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YAGT: Did I cross the line?

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polm

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A good friend of mine has been dating this girl for about 8 months. I get along pretty well with his GF, and we exchange friendly texts on occassion about upcoming concerts, or the parties going down that weekend.

Well, the other night my friend tells me he dumped her. The very next day she pages me asking if there are any apartments available in my building.

I responded "No", and told her I was "sorry to hear about the break-up".

She responded that she was upset and that she hoped they could work things out. Later that night she paged "What are you doing tonight?" . I replied that I was hanging out with friends.

She then told me that they were going to dinner to talk and to see if they could work things out. I wished her luck.

So at around midnight I was drunk hanging with some mutual friends, and we were discussing their break-up. I mentioned that they were working on a reconciliation that very night, and we all wondered how it went.

I decided to page the girl "Well...how did it go?". She replied "Wonderful".

Today I find out that my friend is bitching about me texting her so late. Am I in the wrong here? Did I cross the line? It was tottaly harmless as far as I can tell.
 
Nope. Didn't do anything wrong that I can tell.... unless you broke up the make up sex. Then that could be a problem.
 
Originally posted by: chrisms
Your friend is an idiot. Don't worry about it.
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but i could see your friend thinking that you're interested in her and are being pushy in asking whether she's single or not.
 
I wouldn't see anything wrong with it. It's a very neutral message, and implies--at least in my mind--that you're asking about the situation, and therefore about your friend as well as her. The only negative take I'd possibly get from it is that you texted it only to her, not both of them.
 
Originally posted by: Whisper
I wouldn't see anything wrong with it. It's a very neutral message, and implies--at least in my mind--that you're asking about the situation, and therefore about your friend as well as her. The only negative take I'd possibly get from it is that you texted it only to her, not both of them.
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Sounds like your friend is a jealous guy. You didn't do anything wrong though - unless the text message included a naked pic of yourself in it
 
"The only negative take I'd possibly get from it is that you texted it only to her, not both of them"

Fair point. I'm not sure why I exclusively asked her. Maybe cuz I already had a running dialouge (textalouge) with her regarding the potential reconciliation. When I talked to my friend earlier that evening he said nothing about the dinner plans.
 
"Prediction: OP likes friends GF"

You couldn't be more wrong. In all honesty, I have no attraction to this girl whatsoever. She's not my type both physically and in terms of her character. I think she is nice, and she makes a good match for my friend.
 
Originally posted by: polm
"Prediction: OP likes friends GF"

You couldn't be more wrong. In all honesty, I have no attraction to this girl whatsoever. She's not my type both physically and in terms of her character. I think she is nice, and she makes a good match for my friend.
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Then quit sticking you nose in.
 
Originally posted by: polm
A good friend of mine has been dating this girl for about 8 months. I get along pretty well with his GF, and we exchange friendly texts on occassion about upcoming concerts, or the parties going down that weekend.

Well, the other night my friend tells me he dumped her. The very next day she pages me asking if there are any apartments available in my building.

I responded "No", and told her I was "sorry to hear about the break-up".

She responded that she was upset and that she hoped they could work things out. Later that night she paged "What are you doing tonight?" . I replied that I was hanging out with friends.

She then told me that they were going to dinner to talk and to see if they could work things out. I wished her luck.

So at around midnight I was drunk hanging with some mutual friends, and we were discussing their break-up. I mentioned that they were working on a reconciliation that very night, and we all wondered how it went.

I decided to page the girl "Well...how did it go?". She replied "Wonderful".

Today I find out that my friend is bitching about me texting her so late. Am I in the wrong here? Did I cross the line? It was tottaly harmless as far as I can tell.
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some "friend". 😕
 
Originally posted by: Papagayo
Originally posted by: polm
"Prediction: OP likes friends GF"

You couldn't be more wrong. In all honesty, I have no attraction to this girl whatsoever. She's not my type both physically and in terms of her character. I think she is nice, and she makes a good match for my friend.
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Then quit sticking you nose in.
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QFT.

Buddies' GFs are OFF LIMITS. She texted you initially; her bad. But it was your bad by becoming her pal. Nothing wrong w/your replying that first time. After that, ignore it.

Ah, the drama of early 20-something relationships! 😀

I can guarantee you could've bagged it, and that's not a reversal of what I just said. Of COURSE she's being evil and bitter and catty; she is a young woman, afterall.

This is why in the past, my GFs usually didn't meet my friends; it's nothing bad, bad, bad news down the road.

A FEW mutual friends...typically HERS is a good idea. That way, you're assured of having things to do with people SHE likes. If you break up, no loss; they weren't your friends anyway, PLUS you don't have to worry about her dicking with your friends.

Butt out, buttinski.
 
Damn, MichaelD. Now I really feel like an a$$ hole. When you put it in those terms, I guess I really did cross the line.

Hope I haven't pissed my friend off too much. Hopefully nothing a couple beers can't resolve.
 
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