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spidey07

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Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: EatSpam
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well this girl and i aren't dating. We are just friends (I made sure to clarify that) so i cant claim that.

In that case, who cares? Unless you are interested in her, of course...

I was/am, but after talking about it with her, she just wants to be friends. Right now we are under enough stress as it is, and im fine with just friends. If we dated and something went wrong that would be very very bad (Same church, same school, both going on the church trips, choir (etc...)).

Spidey, you think i should just say look ill take you at 7. What do i do about the other guy. Say "Ill handle it??". I would like to but i cant handle it as of right now.

-Kevin

why do you care or need to care about the other guy?

not your problem. If she puts it on you just call him and say "she's going to prom with me, back off"

see what I'm saying? a full 60 seconds of your time and all this drama can be over.
 

Gamingphreek

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Well when i talk to her tomorrow ill tell her that. Hopefully, im PRAYING, it will work out.

If not, then ill have to try and get another date. My friends said they have some suggestions :\ (Would rather go with this girl though!)

-Kevin
 

Sukhoi

Elite Member
Dec 5, 1999
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Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: EatSpam
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well this girl and i aren't dating. We are just friends (I made sure to clarify that) so i cant claim that.

In that case, who cares? Unless you are interested in her, of course...

I was/am, but after talking about it with her, she just wants to be friends. Right now we are under enough stress as it is, and im fine with just friends. If we dated and something went wrong that would be very very bad (Same church, same school, both going on the church trips, choir (etc...)).

Spidey, you think i should just say look ill take you at 7. What do i do about the other guy. Say "Ill handle it??". I would like to but i cant handle it as of right now.

-Kevin

Stop being a pussy. And in regards to not dating her because you do stuff with her...wtf? Unless you're picking up random chicks at the bar or doing blind dates you're always going to be dating someone that you do something with.
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: EatSpam
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well this girl and i aren't dating. We are just friends (I made sure to clarify that) so i cant claim that.

In that case, who cares? Unless you are interested in her, of course...

I was/am, but after talking about it with her, she just wants to be friends. Right now we are under enough stress as it is, and im fine with just friends. If we dated and something went wrong that would be very very bad (Same church, same school, both going on the church trips, choir (etc...)).

Spidey, you think i should just say look ill take you at 7. What do i do about the other guy. Say "Ill handle it??". I would like to but i cant handle it as of right now.

-Kevin

why do you care or need to care about the other guy?

not your problem. If she puts it on you just call him and say "she's going to prom with me, back off"

see what I'm saying? a full 60 seconds of your time and all this drama can be over.

Because his family and my family are friends, we go to the same churc, same youth group, same school; and unlike me he may not have a chance at another date. Not only that, IM not the one who can tell him whats up, she is (Believe me if i could i would so she didnt' have to).

If i wasn't such an idiot and i asked one day earlier (Or one of the other million opportunities) then this would all be moot. DAMN!!!!!!

-Kevin
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: Sukhoi
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: EatSpam
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well this girl and i aren't dating. We are just friends (I made sure to clarify that) so i cant claim that.

In that case, who cares? Unless you are interested in her, of course...

I was/am, but after talking about it with her, she just wants to be friends. Right now we are under enough stress as it is, and im fine with just friends. If we dated and something went wrong that would be very very bad (Same church, same school, both going on the church trips, choir (etc...)).

Spidey, you think i should just say look ill take you at 7. What do i do about the other guy. Say "Ill handle it??". I would like to but i cant handle it as of right now.

-Kevin

Stop being a pussy. And in regards to not dating her because you do stuff with her...wtf? Unless you're picking up random chicks at the bar or doing blind dates you're always going to be dating someone that you do something with.

Yes, but she just wants to be friends. It is ultimately her decision, i can only influence it so much in my favor. This isn't to say the nothing may ever happen, but AT LEAST in the near future she is only interested in being friends.

As for letting the guy know; i dont know how, but i would imagine that i would have to let her know first.

IT JUST HIT ME:
She calls tells him the truth that she just doesn't think she can go with him. She just doesn't feel like either of them would have fun.

Afterwards (ie: 2 days or so) i go to him and say, i heard about you two and was wondering if it would be awkward for you at all if i asked her to prom. He is a nice guy he would say "Yes". And even if he didn't at least he doesn't know that she changed her mind specifically for me so i would just go with her anyways.

Unless there are any better suggestions or any other advice ill run that by her after school and after my track practice tomorrow.

-Kevin
 

Sukhoi

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Dec 5, 1999
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Yes, but she just wants to be friends. It is ultimately her decision, i can only influence it so much in my favor. This isn't to say the nothing may ever happen, but AT LEAST in the near future she is only interested in being friends.

That's a little different then...not much you can do about it. But never avoid asking a girl out just because you have required activities with them. Twice I've gone out on dates with a girl I sat next to in a class, and neither went anywhere. It was only awkward for a day or two after that, then it was like normal. Hell the one girl graduated, moved out to Phoenix, and I'm stopping by to visit when I'm on a trip out that way this summer.
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: Sukhoi
Yes, but she just wants to be friends. It is ultimately her decision, i can only influence it so much in my favor. This isn't to say the nothing may ever happen, but AT LEAST in the near future she is only interested in being friends.

That's a little different then...not much you can do about it. But never avoid asking a girl out just because you have required activities with them. Twice I've gone out on dates with a girl I sat next to in a class, and neither went anywhere. It was only awkward for a day or two after that, then it was like normal. Hell the one girl graduated, moved out to Phoenix, and I'm stopping by to visit when I'm on a trip out that way this summer.

Yeah, and by no means has that stopped me before. I went out with one of my friends from work on a couple dates and we were going to prom (Neither quite worked out). It was rough for a couple of days, but afterwards it was fine, in fact we might even have been closer friends.

-Kevin
 

Azndude2190

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Jul 4, 2005
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Originally posted by: CrackRabbit
You could just do like my prom date did to me, arrive with me and not speak to me pretty much the rest of the night...

dude how fvked up is that:(
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Well i talked to her today. She told the guy she couldn't go with him. She felt really bad, and knew she shouldn't have said "Yes" in the first place. I just sort of said im sure everything will be fine, and talked to her for support.

I thought it best not to ask if she still wants to go at that very moment. Im going to give her a day or 2 before i ask what she wants to do; i dont want to overwhelm her.

Hopefully she still wants to go, or at least i can convince her to go...im not going to push anything though.

-Kevin
 

hypn0tik

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Jul 5, 2005
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Originally posted by: CrackRabbit
Originally posted by: hypn0tik
Originally posted by: CrackRabbit
You could just do like my prom date did to me, arrive with me and not speak to me pretty much the rest of the night...

Hahaha. That's pretty much EXACTLY what happened to me.

Sucks doesn't it. I wasn't upset about it just mildy annoyed. Had fun anyways.

Hahaha. It sucked for the first half hour when I let it bother me. After that I thought to my self, 'Fvck that b!tch. I'm going to have a good time.'

I had a blast after that epiphany.
 

her209

No Lifer
Oct 11, 2000
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Have the girl tell the guy that you knocked her up and it wouldn't be right if she didn't go with her baby's daddy.
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: her209
Have the girl tell the guy that you knocked her up and it wouldn't be right if she didn't go with her baby's daddy.

Lol no thanks... (For the record, if you know any of my other threads youd know that i dont believe in premarital sex...)

-Kevin
 

her209

No Lifer
Oct 11, 2000
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Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: her209
Have the girl tell the guy that you knocked her up and it wouldn't be right if she didn't go with her baby's daddy.
Lol no thanks... (For the record, if you know any of my other threads youd know that i dont believe in premarital sex...)

-Kevin
Even if its pretend premarrital sex?
 

hypn0tik

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Jul 5, 2005
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Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: her209
Have the girl tell the guy that you knocked her up and it wouldn't be right if she didn't go with her baby's daddy.

Lol no thanks... (For the record, if you know any of my other threads youd know that i dont believe in premarital sex...)

-Kevin

What about premarital oral sex?
 

Gamingphreek

Lifer
Mar 31, 2003
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Originally posted by: her209
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: her209
Have the girl tell the guy that you knocked her up and it wouldn't be right if she didn't go with her baby's daddy.
Lol no thanks... (For the record, if you know any of my other threads youd know that i dont believe in premarital sex...)

-Kevin
Even if its pretend premarrital sex?

Lol....WELL if it is pretend :p

Nah i knew you were just messing around.

I dont want this thread to get any more OT...hopefully by tomorrow ill have an answer. Im seriously hoping that she wants to go or at least that i can convince her to still go. (I could have solved all this by just asking her first, but no i had to go and wait!!)

-Kevin