YAGT Getting over someone?

[Czar]

I was wondering, what is "normal" amount of time to get over someone, is 2 years not seeing someone, living in another country and all and still not over it unusual?

 

[gigapet]

i think there is a direct corrolation between the time it takes to get over it and the time you were in the relationship and there are variants because everyone is different and you cant really account for that.

 

[Czar]

in this case the relationship lasted about 6-8 months

 

[isekii]

6-8 months and you still can't get over someone over a 2 year period.

maybe you should seek help ?

 

[Quixfire]

It use to take me about six months to get over a relationship.

 

[Mutilator]

"Obsessed much...?" - Ace Ventura
You've got issues.
Go see a therapist.
Stop posting.

That's a summary of the kind of responses you're going to get.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: gigapet
i think there is a direct corrolation between the time it takes to get over it and the time you were in the relationship and there are variants because everyone is different and you cant really account for that.

 

[Jzero]

Mutilator took any answer I might have given. See his post above.

 

[isasir]

It also depends on if you've forced yourself to go out and date someone else. If you haven't, then you'll prob. never really get over the last one, since you think what you had with her, you can't have with anyone else, which is usually wrong.

 

[damiano]

where do you live...
I'll take you to to the hookers...you 'll forget about this girl in about two hours

:Q

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Czar
in this case the relationship lasted about 6-8 months

its been nearly twice as long as the relationship and you are still not over it this does not fall into the normal range. I read the average was the length of the relationship divided by three. But anyways I think there is an issue that you need to face and that is what is keeping you back from being over it. 2 years is a very long time for a relationship that didnt last that long. Have you tried to get over it or do you still worship a wall of pictures by candellight?

 

[Czar]

I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: damiano
where do you live...
I'll take you to to the hookers...you 'll forget about this girl in about two hours

:Q

two hours ?
free hooker ?
hey i'm in NJ ..

I'll Pick you up if you cover the hookers

 

[Czar]

Originally posted by: RishiS
It also depends on if you've forced yourself to go out and date someone else. If you haven't, then you'll prob. never really get over the last one, since you think what you had with her, you can't have with anyone else, which is usually wrong.

both dated other people since then

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Mutilator
"Obsessed much...?" - Ace Ventura
You've got issues.
Go see a therapist.
Stop posting.

That's a summary of the kind of responses you're going to get.

or a brothel in las vegas, or the red light district in amsterdam

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

Clarify what happened.
I mean, 8 years after the fact, the girl I dated my freshman year in HS has been engaged a couple times and seen plenty of other people and I hadn't seen her since 1996, yet she still says she would love just one night to f*ck me silly.
She's over me, I think she just wonders what it would have been like....

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

go for a 1 night hook-up!

or become friends w/benefits and get some whenever

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

It depends what you are talking about by being over it. I mean i think once you love someone you will always have feelings for them even after you get over it.

If she is seriously still not over you she is most likely suffering from some other psychological disorder and you should prolly distance yourself from her unless you want a stalker.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

Clarify what happened.
I mean, 8 years after the fact, the girl I dated my freshman year in HS has been engaged a couple times and seen plenty of other people and I hadn't seen her since 1996, yet she still says she would love just one night to f*ck me silly.
She's over me, I think she just wonders what it would have been like....

D*I*B, that way she'll remember you always.

Edit: Replaced the H and T with * due to suggestions from friends at ATOT.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

Clarify what happened.
I mean, 8 years after the fact, the girl I dated my freshman year in HS has been engaged a couple times and seen plenty of other people and I hadn't seen her since 1996, yet she still says she would love just one night to f*ck me silly.
She's over me, I think she just wonders what it would have been like....

D***B, that way she'll remember you always.

i'd edit that if you dont want a vacation just lookin out cuz i got slammed for that one

 

[Czar]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

It depends what you are talking about by being over it. I mean i think once you love someone you will always have feelings for them even after you get over it.

If she is seriously still not over you she is most likely suffering from some other psychological disorder and you should prolly distance yourself from her unless you want a stalker.

probably right on the first part, but she is definetly not nuts, she has matured in a good way over those two years

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Czar

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Czar
I am over it I think..., but she isnt. We havent talked for two years untill few days ago.

It depends what you are talking about by being over it. I mean i think once you love someone you will always have feelings for them even after you get over it.

If she is seriously still not over you she is most likely suffering from some other psychological disorder and you should prolly distance yourself from her unless you want a stalker.

probably right on the first part, but she is definetly not nuts, she has matured in a good way over those two years

what was the reason and circumstances behind the break up

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[Czar]

well it was complicated, just didnt work out at the time and then she did something aftwerwards so I ended up hating her so no talk for 2 years, now it wont work out because she is only here on vacation, will go back to the country she moved to 2 years ago in about a week. Its a question about how to leave things now.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Czar
well it was complicated, just didnt work out at the time and then she did something aftwerwards so I ended up hating her so no talk for 2 years, now it wont work out because she is only here on vacation, will go back to the country she moved to 2 years ago in about a week. Its a question about how to leave things now.

That makes more sense then........it never really ended in her mind it just got postponed. She still has unfinished business with you.

 

[dirtboy]

It's different for everybody. Some take a few weeks, others can take years. It depends on the depth of the relationship and the person.