YAGT: dating hot girls / attention whores

[zixxer]

The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

 

[MisterJackson]

Pics or STFU

That said, I know what you mean. It's hard, especially for me because I used to be a really jealous guy, I've mellowed on that a great deal.

The last girl I dated was a hair stylist working in a salon. I figured, what's the harm, mostly women come in there anyway. Nuh uh, a lot of guys came up there too. I KNOW she got hit on everyday, even though she said "It wasn't like that, and even when it does happen she doesn't look at other guys that way." That was tough to deal with at first, but I just had to accept that she was with me and chill. I just realized they may hit on her, but it's me that she came over to see EVERY night

I just told her up front if she wanted something else, at least have the respect to tell me first. We split in the end because I was a d1ck to her though. Live and learn.

 

[imported_Pablo]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Pics or STFU

 

[sixone]

If it bothers you, say so. She gets to choose - better to find out now than later.

 

[slightlyhuman]

stop being paranoid. well you have two choices imo... get over it or drop her and keep searching for a girl that has the exact qualities you want because this one doesn't seem to fit.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

 

[Wreckem]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

Yeah but that tends to go out the window when alcohol is mixed into the equation.

 

[slightlyhuman]

oh yeah, just about every girl i've dated in the past year has a myspace. i always see comments from guys about hanging out and have seen the same when she comments. sometimes the comments of them saying that is just a nice thing to say so the other person doesn't think they have forgotten about them or something to that extent.

 

[BUrassler]

Anandtech guys have every single one of the "9 out of 10" girls out there...

 

[slightlyhuman]

Originally posted by: BUrassler
Anandtech guys have every single one of the "9 out of 10" girls out there...

haha while that's probably the majority, some of us do actually have game. in fact, i have tons

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: Wreckem

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

Yeah but that tends to go out the window when alcohol is mixed into the equation.

True, but then he needs to grow some balls and tell her binge drinking with them would annoy him. Hanging out is cool though. Guys don't just magically turn into a man overnight, otherwise they wouldn't be in the friend zone. However, if some of them got ahold of some of the courses I've taken on dating I'd be worried. Thankfully most guys who are "friends" just accept their fate and don't try to improve and read books/take courses on how to attract hotties.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: DP

Originally posted by: BUrassler
Anandtech guys have every single one of the "9 out of 10" girls out there...

haha while that's probably the majority, some of us do actually have game. in fact, i have tons

Yo D, whatever happened to that lil hottie you were feeding salami (after you broke up with your g/f of like 3 years).

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: Wreckem

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

Yeah but that tends to go out the window when alcohol is mixed into the equation.

True, but then he needs to grow some balls and tell her binge drinking with them would annoy him. Hanging out is cool though. Guys don't just magically turn into a man overnight, otherwise they wouldn't be in the friend zone. However, if some of them got ahold of some of the courses I've taken on dating I'd be worried. Thankfully most guys who are "friends" just accept their fate and don't try to improve and read books/take courses on how to attract hotties.

I don't think you guys get what I'm saying - she doesn't go out getting wasted with them. What aggravates me is stuff like when they change their facebook pic and she'll post on their wall that she "is really liking the new profile pic " if a chick posted that on my 'facebook' thing I'm going to have one impression - and not one that's just 'friends'.. To her, they're just friends and she doesn't mean it that way.

 

[z42]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Pics or STFU

That said, I know what you mean. It's hard, especially for me because I used to be a really jealous guy, I've mellowed on that a great deal.

The last girl I dated was a hair stylist working in a salon. I figured, what's the harm, mostly women come in there anyway. Nuh uh, a lot of guys came up there too. I KNOW she got hit on everyday, even though she said "It wasn't like that, and even when it does happen she doesn't look at other guys that way." That was tough to deal with at first, but I just had to accept that she was with me and chill. I just realized they may hit on her, but it's me that she came over to see EVERY night

I just told her up front if she wanted something else, at least have the respect to tell me first. We split in the end because I was a d1ck to her though. Live and learn.

Did it aggravate you knowing that those guys were paying $30 every two weeks to have her chest rubbed against their heads?

 

[Chryso]

If you can't handle it then you need to only date ugly girls.

 

[BUrassler]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: Wreckem

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

Yeah but that tends to go out the window when alcohol is mixed into the equation.

True, but then he needs to grow some balls and tell her binge drinking with them would annoy him. Hanging out is cool though. Guys don't just magically turn into a man overnight, otherwise they wouldn't be in the friend zone. However, if some of them got ahold of some of the courses I've taken on dating I'd be worried. Thankfully most guys who are "friends" just accept their fate and don't try to improve and read books/take courses on how to attract hotties.

I don't think you guys get what I'm saying - she doesn't go out getting wasted with them. What aggravates me is stuff like when they change their facebook pic and she'll post on their wall that she "is really liking the new profile pic " if a chick posted that on my 'facebook' thing I'm going to have one impression - and not one that's just 'friends'.. To her, they're just friends and she doesn't mean it that way.

How could you possibely care about something like that?

 

[slightlyhuman]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: DP

Originally posted by: BUrassler
Anandtech guys have every single one of the "9 out of 10" girls out there...

haha while that's probably the majority, some of us do actually have game. in fact, i have tons

Yo D, whatever happened to that lil hottie you were feeding salami (after you broke up with your g/f of like 3 years).

to be honest i have no idea.. if it was in past year... jesus go-kart driving christ i've had TOO much fun with females. the stories i could tell ya(and maybe even pics!!)

<3 sp33

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: sixone
If it bothers you, say so. She gets to choose - better to find out now than later.

Yup.

I was kind of like you, OP. There's a line between being social and being an attention whore (male or female). I wasn't as much jealous/paranoid as I was annoyed by the fact that they need constant attention and praise from others just to get through the day. I don't care if the girl has 50 "girlfriends"... if she can't walk to the mailbox without attaching herself to the hip of one of the members of her "support system", then I'm outta there.

If a woman can't stand on her own two feet and feel confident in herself, then that's a mess I don't need to deal with. Throughout my dating career, I was naturally attracted to smart, confident women. Occasionally my radar went FUBAR and I ended up with some sorority-wannabe or some coked-up chick that was "high on life" (die). They like to call themselves "social butterflies". I like to call them "high maintenances pains in the ass". Thankfully my radar was generally accurate and I only had two (three, tops) such encounters.

I'm not painting all women with the same brush and I'm certainly not saying there aren't guys out there with the same personality.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: Wreckem

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: zixxer
The past year or so I've been (for the most part) single. I've dated 6 girls in this time. 4 of them were fairly hot (I'd say 8-9/10.)

While I'm not a jealous person, I try not to date girls with tons of 'guy friends'. I feel like it's just asking for trouble - especially when the girl 'trusts them, because they are just friends - nothing would happen'.

That being said, every hot girl I've dated has primarily guy friends - duh.

How do you handle it? I try and suck it up - don't be/act jealous and whatnot, but on some level it's getting fairly irritating. I've been dating one in particular (monogamous) for about two months. She's always posting on these guys facebook that she wants to hang out when they're in town, etc etc. Personally, when girls I used to hang out with make a huge point for me to call them or whatever they usually are wanting to be more than 'just friends'. This isn't the case with her, but it still irritates me and I'm not sure how to approach it.


Thoughts?

There's a reason they're in the friend zone and you're not (i.e. they're wussies and worship her). Only you have the power to please your girl, not them. Don't forget that and get this crap outta your head.

Yeah but that tends to go out the window when alcohol is mixed into the equation.

True, but then he needs to grow some balls and tell her binge drinking with them would annoy him. Hanging out is cool though. Guys don't just magically turn into a man overnight, otherwise they wouldn't be in the friend zone. However, if some of them got ahold of some of the courses I've taken on dating I'd be worried. Thankfully most guys who are "friends" just accept their fate and don't try to improve and read books/take courses on how to attract hotties.

I don't think you guys get what I'm saying - she doesn't go out getting wasted with them. What aggravates me is stuff like when they change their facebook pic and she'll post on their wall that she "is really liking the new profile pic " if a chick posted that on my 'facebook' thing I'm going to have one impression - and not one that's just 'friends'.. To her, they're just friends and she doesn't mean it that way.

Well if that's the case, you need to get over your insecurity. By being a needy, jealous wussy by looking at her male friends' facebook sites and worrying you are pushing her away. Just be a man (don't take her sht) and keep things exciting in the relationship (make her laugh, bust her balls, etc) and you won't have anything to worry about. If you lose her, the problem is most likely YOU and not her. Women are attracted to strong secure men who have many other options besides her, be that man if you aren't already.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: DP

Originally posted by: SP33Demon

Originally posted by: DP

Originally posted by: BUrassler
Anandtech guys have every single one of the "9 out of 10" girls out there...

haha while that's probably the majority, some of us do actually have game. in fact, i have tons

Yo D, whatever happened to that lil hottie you were feeding salami (after you broke up with your g/f of like 3 years).

to be honest i have no idea.. if it was in past year... jesus go-kart driving christ i've had TOO much fun with females. the stories i could tell ya(and maybe even pics!!)

<3 sp33

Haha we'll have to chat via AIM again. :beer:

 

[Hyperlite]

mabye she is just a tease? I know is hard to tell and frustrating, i go through this constantly. The thing i am trying to figure out is if this girl (9/10, no debate) i am talking to complains all the time to make conversation or if she really just complains about everything. I'd like to figure that out before i got any further. meh.

 

[MaxDepth]

So...you're afraid that when she wants a threesome it'll be you two and another dude?

And please, don't rate your girlfriends. We will do that for you. So post those pics.

 

[Chryso]

Originally posted by: zixxer

I don't think you guys get what I'm saying - she doesn't go out getting wasted with them. What aggravates me is stuff like when they change their facebook pic and she'll post on their wall that she "is really liking the new profile pic " if a chick posted that on my 'facebook' thing I'm going to have one impression - and not one that's just 'friends'.. To her, they're just friends and she doesn't mean it that way.

So you are also web stalking her?

 

[MisterJackson]

I tend to not really talk to a girl if she has a myspace page or a facebook page. Of course I prefer my ladies a little more mature, anywhere from the 25 to 35 year old range, so this usually isn't an issue.

As for your girl commenting on other guys pics, well, she'd do it in real life with her girlfriends and such, it's what women do. So your problem isn't that she's doing it per se, but that you're more aware of it because of the internet. Out of sight out of mind my friend.

Hyperlite, if she's a complainer now, to you, a bulk of the time you talk, then she's been that way for awile and likely won't change any time soon. Odds are she complains about you to others or will eventually. I'm sorry, but that's the way it is man.

 

[jlbenedict]

Shens on this whole thread..