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ThunderbirdElitist

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Background:

This girl and I have been friends since highschool (We're now in our 4th year of college) and we've been at some times very close and at others just like brother and sister. But we have always spent alot of time together and been there for each other during hard times.


Present:

I've noticed over this year that the friendship is kinda onesided and I was the one keeping it alive. So I decided to stop calling her and cool off for a while. Sure enough I didn't gere from her till about a month later. Well we started to hang out less and less. Now I only hear from her when she is in trouble or needs help.
She calls me today and wants to take me out for my birthday (When I haven't heard from her in months). I think her taking me out is kinda like "renewing our friendship" for another year so I will be around when she needs me? am I unjustified in this thinking?
 
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Supertastic Fool

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Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? Go for the free food.
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Ok, do you pay for your food at collage, cause everyone I know that does wouldn't think twice about going out to dinner for free!!! Minedndo is right, go for it, if she wants to use you you can always blow her off later...
 
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DaWhim

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I think some girls are just like that. At least, this is what I am experiencing too. very one-sided :( why do I care if she doesn't?
 
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whaleskinrug

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she thought of you, so don't think the worst. you can always be unavailable in the future if she just asks for things. so go out with her for your b-day (not necessarily ON your day).
 
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TheHeartless

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Originally posted by: ThunderbirdElitist
Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? Go for the free food.
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It's called self respect. A free meal is not worth letting myself get used.
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don't go if you feel like you're going to be used...."just let the ship sink"....
 
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whaleskinrug

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Originally posted by: ThunderbirdElitist
Originally posted by: XZeroII
You are one cynical person
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don't forget introverted
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even if she is trying to use you in the future, she can't do much harm taking you out for one night. at least go and see how she behaves. try not to think the worst or you WILL bring it on yourself (I know). if she does start trying to take advantage of you after that, then you know the door needs to be slammed shut (or at least not left ajar)
 
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djheater

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Mar 19, 2001
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Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? Go for the free food.
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Agreed.
You are in the wrong for putting qualifiers on your friendship.
She hasn't murdered your family or slept with your mother.
Relationships have ups and downs. Get over it.


If you want to be her friend, be her friend, if not then don't.
 
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olds

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Originally posted by: ThunderbirdElitist
Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? Go for the free food.
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It's called self respect. A free meal is not worth letting myself get used.
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Dude, you have no self respect. You posted a YAGT.

 
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Ameesh

Lifer
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Originally posted by: ThunderbirdElitist
Background:

This girl and I have been friends since highschool (We're now in our 4th year of college) and we've been at some times very close and at others just like brother and sister. But we have always spent alot of time together and been there for each other during hard times.


Present:

I've noticed over this year that the friendship is kinda onesided and I was the one keeping it alive. So I decided to stop calling her and cool off for a while. Sure enough I didn't gere from her till about a month later. Well we started to hang out less and less. Now I only hear from her when she is in trouble or needs help.
She calls me today and wants to take me out for my birthday (When I haven't heard from her in months). I think her taking me out is kinda like "renewing our friendship" for another year so I will be around when she needs me? am I unjustified in this thinking?
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you sound like a catty girl, just say no if you if you dont want to be friends any more.
 
minendo

minendo

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Originally posted by: ThunderbirdElitist
Originally posted by: minendo
Who cares? Go for the free food.
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It's called self respect. A free meal is not worth letting myself get used.
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You have got to be kidding me. Go out for the free meal. Then between dinner and the next time she asks you for help grow a pair so you can say no to her.

 
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Kadarin

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Nov 23, 2001
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Depends on how you and she feel. If she's really someone who just wants to stay in contact with you for the sole reason that she knows you'll help her out of future jams, then you might want to just pass. If, however, she's genuinely interested in maintaining a real friendship, or even polite acquaintance, then go for it.
 
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Yax

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Feb 11, 2003
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Originally posted by: FrankyJunior
Is she Hot?
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Well? IS she? If she is, then go. Otherwise, just tell her you don't want to be her friend anymore. Come up with a reason. Maybe say you'll go if she lets you do her or something. But if she's hot, try to get out of the friend zone.
 
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FuZoR

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Sep 22, 2001
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she remembered your bday... i think thats reason enough to go. If your really parinoid shes using you.. just see what happens and if your the 2nd string friend or something then screw it.

 
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