YAFT: Involves girl, but "F" isn't what you think it is

Syringer

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Aug 2, 2001
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F = friend :)

Soo last night, we were bored..and a friend of mine invites herself (let's call her A) and a friend that she was hanging out with to my house, which is fine, since that's a standard thing that we do.

We then invite some more people over just to hang out, having innocent little fun, when a guy, whom most people in our little clique strongly dislike..though I have no problem with, calls up A and asks her what she's doing. She then says she's hanging out with her friends, he then invites himself over, and then she agrees to him coming over to MY house after verifying with someone ELSE, the one other person that was there who doesn't mind this guy. I then ask her "What the F*#@ did you just do?" (in somewhat friendlier terms)

She replies, "Well what did you want me to do?" I then said, "Tell him he's not wanted", to which she says "But that's mean".. Then I say "Well then you should've told him we were leaving soon or something", and she says "But that'd be lying!"...and so forth.

He then calls back, wants directions, and she wants me to give it to him, and as I refuse she tries her best to give it to him...

Then to make a long story short, he comes over, and being the nice people that we are we casually keep to ourselves, putting me in an awkward situation as host and being middle ground between the two "sides".

Annnnd, as if that's not enough, today she tells me that we were being immature (which is arguable :)), and that *I* should've told this guy who I hardly knew that he shouldn't have come or leave if I didn't want him here.
 

Encryptic

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May 21, 2003
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That's fvcked up! Your friend should have ASKED you first before inviting this guy over to your house. And she's calling YOU immature?
 

Yzzim

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Feb 13, 2000
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Originally posted by: Hubris
Sounds like you're all about 10 years old.

haha

maybe it would have been proper for "A" to ask your parents if it was alright for another person to be over ;)
 

rubenswm

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Originally posted by: Syringer
F = friend :)

Soo last night, we were bored..and a friend of mine invites herself (let's call her A) and a friend that she was hanging out with to my house, which is fine, since that's a standard thing that we do.

We then invite some more people over just to hang out, having innocent little fun, when a guy, whom most people in our little clique strongly dislike..though I have no problem with, calls up A and asks her what she's doing. She then says she's hanging out with her friends, he then invites himself over, and then she agrees to him coming over to MY house after verifying with someone ELSE, the one other person that was there who doesn't mind this guy. I then ask her "What the F*#@ did you just do?" (in somewhat friendlier terms)

She replies, "Well what did you want me to do?" I then said, "Tell him he's not wanted", to which she says "But that's mean".. Then I say "Well then you should've told him we were leaving soon or something", and she says "But that'd be lying!"...and so forth.

He then calls back, wants directions, and she wants me to give it to him, and as I refuse she tries her best to give it to him...

Then to make a long story short, he comes over, and being the nice people that we are we casually keep to ourselves, putting me in an awkward situation as host and being middle ground between the two "sides".

Annnnd, as if that's not enough, today she tells me that we were being immature (which is arguable :)), and that *I* should've told this guy who I hardly knew that he shouldn't have come or leave if I didn't want him here.
good story
A++
 

Hammer

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Oct 19, 2001
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big deal. deal with it.

women do things because they know they can get away with them. if she thought she couldnt have gotten away with it with you, then it wouldn't have happened.
 

Kalpana

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Jun 1, 2003
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hmmm...doesn't sound like end of the world.

so what is one more person among a throng of people..right?

situations like this..just be civil to him and be done with it..

by the way, it was probably her fault, but hey things happen with friends..it isn't a big deal.
 

alkemyst

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Feb 13, 2001
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Do you have a crush on this girl?

My friend used to let all these girls come over all the time and never had to call. The main one he liked and thought she was inviting her friends over with her because she wanted a threesome for her first time, but was afraid to ask and he would say he needed her alone so he could ask her about it. He always claimed her his girlfriend....

Anyways she starts bringing a guy with her, one day while he was having a party they are all over each other and he gets pissed about it and says "I thought we had something special and you are going to throw away your virginity on this guy?" Her and her friends lost it...they were cackling/giggling ... the guy told him if they weren't such good friends he'd beat his ass...

None of those chicks came back over, he claimed he had to end this 'sick' relationship before she gets 'damaged'....

The point is if all the friends are allowed to just show up, and this guy is her friend, you can't really exclude him despite others in the group...unless everyone decides to tell her he is not to be invited.



 

brigden

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Dec 22, 2002
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Originally posted by: Syringer
F = friend :)

Soo last night, we were bored..and a friend of mine invites herself (let's call her A) and a friend that she was hanging out with to my house, which is fine, since that's a standard thing that we do.

We then invite some more people over just to hang out, having innocent little fun, when a guy, whom most people in our little clique strongly dislike..though I have no problem with, calls up A and asks her what she's doing. She then says she's hanging out with her friends, he then invites himself over, and then she agrees to him coming over to MY house after verifying with someone ELSE, the one other person that was there who doesn't mind this guy. I then ask her "What the F*#@ did you just do?" (in somewhat friendlier terms)

She replies, "Well what did you want me to do?" I then said, "Tell him he's not wanted", to which she says "But that's mean".. Then I say "Well then you should've told him we were leaving soon or something", and she says "But that'd be lying!"...and so forth.

He then calls back, wants directions, and she wants me to give it to him, and as I refuse she tries her best to give it to him...

Then to make a long story short, he comes over, and being the nice people that we are we casually keep to ourselves, putting me in an awkward situation as host and being middle ground between the two "sides".

Annnnd, as if that's not enough, today she tells me that we were being immature (which is arguable :)), and that *I* should've told this guy who I hardly knew that he shouldn't have come or leave if I didn't want him here.

Well, Syringer, that's an exceptional report...
 

Encryptic

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May 21, 2003
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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Do you have a crush on this girl?

My friend used to let all these girls come over all the time and never had to call. The main one he liked and thought she was inviting her friends over with her because she wanted a threesome for her first time, but was afraid to ask and he would say he needed her alone so he could ask her about it. He always claimed her his girlfriend....

Anyways she starts bringing a guy with her, one day while he was having a party they are all over each other and he gets pissed about it and says "I thought we had something special and you are going to throw away your virginity on this guy?" Her and her friends lost it...they were cackling/giggling ... the guy told him if they weren't such good friends he'd beat his ass...

None of those chicks came back over, he claimed he had to end this 'sick' relationship before she gets 'damaged'....

The point is if all the friends are allowed to just show up, and this guy is her friend, you can't really exclude him despite others in the group...unless everyone decides to tell her he is not to be invited.

Ummmm..WTF? Your friend sounds like he lost the last of his marbles a long time ago....
 

EvilYoda

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Apr 1, 2001
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Well, regardless of how you got into the situation (yes, A was stupid), you could've just told the guy he wasn't wanted. Have some balls, it's your place. Tell A to leave with him if she likes him so much.

I would have no problem telling unwanted guests that they're...unwanted. :)
 

gopunk

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Jul 7, 2001
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ah i have a simple solution... just let her invite anyone she wants over, but with the stipulation that for every male that comes, she has to get two hot chicks to come as well.