So I met a girl that works at my company at a party sometime last year, she seemed funny and she was cute but I didn?t think much of it really..
Now before I go much further, the company is 9,000 people plus so it isn?t like I see her at work, I don?t think I have seen her but two times in 10 months at work. For this purpose, we shall call her...Mary.
Anywho!
After I met Mary there, she tells a mutual acquaintance that when I did see her I did not say hi or anything so I must not remember her. Of course I see Mary again after that and make a point to say hello....a month or two goes by and I don?t think anything of it....
Next thing I know our mutual acquaintance is asking me to lunch and Mary is going to. We go, laugh a bit, and have a decent time, but it is just lunch with two girls from work. so nothing to think about there. I end up sending Mary again at work and ask her if she wants to come to happy hour with a few of us...so she does. At Happy hour, I get a good look at her, and talk to her for a while and I realize she is a cute girl, but also very funny and nice, etc. Still, no big deal. just an observation...
A week goes by and I get an email from her asking what is up with me today, the normal stuff. We correspond a bit just joking around and I ask her to go to happy hour again with us. She says yes, and I find out that she wants to go but she wants to wait until I am going so that she knows someone more than just to say hi in the hall. Sounds reasonable to me right?
Things move along and I ask her out to lunch (just her and I0 ac couple of times and she says yes and we end up going and have fun. But again, it seems to me that it is just lunch with some girl from work. However, this last time I get the idea that I would like to see her again but after/outside of work. Therefore, I muster up the guts and I ask her out.
She tells me that she has a graduation party on one day and dinner with her family on the next, but she wants to call me back later in the day to let me know if they are both still happening and she will let me know about dinner. I even tell her we can go somewhere she wants to and she replies that she will go where ever, that she is easy going.
Sounds promising right? Well I get a call back and she tells me that both things are still on, so I just say OK and tell her to have a nice weekend, thinking in my head that she is not interested and that I should let it go. She does say before we hang up that she will talk to me towards the end of the week, to which I say OK, but I do not really think much of it.
Well between the and now I figure it is a wash and I figure if she calls or says hi it is just a friendly thing and that the date is a no go. Easy right? Like most dumbass guys I talk to a couple girls I know to get their take and it is 50/50 of course one replies she is blowing me off but doesn?t know how to do it effectively, but she still wants to be friends.
Another thinks she is interested and that I should ask again, I disagree on this, I think asking again seems to damn desperate and it has only been like5-6 days...so I decide to let her come to me and make some talk.
Today I get an email that says and I quote "It seems like forever since we talked...how is it going in your world today?"
Umm..WTF does that mean?? Does it mean she feels like we have not talked over the last few days and she is missing it? Alternatively, does it mean that what I think is only 4-5 days is like 3 months in her time?
The emails go back and forth between us, joking, talking about our weekends, etc...and then one of the people I asked comes by and tells me I should ask her again, that if she was blowing me off then she wouldn?t be so nice and friendly, that she is probably waiting to see if I will ask again..
WTF, why is this crap so confusing?
Now before I go much further, the company is 9,000 people plus so it isn?t like I see her at work, I don?t think I have seen her but two times in 10 months at work. For this purpose, we shall call her...Mary.
Anywho!
After I met Mary there, she tells a mutual acquaintance that when I did see her I did not say hi or anything so I must not remember her. Of course I see Mary again after that and make a point to say hello....a month or two goes by and I don?t think anything of it....
Next thing I know our mutual acquaintance is asking me to lunch and Mary is going to. We go, laugh a bit, and have a decent time, but it is just lunch with two girls from work. so nothing to think about there. I end up sending Mary again at work and ask her if she wants to come to happy hour with a few of us...so she does. At Happy hour, I get a good look at her, and talk to her for a while and I realize she is a cute girl, but also very funny and nice, etc. Still, no big deal. just an observation...
A week goes by and I get an email from her asking what is up with me today, the normal stuff. We correspond a bit just joking around and I ask her to go to happy hour again with us. She says yes, and I find out that she wants to go but she wants to wait until I am going so that she knows someone more than just to say hi in the hall. Sounds reasonable to me right?
Things move along and I ask her out to lunch (just her and I0 ac couple of times and she says yes and we end up going and have fun. But again, it seems to me that it is just lunch with some girl from work. However, this last time I get the idea that I would like to see her again but after/outside of work. Therefore, I muster up the guts and I ask her out.
She tells me that she has a graduation party on one day and dinner with her family on the next, but she wants to call me back later in the day to let me know if they are both still happening and she will let me know about dinner. I even tell her we can go somewhere she wants to and she replies that she will go where ever, that she is easy going.
Sounds promising right? Well I get a call back and she tells me that both things are still on, so I just say OK and tell her to have a nice weekend, thinking in my head that she is not interested and that I should let it go. She does say before we hang up that she will talk to me towards the end of the week, to which I say OK, but I do not really think much of it.
Well between the and now I figure it is a wash and I figure if she calls or says hi it is just a friendly thing and that the date is a no go. Easy right? Like most dumbass guys I talk to a couple girls I know to get their take and it is 50/50 of course one replies she is blowing me off but doesn?t know how to do it effectively, but she still wants to be friends.
Another thinks she is interested and that I should ask again, I disagree on this, I think asking again seems to damn desperate and it has only been like5-6 days...so I decide to let her come to me and make some talk.
Today I get an email that says and I quote "It seems like forever since we talked...how is it going in your world today?"
Umm..WTF does that mean?? Does it mean she feels like we have not talked over the last few days and she is missing it? Alternatively, does it mean that what I think is only 4-5 days is like 3 months in her time?
The emails go back and forth between us, joking, talking about our weekends, etc...and then one of the people I asked comes by and tells me I should ask her again, that if she was blowing me off then she wouldn?t be so nice and friendly, that she is probably waiting to see if I will ask again..
WTF, why is this crap so confusing?
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