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YAGT: Am I being totally ridiculous?

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So my girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and nine months now, but things have only gotten "serious" for the past year. She lives an hour away so we don't see eachother often, but she did come two days ago and stayed for the night. We had sex for the first time (I'm 16) as well.

Last night she went to some party and ending up "slow-dancing" with a guy she had a past with. I'm not really sure what happened between them before I came into the picture, but I know they have a past. Now I don't care if she dances with guys, I mean its dancing, who cares, but it just really bothers me that she ended up dancing with him.

Am I being totally unreasonable and overly jealous?

Wow...this post COMPLETELY sounds like a teenage soap opera 😀.
 
Originally posted by: SLCentral
So my girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and nine months now, but things have only gotten "serious" for the past year. She lives an hour away so we don't see eachother often, but she did come two days ago and stayed for the night. We had sex for the first time (I'm 16) as well.

Last night she went to some party and ending up "slow-dancing" with a guy she had a past with. I'm not really sure what happened between them before I came into the picture, but I know they have a past. Now I don't care if she dances with guys, I mean its dancing, who cares, but it just really bothers me that she ended up dancing with him.

Am I being totally unreasonable and overly jealous?

Wow...this post COMPLETELY sounds like a teenage soap opera 😀.
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come back in 10 years and let us know how your puppy love views have changed...

this post nominated for dumbest YAGT of the year!
 
Originally posted by: SLCentral
So my girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and nine months now, but things have only gotten "serious" for the past year. She lives an hour away so we don't see eachother often, but she did come two days ago and stayed for the night. We had sex for the first time (I'm 16) as well.

Last night she went to some party and ending up "slow-dancing" with a guy she had a past with. I'm not really sure what happened between them before I came into the picture, but I know they have a past. Now I don't care if she dances with guys, I mean its dancing, who cares, but it just really bothers me that she ended up dancing with him.

Am I being totally unreasonable and overly jealous?

Wow...this post COMPLETELY sounds like a teenage soap opera 😀.
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Let me explain something to you... Majority of relationships doesn't starts even at 16... What you are experiencing is just a dream... Wait until you are at least my age [21] and then I'll give you more say.
 
Originally posted by: CVSiN
Originally posted by: SLCentral
So my girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and nine months now, but things have only gotten "serious" for the past year. She lives an hour away so we don't see eachother often, but she did come two days ago and stayed for the night. We had sex for the first time (I'm 16) as well.

Last night she went to some party and ending up "slow-dancing" with a guy she had a past with. I'm not really sure what happened between them before I came into the picture, but I know they have a past. Now I don't care if she dances with guys, I mean its dancing, who cares, but it just really bothers me that she ended up dancing with him.

Am I being totally unreasonable and overly jealous?

Wow...this post COMPLETELY sounds like a teenage soap opera 😀.
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come back in 10 years and let us know how your puppy love views have changed...

this post nominated for dumbest YAGT of the year!
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Reread the post...you're right, this sounds beyond retarded.
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you're not worried about her dancing, you're worried about what they did in the closet late that night when you were nowhere to be found and she was boozy.

admit it!
 
Right you are, it does sound like a teenage soap opera.

You are not totally unreasonable about feeling a little unsettled about the situation. It's a total normal reaction. The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. Ask her how she would feel if you were dancing with a girl you had a past with (hypothetical question, of course).

However, it seems like she already told you this; so she might have felt a little weird about it. In this case, get over it. But watch for other things that may occur.

This is a long-distance relationship (because of the age factor) and those are hard to keep. Plus, you're only 16--so don't get too worked up about this girl.

Best of luck. 🙂
 
You need to relax. Some guys are far too uptight about things. She dances with a guy WOW, big deal. If she is going to cheat let her cheat. Who cares? Are you getting ass? Use a condom and check out another girl. Your in HS going to College, SO many girls man.

Koing
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
you're not worried about her dancing, you're worried about what they did in the closet late that night when you were nowhere to be found and she was boozy.

admit it!
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meltys back!
 
Originally posted by: mitmot
Originally posted by: meltdown75
you're not worried about her dancing, you're worried about what they did in the closet late that night when you were nowhere to be found and she was boozy.

admit it!
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melty's back!
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you wanna scratch it? 😛
 
you're 16... this girl means a lot to you.. so will the next one


Some trust must be involved in the relationship. At 16, with a relationship of over a year, with a girl that lives an hour away is a serious strain. There isnt anything you can do to help the situation except MAYBE if you calmly stated how much it upset you that of all the people that that she danced with him. However then it becomes the trust issue and jealousy. This is a touchy subject and you may be best off just to let it go unless you hear of anything happening between them from the time you started dating her until now. If you have never heard anything and dont hear anything then there isnt really any reason not to trust her.


/thread (imo)
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: mitmot
Originally posted by: meltdown75
you're not worried about her dancing, you're worried about what they did in the closet late that night when you were nowhere to be found and she was boozy.

admit it!
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melty's back!
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you wanna scratch it? 😛
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is it scratch and sniff? 😱
 
Originally posted by: EMPshockwave82
you're 16... this girl means a lot to you.. so will the next one


Some trust must be involved in the relationship. At 16, with a relationship of over a year, with a girl that lives an hour away is a serious strain. There isnt anything you can do to help the situation except MAYBE if you calmly stated how much it upset you that of all the people that that she danced with him. However then it becomes the trust issue and jealousy. This is a touchy subject and you may be best off just to let it go unless you hear of anything happening between them from the time you started dating her until now. If you have never heard anything and dont hear anything then there isnt really any reason not to trust her.


/thread (imo)
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Yeah, you're right. Like I said, I reread the post and I sound ridiculous.
 
OP: don't worry about a little slow dance.

so, have you asked where his hands were yet? 😀 lol - i'm just playing with you.

if the girl wants to be with you NOW, who cares about a little dance? how'd you find out about it? did she tell you herself?

i can't believe i am participating in a YAGT with a 16-yr-old. 🙂

if all else fails, there are lots of fish in the sea my young padawan! you're too young to be thinking long-term anyway. get out there and do some slow-dancing with all types of young nubile women! 😛
 
Originally posted by: SLCentral
So my girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and nine months now, but things have only gotten "serious" for the past year. She lives an hour away so we don't see eachother often, but she did come two days ago and stayed for the night. We had sex for the first time (I'm 16) as well.

Last night she went to some party and ending up "slow-dancing" with a guy she had a past with. I'm not really sure what happened between them before I came into the picture, but I know they have a past. Now I don't care if she dances with guys, I mean its dancing, who cares, but it just really bothers me that she ended up dancing with him.

Am I being totally unreasonable and overly jealous?

Wow...this post COMPLETELY sounds like a teenage soap opera 😀.
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Wait wait... you've been dating this girl for almost 2 years, but she was dancing with a guy that she "had a past with"??? So you're twisted over a guy she hung with when she was 13 or 14 years old?

Yes, this sounds like a teenage soap opera.

Just be glad you had sex. The bad news is she was probably using you for practice for this other guy.

Let the mindscrewing begin!!!

(but seriously... your life hasn't even begun yet 😉 Just wait until college bro...)
 
Originally posted by: SLCentral
Originally posted by: EMPshockwave82
you're 16... this girl means a lot to you.. so will the next one


Some trust must be involved in the relationship. At 16, with a relationship of over a year, with a girl that lives an hour away is a serious strain. There isnt anything you can do to help the situation except MAYBE if you calmly stated how much it upset you that of all the people that that she danced with him. However then it becomes the trust issue and jealousy. This is a touchy subject and you may be best off just to let it go unless you hear of anything happening between them from the time you started dating her until now. If you have never heard anything and dont hear anything then there isnt really any reason not to trust her.


/thread (imo)
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Yeah, you're right. Like I said, I reread the post and I sound ridiculous.
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sorry.. started to type with only 1 reply in thread
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
OP: don't worry about a little slow dance.

so, have you asked where his hands were yet? 😀 lol - i'm just playing with you.

if the girl wants to be with you NOW, who cares about a little dance? how'd you find out about it? did she tell you herself?

i can't believe i am participating in a YAGT with a 16-yr-old. 🙂

if all else fails, there are lots of fish in the sea my young padawan! you're too young to be thinking long-term anyway. get out there and do some slow-dancing with all types of young nubile women! 😛
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:thumbsup:. What do you mean by "do you know if she wants to be with you now?"

She told me herself that she did because she didn't think it was a big deal, which I suppose it isn't.
 
Originally posted by: SLCentral
Originally posted by: meltdown75
OP: don't worry about a little slow dance.

so, have you asked where his hands were yet? 😀 lol - i'm just playing with you.

if the girl wants to be with you NOW, who cares about a little dance? how'd you find out about it? did she tell you herself?

i can't believe i am participating in a YAGT with a 16-yr-old. 🙂

if all else fails, there are lots of fish in the sea my young padawan! you're too young to be thinking long-term anyway. get out there and do some slow-dancing with all types of young nubile women! 😛
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:thumbsup:. What do you mean by "do you know if she wants to be with you now?"

She told me herself that she did because she didn't think it was a big deal, which I suppose it isn't.
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you should be researching p00ning techniques, not asking computer geeks about what they think of your girly slow-dancing. 😛
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: SLCentral
Originally posted by: meltdown75
OP: don't worry about a little slow dance.

so, have you asked where his hands were yet? 😀 lol - i'm just playing with you.

if the girl wants to be with you NOW, who cares about a little dance? how'd you find out about it? did she tell you herself?

i can't believe i am participating in a YAGT with a 16-yr-old. 🙂

if all else fails, there are lots of fish in the sea my young padawan! you're too young to be thinking long-term anyway. get out there and do some slow-dancing with all types of young nubile women! 😛
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:thumbsup:. What do you mean by "do you know if she wants to be with you now?"

She told me herself that she did because she didn't think it was a big deal, which I suppose it isn't.
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you should be researching p00ning techniques, not asking computer geeks about what they think of your girly slow-dancing. 😛
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😀.
 
You won't be marrying her, despite what you may think now.

the rule for all women is to not give a fvck. She will do what she will do, you can't stop it. So if your being unreasonable or not is not the issue, she could care less to do what you think she should.

Honestly dude, trust me on this, just DON'T GIVE A FVCK and she'll either come to you or go to him. Either way that's what will happen, my way will save you some face.

But you won't take my advice will you........you'll give her an ultimatum......then you'll be posting: "YAGT: My gf left me for her ex."
 
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
You won't be marrying her, despite what you may think now.

the rule for all women is to not give a fvck. She will do what she will do, you can't stop it. So if your being unreasonable or not is not the issue, she could care less to do what you think she should.

Honestly dude, trust me on this, just DON'T GIVE A FVCK and she'll either come to you or go to him. Either way that's what will happen, my way will save you some face.

But you won't take my advice will you........you'll give her an ultimatum......then you'll be posting: "YAGT: My gf left me for her ex."
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I like this approach. Thanks for the advice, man.
 
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