YAGT: about the whole confidence thing

[Special K]

There is one thing I just don't get about the whole confidence thing - how are you supposed to be genuinely confident about yourself knowing that there are many guys out there better than you? No matter what trait about yourself you are proud of - money, looks, intelligence, etc., there is always someone out there who is better than you at it. Unless of course you really are the best of the best - i.e., a pro athlete, famous actor, etc.

So how are you supposed to act confident knowing there are tons of people out there better than you at any ability/trait you could imagine? It seems to me confidence is just a feeling of well being derived from knowing you are better than the other guys out there, giving you a better shot at being sucessful with women. Considering that statistically, most guys are not the very best at these things, how are they supposed to feel confident knowing that there are so many people better than them out there?

It almost seems like you have to put on an act if you aren't close to the best at something.

 

[speg]

You don't have to be the best to be confident. Every baseball player goes up to bat with confidence that they can get a hit, but there is only one guy at the top of the standings.

 

[edro]

Confidence doesn't mean you are the best... it means you are sure of your own abilities.

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: speg
You don't have to be the best to be confident. Every baseball player goes up to bat with confidence that they can get a hit, but there is only one guy at the top of the standings.

:thumbsup:

 

[Baked]

If you have to ask, you don't have it and probably never will.

 

[sixone]

Don't judge yourself based on a comparison with others. That is a contest you can never win.

Instead, be confident that you are making the most of what you have to work with.

 

[Shadowknight]

Confidence is in part not giving a crap about the other guy. To paraphrase from Fight Club "let that, which does not matter, truely slide." It doesn't matter what other people think about, only what YOU think about you.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Special K
There is one thing I just don't get about the whole confidence thing - how are you supposed to be genuinely confident about yourself knowing that there are many guys out there better than you? No matter what trait about yourself you are proud of - money, looks, intelligence, etc., there is always someone out there who is better than you at it. Unless of course you really are the best of the best - i.e., a pro athlete, famous actor, etc.

So how are you supposed to act confident knowing there are tons of people out there better than you at any ability/trait you could imagine? It seems to me confidence is just a feeling of well being derived from knowing you are better than the other guys out there, giving you a better shot at being sucessful with women. Considering that statistically, most guys are not the very best at these things, how are they supposed to feel confident knowing that there are so many people better than them out there?

It almost seems like you have to put on an act if you aren't close to the best at something.

then by your logic, there are tons of guys who are less confident than you

 

[Willoughbyva]

Originally posted by: sixone
Don't judge yourself based on a comparison with others. That is a contest you can never win.

Instead, be confident that you are making the most of what you have to work with.

Seems about right.


Perry

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: edro
Confidence doesn't mean you are the best... it means you are sure of your own abilities.

Well said.

There is always somebody better than you at anything. I'm sure I could woop Steven Hawkings behind in any number of things.