YAGT: First date advice...

[OREOSpeedwagon]

Well, I "went out" with this girl in like 6th grade and 7th grade, but we never really did anything, just one of those middle school relationships where you just kinda said "hi, how's it going" if you saw them. Anyway, I asked her to see a movie on Tuesday (I know I know, its a weekday but it's the only time we could this week). We are both in the school band (before you accuse me being a band geek, there aren't really band geeks at my school, in fact most of the preps and football players are in the band and I am 17 BTW) and we have to play at a HS basketball game on Friday, and the winter dance is on Saturday. I figured I would pick her up around 5pm and drive to Terre Haute (like 45 minutes away, there's nothing to do in this town), get something to eat at the Olive Garden or Applebee's and see White Noise around 7:30. Anyway, my mom brought up the good night kiss and how kissing while wearing glasses is kind of awkward, she said she dumped a guy in HS because he looked weird without his glasses. So, I figured I'd ask you guys, should I take off my glasses or keep them on? I look a lot better with them on and do kind of look like a completely different person. I don't have a digicam so I can't post a pic of me with them on/off. I know there's got to be someone else here that wears glasses so any advice would be appreciated

Cliffs notes:
Good night kiss, wear glasses or not?

 

[yllus]

Don't wear them if you have contacts just to simplify things as much as possible.

 

[OREOSpeedwagon]

I don't have contacts

 

[Hyperblaze]

Your mom is shallow for dumping a guy because he looks weird in glasses.

PS, just how old are your glasses? If you are that afraid, get yourself glasses which look better on you.

I have to admit that my current pair of glasses look better on me then my previous pair.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Just tilt your or her head to the side...

Really not a problem.

 

[clamum]

I'd just leave them on. As far as the kiss, depends on how well the date goes. A kiss on the cheek is pretty safe I think.

 

[spidey07]

yes, always kiss. It makes your intentions clear. Otherwise she'll get all neurotic wondering why you didn't kiss her.

 

[yllus]

No contacts? Well... I wouldn't worry too much. Be a little assertive with the goodnight kiss, use the thumb-index finger guide rule and if don't end up squishing your face into hers you'll be fine. Glasses only really need to be removed if you want to fog up the windows, which is probably not going to be the case here.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

eh, leave them on

 

[OREOSpeedwagon]

Originally posted by: Jero
Your mom is shallow for dumping a guy because he looks weird in glasses.

PS, just how old are your glasses? If you are that afraid, get yourself glasses which look better on you.

I have to admit that my current pair of glasses look better on me then my previous pair.

She dumped him because he looked weird without glasses, he took them off before he kissed her.

I just got new glasses about a month ago and they are a lot smaller than my other ones so I don't think they would get in the way.

 

[SupaDupaPan]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Just tilt your or her head to the side...

Really not a problem.

Or you could try to be smooth and take your glasses off all slick like right before leaning in to kiss her

Kiss on the cheek is good though One memorable first date I had, asked me, "Do I get a hug or a handshake?" (since we didn't know each other too well) I answered him with hug ... and called him the next week to schedule another date

 

[sygyzy]

What is the "thumb-index finger guide rule"?

 

[yoda291]

I'm surprised no one brought up "stick out your left hand" here.

I agree with yllus. Glasses should be ok for a kiss.

 

[randal]

Originally posted by: yllus
No contacts? Well... I wouldn't worry too much. Be a little assertive with the goodnight kiss, use the thumb-index finger guide rule and if don't end up squishing your face into hers you'll be fine. Glasses only really need to be removed if you want to fog up the windows, which is probably not going to be the case here.

please enlighten me

 

[yllus]

Originally posted by: SupaDupaPan

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Just tilt your or her head to the side...

Really not a problem.

Or you could try to be smooth and take your glasses off all slick like right before leaning in to kiss her

Kiss on the cheek is good though One memorable first date I had, asked me, "Do I get a hug or a handshake?" (since we didn't know each other too well) I answered him with hug ... and called him the next week to schedule another date

I really mean no offense, but I think your advice is a great example of how women always give pie-in-the-sky advice to guys regarding relationships. It is relationship suicide to give a girl a handshake or hug on the first date if she's remotely interested. Pucker up or go home.

 

[SupaDupaPan]

Originally posted by: yllus
I really mean no offense, but I think your advice is a great example of how women always give pie-in-the-sky advice to guys regarding relationships. It is relationship suicide to give a girl a handshake or hug on the first date if she's remotely interested. Pucker up or go home.

I think a kiss on the cheek on the first date is fine, as for kissing her directly (on the lips) ... you really don't know how she is or what she's like with things like this. If she's very conservative any sort of interest in him could fade away with that one kiss. Some girls don't like overly aggressive guys.

 

[OREOSpeedwagon]

Thanks for all the replies So it's safe to say that leaving my glasses for a kiss on the cheek would be best?

 

[jtusa]

The obvious answer is to just whip it out.

 

[Zenmervolt]

I never had a problem with my glasses getting in the way. You're over-thinking.

ZV

 

[SupaDupaPan]

Ah ... yeah wanted to add that glasses have never gotten in the way either (I personally don't wear glasses, but I've kissed a few guys who do).

 

[darkswordsman17]

Yeah, wear the glasses.

Don't be ashamed of them, some women find them sexy anyways.

Good luck, hope your date turns out well.

 

[Looney]

We are both in the school band (before you accuse me being a band geek, there aren't really band geeks at my school[/Q

LOL that's what the band geeks tell themselves!

 

[LordSnailz]

blah ... never had an issue kissing with glasses on ... it would be too weird to go without glasses

 

[jspeicher]

your mom is an ass.

 

[yllus]

Originally posted by: randal

Originally posted by: yllus
No contacts? Well... I wouldn't worry too much. Be a little assertive with the goodnight kiss, use the thumb-index finger guide rule and if don't end up squishing your face into hers you'll be fine. Glasses only really need to be removed if you want to fog up the windows, which is probably not going to be the case here.

please enlighten me

Crudely:

Point your right hand at her mimicking a gun with your fingers. Index finger goes along the left underside of her chin while your thumb goes underneath her chin, moving her mouth to wherever you want it to go.