YAGT: Best Friend's newly ex-girlfriend wants a relationship with me

[UncleWai]

Do you have a cluster of friends along with your best friend?
If I know one of my close friend is dating the ex of another close friend, I will be the sh!t out of him.

 

[kranky]

Six months from now, you'll have broken up with her and lost your friend in the bargain. You want to keep him from finding out? How will that work, living two separate lives? Not going to happen.

Don't even get started with her. It's going to be messy.

Billions of women out there. Only a handful are off-limits and your close friend's ex's are in that group.

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: thawolfman

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
Bros before hoes. Especially if he's a really good friend of yours.

:beer:

:thumbsup:

 

[LanceM]

What's with all this "bro's before ho's" bull? Seriously, grow up.

If I were to take your post as the whole story, it sounds like he's the one with issues, not her. Why should you, or her, have to suffer because he's a little jerk that whines when he doesn't get his way?

If he and his friends get all riled up over this, it's not like you'll never find any other dudes to play catch with or have over to watch football. In ten years, you'll probably be best friends with your neighbor and not have spoken to this guy in nine years, anyway.

People say that there are a "billion women out there." Is it really worth missing a great girl because your friend couldn't handle a relationship with her? A friend is NOT a friend if he or she causes you to lose opportunities in life. Loyalty is pointless if they don't deserve it.

 

[dabuddha]

Bros before hoes.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: NorthRiver
I married my friends ex, and let me tell you...I saved his ass big time!! We're divorced now, and yeah it was hot while it lasted, but the woman is a fracking nut job! To top it off we have a child together and it has been the most wonderful 12 years of my life..not. 4 more years to go baby...Woohoooooooooo

I say hit it dude, you only live once!

Don't you mean 6 more years?

 

[sswingle]

How about some pics that arent on facebook.

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
Pic 1
Pic 2

could have done without the second pic!

yeah you're right dude go over there tomorrow and stuff and see what goes down... but i'd maybe talk to your buddy before gettin serious with her... you don't wanna lose a friend over some girl ... at least not right now anyway!

 

[Al Neri]

um... ever consider getting your own girl...

edit:

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
She invited me over to her house tomorrow (tonight) to help her give out halloween candy and watch movies and such.

maybe you can tell your friend you were helping her w/ the arduous task of handing out candy

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
It would be unwise for you to go over there tomorrow.

Agreed. That said, hit it.

 

[Viperoni]

Tread carefully... the ice is thin.

 

[Stuxnet]

But seriously, I would just discuss it with your friend. If he's really that much of an ass, you have to ask yourself if he's the kind of friend you want anyway.

I hung out with a huge group of friends back in high school and college, and it wasn't unusual for someone to end up dating one of their friends' ex's. It happened, it would sting for a little bit, but then people would get over it.

So just try to reason with him... just be prepared to have to make a decision between him and her. If you truly are BFF, then you probably just need to pass on this one.

Also ask yourself if he would hunt you down like a dog and curb stomp you for dating her. That would be bad, too.

 

[Tobolo]

Originally posted by: Corporate Thug
man rule: never date bestfriends ex...no matter how hot

 

[imported_Pablo]

Tell her to drop 15 lbs.

I'm kidding, but those pics are no way to tell if she's hot.

 

[ch33zw1z]

If he's a close friend, let him know what's going on...it's his choice whether or not he has a problem with it. I say go for it.

 

[J Heartless Slick]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
I spent a good 6 hours talking to her on MSN / phone the other night and every day since we've talked for a good period of time about everything. My friend was a tool to her, but that's because he had certain festering issues related to his previous relationship, so they called it quits rather violently (name calling, "f*ck you die," etc.), though all of it was from his end. She could be the first girl I've ever met that I have so much in common with... never really knew her before we started talking other than her being my friend's girlfriend.

She invited me over to her house tomorrow (tonight) to help her give out halloween candy and watch movies and such. I'm not looking at it as an opportunity to fall into a relationship with her, but I know she is from how she's been talking. This isn't to say that I wouldn't date her in a heartbeat, as the only reason I'm holding off is because of the high probability that I'll lose a best friend over it, and I definitely value my friends over a girl I only recently got to know.

Any ideas? I'm planning on going over to her house tomorrow regardless, but if it starts to escalate, should I let it? And what are the chances I could pull off a relationship with her without my friend even finding out?

Pics down a few posts

If you value your relationship with your friend will not date his ex.

 

[zebano]

She looks hot. Also, good friends get over the other dating their ex. There is a reason they are ex-bf/gf so he has no claim anymore. That said, she is probably looking for a rebound bang, so decide if that matters to you or not. Finally, like someone else said, down the road your best friends will be your neighbors, relatives and coworkers. I have one good friend from college that I still hang out with regularily (approx every 2 months) and I see my high school friends maybe once a year.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LanceM
What's with all this "bro's before ho's" bull? Seriously, grow up.

If I were to take your post as the whole story, it sounds like he's the one with issues, not her. Why should you, or her, have to suffer because he's a little jerk that whines when he doesn't get his way?

If he and his friends get all riled up over this, it's not like you'll never find any other dudes to play catch with or have over to watch football. In ten years, you'll probably be best friends with your neighbor and not have spoken to this guy in nine years, anyway.

People say that there are a "billion women out there." Is it really worth missing a great girl because your friend couldn't handle a relationship with her? A friend is NOT a friend if he or she causes you to lose opportunities in life. Loyalty is pointless if they don't deserve it.

i agree with you for the most part but considering they only broke up 5 days ago, this sounds like a bad idea. its either revenge or rebound on the girl's part and that can't be good.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: LanceM
What's with all this "bro's before ho's" bull? Seriously, grow up.

If I were to take your post as the whole story, it sounds like he's the one with issues, not her. Why should you, or her, have to suffer because he's a little jerk that whines when he doesn't get his way?

If he and his friends get all riled up over this, it's not like you'll never find any other dudes to play catch with or have over to watch football. In ten years, you'll probably be best friends with your neighbor and not have spoken to this guy in nine years, anyway.

People say that there are a "billion women out there." Is it really worth missing a great girl because your friend couldn't handle a relationship with her? A friend is NOT a friend if he or she causes you to lose opportunities in life. Loyalty is pointless if they don't deserve it.

Whats with this desperate behavior, chasing every girl that gives you the time of day? GROW UP. Have some standards and principles.


bitches they come they go. a real friend is a priceless commodity. I wouldn't risk a great friendship over some girl who is a dime a dozen.(which she is) regardless of whether or not the friend was being stupid about it. But then again I'm not coming from a needy place like you seem to be where you would jump all over your friends ex's, sisters, cousins, mothers etc..... I don't need to bang every girl I have an opportunity with. I can be selective and still have ample choices. Friendship > any girl.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Corporate Thug
man rule: never date bestfriends ex...no matter how hot

Exactly... BROS Before What?

I would never do that to my best friend, or if I did, I would wait for a while (and I mean give it time) and then man up and talk to him about it. If he isn't cool with the idea though, there are plenty of other girls that are awesome out there.

 

[TecHNooB]

What a hottie..... definitely go to her house. Whatever happens afterwards.. just call it a learning experience =]

 

[Gunslinger08]

Do you value your friendship? Are you willing to lose it over a girl who might not end up even dating you?

Personally, I wouldn't do it. Friends are more important than that to me.

 

[GalvanizedYankee]

OP will loose friend forever and just end up tool #2...Betcha!!

 

[thirdlegstump]

She's hot and I don't believe in the "Man Rule." Go for it. The worst that could happen is that you have a jealous friend but that's just one human out of millions.

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: deathkoba
She's hot and I don't believe in the "Man Rule." Go for it. The worst that could happen is that you have a jealous friend but that's just one human out of millions.

You are a great example of what's wrong with the world. No loyalty whatsoever.