down your girlfriends throat about how much of an a$$hole you are. You are better off just telling your girlfriend how you feel about it and leave it at that. Let them look like a couple of idiots, by not restricting your girlfriend in anyway. Giving your girlfriend ultimatums like "no seeing them" or what not will eventually lead to problems for you.

But in the words of the guy from Reading Rainbow....Dont take my word for it.
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yeah definitely. i would never tell her she couldnt see them. one of them is absolutely psycho, and i would be scared of her wrath if i did that. half the time they wanna hang out my girlfriend doesnt want to, but has said that she's scared what they'll do/say if she doesnt.. and she just doesnt feel like dealing with them being bitches (moreso than now)

 
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amnesiac

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You're in high school, aren't you?

Girls are like that in HS. My first g/f lost almost all her possessive, clingy, bitch friends when she started dating me.
 
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yobarman

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they sound like an ugly group of friends and they're just jealous that your girl is getting some
 
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lilFajita

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yea, it doesn't seem like there is much you can do. people tend to get jealous/irrational when one of the crew gets paired off. Maybe your girlfriend can confront them, but you really shouldn't get involved. As long as you are attempting to maintain the friendships, you are doing the best you can do.
 
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guapo337

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yeah, you guys are right i guess. yes i am in high school. it's so sad that some of the girls can be such possessive bitches, and the other are rather nice. *gah*. oh well.

 
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AreaCode707

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Do you ever hang out in a group, your friends, her friends, everyone go watch a movie or something? Ever hang out with her friends and her? Not that you should be required to do this, or that they shouldn't fix their own darn attitudes, but maybe if you did they'd feel like they were getting a little more time and they'd stop whining. In terms of a practical fix, it's worth a try.
 
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spp

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Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: radioouman
Originally posted by: yowolabi

There is one thing you can do. Find them boyfriends too and your problem will be solved.
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So true.
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ya see, it would be so damn hard though. one of them is my best friend's sister. none of my friends would ever get interested in her, and i dont think any guy would. as for the other one, i dont know. it just doesnt seem possible. ;)

no pics, boys.. sorry. thanks for the advice.
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none of your friends would get interested in her?? then i guess save the pics then.....
 
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giguana

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Originally posted by: spp
Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: radioouman
Originally posted by: yowolabi

There is one thing you can do. Find them boyfriends too and your problem will be solved.
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So true.
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ya see, it would be so damn hard though. one of them is my best friend's sister. none of my friends would ever get interested in her, and i dont think any guy would. as for the other one, i dont know. it just doesnt seem possible. ;)

no pics, boys.. sorry. thanks for the advice.
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none of your friends would get interested in her?? then i guess save the pics then.....
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the reason none of his friends would be interested in her is because she's his friends sister, not because there is anything wrong with her.
 
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BatmanNate

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That's effed up. When my buds get ladies if I was anything other than happy for them I'm pretty sure it would be gay. I mean, if I was in their shoes, it's a choice between hanging with dudes or ladies, the decision is obvious. Can't hold that against them when I'd do the same thing.
 
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