YAGT doing stuff for her

[apac]

This morning my gf and I were leaving her house for work, and she needed to send off a few packages before she got there. So before we leave she gives me one of those looks and says "Would you come with me?". Grumbling while I'm still tired I agree.

We don't own cars, only bikes. I ride behind her for 10 minutes going to the Post Office, wait off to the side for 10 minutes while she does the whole labels & payment thing at the counter, and then ride back to where we started for 10 mins. She was talking to the counter guy and dealing with packages the entire time we were at the PO, I might as well have waited on the curb outside.

On the way back I told her I liked doing things with her but not when I'm "tagging along" while she does errands, where half the time I can't even chat. She split off for work pissed using the "you don't like to do things with me" bullsh!t. Am I right for not expecting to do these things?

cliffs: ladies, don't ask guys to tag along for your own selfish entertainment

 

[meltdown75]

you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

 

[yllus]

You're right in that you shouldn't have to be expected to do these things. However, you messed up by doing them the first time and the times thereafter, so now the default position is that you should tag along like a lost puppy. Now you'll have to justify not going along.

Point of this point for others to note: In a relationship, SET SMART PRECEDENTS. Don't do stuff at the beginning of a relationship just to ingratiate her because she'll take that as normal behaviour. Then - good luck trying to bring a halt to it.

 

[BobDaMenkey]

I would not have bothered to go along. That's just retartedly pointless. If you were both at least in the same car it would have been better, but on bikes? Nooooo.

 

[Saint Nick]

you should tag along once in a while... show her you care n stuff.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

 

[Pepsei]

next time when you are "tagging along" always keep one of your hands on her ass.

 

[scorpmatt]

TTIWWP

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: apac
This morning my gf and I were leaving her house for work, and she needed to send off a few packages before she got there. So before we leave she gives me one of those looks and says "Would you come with me?". Grumbling while I'm still tired I agree.

We don't own cars, only bikes. I ride behind her for 10 minutes going to the Post Office, wait off to the side for 10 minutes while she does the whole labels & payment thing at the counter, and then ride back to where we started for 10 mins. She was talking to the counter guy and dealing with packages the entire time we were at the PO, I might as well have waited on the curb outside.

On the way back I told her I liked doing things with her but not when I'm "tagging along" while she does errands, where half the time I can't even chat. She split off for work pissed using the "you don't like to do things with me" bullsh!t. Am I right for not expecting to do these things?

cliffs: ladies, don't ask guys to tag along for your own selfish entertainment

sounds like it's "all about you"

 

[notfred]

Ride faster, make her feel like she's slow and she can't keep up with you. Eventually she won't want to ride with you anymore.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

dump her.

 

[purbeast0]

dude that you are complaining about that is weak. you could talk to her for 20 minutes (10 on the way there, 10 on the way back). you could have talked to her while waiting in line. i don't know, i just see you complaining about that as just kind of being a baby.

but then again, maybe my relationship is different. if i'm chillin with my GF and i don't have anything to do and she is going to go to the mall and asks me to go, i'll go. but if i don't feel like it, i also will tell her i don't want to go and not go. but i won't go and then complain about it becuase she didnt pay attention to me. the reason she would want me to go in the first place is to keep her company, just like if i wanted my gf to go somewhere with me.

 

[ggnl]

Give her a break. She just wanted to spend time with you. You're making it should like she did it just to waste your time.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

dump her.

Clingy women are utterly useless.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

dump her.

Clingy women are utterly useless.

beware when they don't cling... they are clinging onto someone else.

 

[KarenMarie]

Choices:

1) Go and do what she wants you to do. Grin and bear it for 20-30 minutes.

2) Say no and have an argument followed by ...anyhting between 1-3 days of sulking and cold sholders.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

dump her.

Clingy women are utterly useless.

QFT. dump w/ pics. :camera:

i want to see tears on the lens.

 

[venk]

You do stuff FOR her so that later you can do stuff TO her.

 

[richardycc]

are you fat, maybe this is her subtle way to tell you that you need to get more exercise?

 

[Geekbabe]

Be grateful you have a g/friend who exercises and invites you to go along with her.

Every mile spent on a bike is a good mile

 

[FoBoT]

it is just part of the deal. get used to it if you want to live with a woman.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: apac
This morning my gf and I were leaving her house for work, and she needed to send off a few packages before she got there. So before we leave she gives me one of those looks and says "Would you come with me?". Grumbling while I'm still tired I agree.

We don't own cars, only bikes. I ride behind her for 10 minutes going to the Post Office, wait off to the side for 10 minutes while she does the whole labels & payment thing at the counter, and then ride back to where we started for 10 mins. She was talking to the counter guy and dealing with packages the entire time we were at the PO, I might as well have waited on the curb outside.

On the way back I told her I liked doing things with her but not when I'm "tagging along" while she does errands, where half the time I can't even chat. She split off for work pissed using the "you don't like to do things with me" bullsh!t. Am I right for not expecting to do these things?

cliffs: ladies, don't ask guys to tag along for your own selfish entertainment

sounds like it's "all about you"

Actually it feels like it's the other way around. She was gone friday night and saturday so I spent Sunday running around and hanging out with her. I like spending the time with her, but only when it's a 2 way street (ie shes spending the time with me, not spending the time doing errands). The problem is that I woke up, ate breakfast, but the antibiotics I need to take with food are at my house and I said I needed to get home. I still went with her, but afterword I realized it was a bit trivial for me to have gone when there were things to be done in that time.


Also about the talking, it's difficult to talk while riding bikes up a hill, and when we were at the PO she spent the time talking to the employee about her packages, where they needed to go, filling out labels, getting prices, etc.

 

[JackRipper]

when we were at the PO she spent the time talking to the employee about her packages, where they needed to go, filling out labels, getting prices, etc.

isnt that what normally goes on at a post office? whut did u expect? :roll:


lolz

just playin wif u man..

-JR

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: apac

Originally posted by: meltdown75
you suck at wimminz.

expect to do everything, and get nagged while doing it. and don't wipe that smile off of your face because you're having a great time. and don't forget to listen to every one of her utterly electrifying conversations because you know you're interested and won't daydream while she's babbling.

No, the point is, I don't like doing those things, and intend to weasel out of as much as possible .

edit: not to say I don't do it at all, just not ever. damn. time. Its difficult not to mention the word "clingy" to her but I know that'll cause more trouble than its worth.

dump her.

Clingy women are utterly useless.

beware when they don't cling... they are clinging onto someone else.

Then let them. Why would anyone want to go out with a girl who's emotionally needy, who lacks self-confidence, ambition, and interests of her own?

Edit: Come to think of it, this doesn't really describe the OP's g/f. Here I get the impression that she wants to take charge and organize everything, without regard for whatever he wants to do.

 

[apac]

Originally posted by: JackRipper

when we were at the PO she spent the time talking to the employee about her packages, where they needed to go, filling out labels, getting prices, etc.

isnt that what normally goes on at a post office? whut did u expect? :roll:


lolz

just playin wif u man..

-JR

The guy above criticized me for "not talking to her" while we were there. What did I expect, indeed.