YAG(uy)T

[hzl eyed grl]

I've a question. I met a guy that loooves going to the movies. (Met him online and started talking because we have that in common.) We've been going to the movies a lot. I can't tell if he likes me likes me or just likes me as a friend to go to the movies with. Last night was the first night that he sort of leaned in against me in the show and then gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then tonight we went out with one of his roommates (the girlfriend of one of his others). He didn't act the same as last night. (Like kiss on the cheek, etc...) He's always totally chivalrous, opening doors and all that sh!t and is totally sweet. We have tons in common and I'm the first friend that he's brought back home since he's lived there. (11 months) His roommates seem to like me and the girl really does. She is gonna call me tomorrow to come over. I was going to go to the movies with him and his parents today, but they couldn't make it, so we're all going to go see "Amazing Grace" next weekend, I believe.

Would he have me meet his roomies/parents if I'm just a friend? I haven't dated in a looong time (broke up with my fiance in August and we haven't even really called these "dates", it's always been just that we're going to the movies or whatever) like this, so don't know what to think. I just don't know if he's interested because I just can't read him yet.

Opinions???



EDIT:

Update

Okay, here are the pics.

Pics: Geez. haha I got my hair cut today.
Gotta have a typical intarweb pic, right?
Satisfied?


UPDATE #1:

(I posted this last night.)
I just got home about half an hour ago.

Spent most of the day with the girl. I asked her what's up. lol She said that after being burned by his ex, he didn't date for a long time and went on his first date in quite a while a few months ago. (A few months before he met me.) She said that he is VERY shy. (Big shock, eh? Side note. . .she has a dog named Hazel. When she's called I want to turn around. haha) I guess they've been bugging him to find out what he thinks and he's just said that he isn't sure yet. She said that he definitely likes me but he's not letting on if it's more or not just yet. They're hoping he does because they want him to have someone and be happy. lol (Not that I'd mind, right?) After she and I went shopping (Didn't vacuum the car, shopping is more important, no? Hey, my birthday's in a week and most of my jeans don't fit!) we went back to their place and all the guys were already home. We watched tv, he made some home made chicken noodle soup that he shared with me and we all just watched tv and hung out. He'd had a long day at work and fell asleep on the couch. lol

Anyway, she basically thinks that he's just shy. (y'all thought that) She's hoping he likes me as more than friends, but both of us think/know that if it's not more than friends, we're all still good friends. She really likes him and said that he's one of the best roommates she's ever had. I'm waaay sleepy, but I shall keep you all informed as I know/find out anything. I'm having another procedure done on my back tomorrow, so I'll be out of commission for a lot of tomorrow.

The second picture includes my grandmother's chair. It's those kind with the remote control that lifts them slowly up so it's not as hard for them to get out. lol

Oh, and I haven't met his parents yet. That's, perhaps, next weekend.


Update #2:

He and I and two of his roommates (the one guy and his girlfriend) and one of his friends went to see 300 tonight. It was playing in two different auditoriums and both were freakin' packed! Anyway, a little way into the movie I finally worked up the balls to loop my arm through his. It doesn't seem like it'd be a big deal, but it took me a while. lol He and I will watch the movie with our arms crossed a lot and just lean over and talk. (We're usually guessing or saying what we think is gonna happen next.) He had his arms crossed and I slipped my arm through his. (Said that I kept getting chilly. Which was the truth because I was like right under an air conditioning vent.) He left his arms crossed and I left my arm there for a while. We were, unfortunately, in an area with no chairs or anything in front of us so we couldn't put our legs up. (Sucks when you have chronic pain.) I started hurting and needed to take my pain medicine. I slipped out my arm and watched him to see what he'd do. Instead of keeping his arms crossed, he opened them up and put his elbows on the rests. I took that as an okay to slip my arm in again. :thumbsup: (He certainly didn't seem to mind.) I left it that way until the movie ended. I gave him a kiss on the cheek when I left and he's gonna let me know when we're going to see the movie on Sunday. I'll see what happenz.

Update #3:

Saw "Amazing Grace" today with his 'rents. They're pretty cool. After I walked up and greeted them (made a lame joke) she said that I was cute and spunky. Haha Me? Cute? Spunky? Yeah, I know. I'm all o' dat.

Oh yeah. . .today's my birfday! Go me. (Not that I can take credit for that or anything. Just my parents getting jiggy wit' it. *shudder* :Q haha)


Update:
Well, some of you were right. He doesn't like me "like that".

 

[Gilligansdingy]

boring

 

[Shawn]

maybe, but it's too hard to tell from what you've described.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Being a guy, my professional opinion would say that he is interested in being more than friends with you.

-Kevin

 

[BillyBatson]

um ok if we are assuming he is totally straight (by the way how old is he?) then the whole kiss on the cheek thing does lead me to think he is interested but scared/shy and gauging your interest and how far he can go. As for not being the same way the day after that is totally expected since others were around and he prob didn't get much of a reaction after he kissed your cheek right? so he played it safe and went with what has been working while around others.
However you meeting his roomie and his parents is not a sign that he likes you or dislikes you. If anything i would say he may not because if he wanted you to be more than a friend the average guy would not introduce you to family yet BUT the shy side in him might mean he is a nice guy and sees it as harmless or maybe wants to see what they think.
Why not make a move on him if you are interested?

 

[DanTMWTMP]

could this be the first YAguyT ever in ATOT?

as for the guy, he does probably have an interest in you, but he's probably testing waters? donno. just give it time i suppose.

 

[tasmanian]

Originally posted by: BillyBatson
um ok if we are assuming he is totally straight (by the way how old is he?) then the whole kiss on the cheek thing does lead me to think he is interested but scared/shy and gauging your interest and how far he can go. As for not being the same way the day after that is totally expected since others were around and he prob didn't get much of a reaction after he kissed your cheek right? so he played it safe and went with what has been working while around others.
However you meeting his roomie and his parents is not a sign that he likes you or dislikes you. If anything i would say he may not because if he wanted you to be more than a friend the average guy would not introduce you to family yet BUT the shy side in him might mean he is a nice guy and sees it as harmless or maybe wants to see what they think.
Why not make a move on him if you are interested?

He sounds shy. Why not ask him to dinner after the movie.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Making a move on him, if you like him, would be the best thing you could do. It is a lot less stressful on a guy if he doesn't have to worry about making the right move at the right time. He doesn't have to worry about freaking you out if he asks you out on a formal date (By formal I mean official).

Also, whatever you do, don't ask him to talk about it. Us guys HATE talking about feelings and would probably rather jump off of a cliff before submitting ourselves to that "torture" (Not to say that is caused in anyway shape or form by you).

As for the shying away when everyone was there- it is normal. I wouldn't think to much on it. If it does grow into a serious relationship where you are both on the exact same page, I would expect that he wouldn't shy away as much. (ie: I certainly would feel comfortable complimenting someone I went out on a date with, when there are a bunch of other people there. Then again, people don't expect it from me, I prefer to break tension and be relaxed )

-Kevin

 

[Kirby]

He's interested, so make a move.

Oh yeah, pics

 

[gooseman]

I agree with the others. He wouldn't have given you the kiss on the cheek in the movies if he wasn't at least somewhat interested. He is just very shy. Prod him along and see what happens.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: Gilligansdingy
boring

Meh, sod off. YAGT's are here constantly, so I'm allowed my "boring" guy thread.

He's straight.
He's 32. I'll be 31 in 8 days.
He might be shy.
I probably didn't respond like I should have when he kissed me on the cheek because I was surprised and wasn't sure if I should have just gone for it. lol
I thought about making a slight move, but I'm normally not like that and I didn't know if i should because of NOT knowing how he feels about me. haha

Ummm I'll try to read more and see if I answered all the questions.

As for pics. . .Me or him?

EDIT:

Wait, I won't/don't want to post pics of him without asking and I don't want to ask him if I can post his pic in my YAG(uy)T.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: gooseman
I agree with the others. He wouldn't have given you the kiss on the cheek in the movies if he wasn't at least somewhat interested. He is just very shy. Prod him along and see what happens.

I guess I should have clarified: It wasn't at the movies. It was at my car when I was leaving his house.

 

[gooseman]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl

Originally posted by: gooseman
I agree with the others. He wouldn't have given you the kiss on the cheek in the movies if he wasn't at least somewhat interested. He is just very shy. Prod him along and see what happens.

I guess I should have clarified: It wasn't at the movies. It was at my car when I was leaving his house.

I would still say he is interested, just somewhat shy. Or more likely, very shy.
Give it a try.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Maybe if in doubt YOU should whip it out :Q

 

[canadageek]

obviously, you need to coerce him into having sexual relations with you.

 

[BillyBatson]

ok yeah i still stand firm that he likes you but shy and really unsure especially now that in his mind he did make somewhat of a move and didn't get a response indicating whether or not you are interested still. A young man might give up after that but he isn't young so hopefully he will try again but the more you make it obvious that you like him (ie hugs, touching, maybe even be bold and hold his hand) the sooner he will make another move. Just know though that after the next move you HAVE to make it obvious whether you like him or not, if he gets a middle ground response again he may def give up

 

[AbAbber2k]

He's shy. I don't know many guys that kiss girls they're not interested in. If he just hugged you then maybe I'd question his interest a little more. I'm pretty sure he just hasn't found the balls yet to really make a move.

 

[ColdFusion718]

When you're walking, you could loop your arm around his. If he doesn't get it, you might have to make bolder moves.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Oh, do you think I should ask the girl what she thinks when I go over there tomorrow? She'd have an idea since she lives there! lol She took him clothes and shoes shopping today. She said that he isn't allowed to go by himself so she was helping him. haha She was saying to check out his clothes because he looked nice and stuff.

Well, I hope y'all are right and he's just shy and next time I'll try to have the balls to make a move and grab his arm or something in the movies.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
When you're walking, you could loop your arm around his. If he doesn't get it, you might have to make bolder moves.

Yeah, see. . .I'm also on the shy side too. haha I mean I am and I'm not. When I'm not sure if he's interested like that, I'm afraid to make the move. (Yeah, like HE'S not feeling the same way.) haha

 

[scootermaster]

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I've a question. I met a guy that loooves going to the movies. (Met him online and started talking because we have that in common) We've been going to the movies a lot. I can't tell if he likes me likes me or just likes me as a friend to go to the movies with. Last night was the first night that he sort of leaned in against me in the show and then gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then tonight we went out with one of his roommates (the girlfriend of one of his others). He didn't act the same as last night. (Like kiss on the cheek, etc...) He's always totally chivalrous, opening doors and all that sh!t and is totally sweet. We have tons in common and I'm the first friend that he's brought back home since he's lived there. (11 months) His roommates seem to like me and the girl really does. She is gonna call me tomorrow to come over. I was going to go to the movies with him and his parents today, but they couldn't make it, so we're all going to go see "Amazing Grace" next weekend, I believe.

Would he have me meet his roomies/parents if I'm just a friend? I haven't dated in a looong time (broke up with my fiance in August and we haven't even really called these "dates", it's always been just that we're going to the movies or whatever) like this, so don't know what to think. I just don't know if he's interested because I just can't read him yet.

Opinions???

I thought you were married or something.

 

[bamacre]

Communication and honesty are key to both a friendship and a relationship. If you are unsure, it is more wise to ask HIM rather than ATOT.

If I were a betting man, I'd say he's either homosexual, or he wants to be your BF.

But again, he is the only one that knows the answer to your question, and if I were you, I'd ask him.

edit: OR, tell him how you feel about him, and then see how he reacts.

I've seen your pics, if he doesn't want to be your BF, don't worry, there's plenty out there that would.

 

[scootermaster]

Pics?

 

[slackerinabox]

You have a vagina - you have the power. Do you want to date him? Ask yourself that. If you do, turn the next kiss on the cheek into a real kiss. If he runs off like a pansy, who needs him?

 

[HomeAppraiser]

I'd kick it up a notch by holding his hand at and after the movies. Go to a scarry movie and bury your face in his chest or jump into his arms. All that movie watching must give you a stiff neck, ask him for a neck/backrub! Sounds like he really likes you as a friend and does not want to loose that if you start then stop dating. Good luck.

Edit: I can't type for sh!t