(YAGT) GF From 6-Months Maybe Pregnant. [UPDATE]

[FooKilla]

UPDATE:

I called her today, it's official she wants nothing to do with me, I asked her about a test and she said she doesn't know, and etc etc.. I'm thinking she made it all up.. She doesnt seem too concerned at all.. I told her to contact me in a few weeks. She found someone new, shes happy for now.


Notes:
1. GF breaks up with me, then I break up with her.
2. Says she met someone else, and wants nothing to do with me.
3. Mentions she might be pregnant, and not having an abortion.


This is a long story and I really have no one else to turn to for advice. I'm american and started dating this canadian girl (I live on a border town) 6-months ago. The relationship has been perfect for the first three months, however since then it's been a huge argument on/off mess. Just recently she dumped me and a few days later we got back, had another argument so I dumped her and apparently now she found someone else. She said she wanted nothing to do with me.

Shes hanging out with this new guy tonight apparently. She told her friends that she lied to me about her period, and she may be pregnant. Shes had an abortion once with a former ex, and she told me via e-mail she pretty much knows shes pregnant (morning sickness, cramps, etc). She said shes not having an abortion. I don't know what to do, I really do love this girl and if she is pregnant I want to be with her.

Another concern of mine is shes been going to the bars alot latey, drinking and doesn't care. Last night she told me shes not with anyone else, and not wanting to be, and then tonight she sends me an e-mail saying shes going out tonight with a new guy she likes, and then mentions the pregnancy stuff, and how she doesn't care about me and etc.

She went for a morning after-pill about a month back, I'm thinking she actually may be pregnant.. I'm lost at the moment.. I'm 22, shes 19.

 

[KarenMarie]

ahh.. never mind. i see it now.

i got thru 1/2 of that and thought.... HOLYFVCK

 

[mchammer]

So of course ask ATOT?

 

[FooKilla]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
how old are you?

22 shes 19.

 

[dirtboy]

Get her tested, if pregnant, get tested to see if you the daddy. If daddy, get a job and start paying support cause the lawyers be coming for j00. If you not the daddy, get down on your hands and knees and pray to whatever God you believe in. Then next time don't leave it up to the woman to take care of not getting pregnant, cause this will happen.

 

[DAGTA]

Paternity test

 

[imported_LoKe]

She's fscking with you.

Some tell-tale signs :

"I'm pregnant, but I lied before, because, well, I don't know."
"I'm with so and so, now."
"BABY BABY BABY!!!"
"OMGZNOABORTION!!!PROLIFE~LOLZ!"

 

[doze]

so she thinks she might be pregnant and headed out to the bar... ummmmm yeah dude you better hope she's just playing the psycho card

paternity test FTW

 

[BoomerD]

paternity test, then post. If she's not knocked-up with your kid, no problem...if it IS yours, you're in deep do-do...hello child support...Here in Kahleeforneeya, it's 25% of your gross for 1 child, and because of the large numbers of dead-beat dads, the DA has it automatically deducted from your pay...you don't have any option on that...

 

[astrocase]

Attention whore? She might be trying to get you back. Test those waters first. Then get her tested.

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
Get her tested, if pregnant, get tested to see if you the daddy. If daddy, get a job and start paying support cause the lawyers be coming for j00. If you not the daddy, get down on your hands and knees and pray to whatever God you believe in. Then next time don't leave it up to the woman to take care of not getting pregnant, cause this will happen.

 

[EGGO]

Keep those e-mails, because if she is pregnant, those e-mails about her being irresponsible may be good ammo?

 

[erikistired]

sweet.

 

[FooKilla]

Originally posted by: astrocase
Attention whore? She might be trying to get you back. Test those waters first. Then get her tested.

I don't know what she'd have to gain from this, not to mention she HAS met someone else, and apparently does like him, so her friends say. However hes the same age as me, I dont think he'd want to date a pregnant girl.. who knows.

 

[astrocase]

Originally posted by: FooKilla

Originally posted by: astrocase
Attention whore? She might be trying to get you back. Test those waters first. Then get her tested.

I don't know what she'd have to gain from this, not to mention she HAS met someone else, and apparently does like him, so her friends say.

I had an ex do it to me. Don't ask me why they do it. Yours seems crazy enough to try.

 

[alien42]

good luck with that one. i wonder what the legal ramifications would be if she did have your child. since she is canadian i would think that child support would not fall under US jurisdiction.

 

[l Xes l]

wow. that sux!!! are you really willing to be with her for rest of ur life if she's pregnant?

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: l Xes l
wow. that sux!!! are you really willing to be with her for rest of ur life if she's pregnant?

Uhh...that's not...er..his only option.

 

[OS]

buy her a coat hanger?

 

[Neurorelay]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
Paternity test

FTW....really, you have no responsiblity to prove it, she does.

 

[FooKilla]

Originally she told her friend, then I asked, She didnt tell me first about the period - her friend did.

 

[PowerEngineer]

Let's see if we've got this right...

She's only 19 years old, goes to bars a lot, is having sex with several partners in rapid succession (without using any kind of protection against STD or unwanted pregnancy), and has already had one abortion.

As others have already said, the best outcome for you is that she isn't pregnant and moves on quickly. Count your lucky stars if she does. If she is pregnant, you owe it to yourself to insist on a paternity test; don't make any commitments (verbal or written) until the test is done.

Let's hold out for a better prospect this time around... :roll:

 

[eits]

suicide is the only answer.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: LoKe
She's fscking with you.

Some tell-tale signs :

"I'm pregnant, but I lied before, because, well, I don't know."
"I'm with so and so, now."
"BABY BABY BABY!!!"
"OMGZNOABORTION!!!PROLIFE~LOLZ!"

hahaha

 

[FooKilla]

Originally posted by: PowerEngineer

Let's see if we've got this right...

She's only 19 years old, goes to bars a lot, is having sex with several partners in rapid succession (without using any kind of protection against STD or unwanted pregnancy), and has already had one abortion.

As others have already said, the best outcome for you is that she isn't pregnant and moves on quickly. Count your lucky stars if she does. If she is pregnant, you owe it to yourself to insist on a paternity test; don't make any commitments (verbal or written) until the test is done.

Let's hold out for a better prospect this time around... :roll:

She never went to the bars until recently, the several partners.. When we dated I was around her pretty much 24/7. Im sure she wasnt having sex with anyone else.