YADT :(

[lokiju]

Well my best friend pretty much, called me up and came over and is now sleeping on the couch in my living room.

He finally had the discussion with his wife he's been trying to figure out how to do for a long time.

He told her he doesn't want to have kids but does love her, but sadly, for her its not enough and told him to pack his things and to find a place to stay and that she wants a divorce


It's such a sad situation and I really feel for him, he's one of those guys that is always honest and good to any and everyone and truly is a good friend.

I just feel like shyte over the fact that there really isn't anything I can do to make it any better but tell him that it's just going to take time.


Any one have any advice for those who have been in similar situations?

 

WTF? He knows he'll NEVER want to have kids? Why didn't he just keep his mouth shut and wait? It's possible he'll want kids at one point in the future, and then he'll be sorry he opened his big mouth.

 

[meltdown75]

one of my friends was left recently because he didn't make enough money. i guess sometimes loving someone isn't enough and this is an example.

just stick by him. friends like you will help him through it.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: jumpr
WTF? He knows he'll NEVER want to have kids? Why didn't he just keep his mouth shut and wait? It's possible he'll want kids at one point in the future, and then he'll be sorry he opened his big mouth.

Not the case in this situation, she's been a total bitch to him and had baggered him to have kids for years now thus in effect pushing him away more and more until he knows for a fact that he never wants kids with her.

There's plenty more to the story but my real question is whats a good way to help a close friend thats down like this?

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
one of my friends was left recently because he didn't make enough money. i guess sometimes loving someone isn't enough and this is an example.

just stick by him. friends like you will help him through it.

what? she left him because he didn't make enough money? good riddance - he should be glad to be rid of her.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: blazert40

Originally posted by: jumpr
WTF? He knows he'll NEVER want to have kids? Why didn't he just keep his mouth shut and wait? It's possible he'll want kids at one point in the future, and then he'll be sorry he opened his big mouth.

Not the case in this situation, she's been a total bitch to him and had baggered him to have kids for years now thus in effect pushing him away more and more until he knows for a fact that he never wants kids with her.

There's plenty more to the story but my real question is whats a good way to help a close friend thats down like this?

get him out of the house and take care of him. he needs it.
food helps.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75
one of my friends was left recently because he didn't make enough money. i guess sometimes loving someone isn't enough and this is an example.

just stick by him. friends like you will help him through it.

what? she left him because he didn't make enough money? good riddance - he should be glad to be rid of her.

that's what i've been trying to tell him. he's very heart broken right now though and all i can do is just listen and tell him how i see things from my perspective. he says it is working though, so OP - :beer: for you because you have no idea how much it means for him that you're there. :thumbsup:

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75
one of my friends was left recently because he didn't make enough money. i guess sometimes loving someone isn't enough and this is an example.

just stick by him. friends like you will help him through it.

what? she left him because he didn't make enough money? good riddance - he should be glad to be rid of her.

that's what I've been trying to tell him. he's very heart broken right now though and all i can do is just listen and tell him how i see things from my perspective. he says it is working though, so OP - :beer: for you because you have no idea how much it means for him that you're there. :thumbsup:

Good to hear!

Well he's asleep now. I'll probably have to call our boss tomorrow and tell him he's not gonna be making it in, though I'll have to work

I don't know if its a good or bad thing that he doesn't drink?

Oh well, tomorrow is another day.

 

[NiKeFiDO]

im sure there wre more issues that would result in the marriage failing had the kid argument not happened. that issue is big, but...most ppl think more of themselves (aka i love) rather than others (aka children vs their own love)

 

[blahblah99]

Originally posted by: blazert40

Originally posted by: jumpr
WTF? He knows he'll NEVER want to have kids? Why didn't he just keep his mouth shut and wait? It's possible he'll want kids at one point in the future, and then he'll be sorry he opened his big mouth.

Not the case in this situation, she's been a total bitch to him and had baggered him to have kids for years now thus in effect pushing him away more and more until he knows for a fact that he never wants kids with her.

There's plenty more to the story but my real question is whats a good way to help a close friend thats down like this?

It's a good thing your friend left before the kids popped out, otherwise he'd be paying 18 years worth of child support! But I'm sure that's just the least of the issues in his marriage.

 

[Kadarin]

It sounds like splitting up is the best thing in this situation. It may hurt now, but in the long run it's the better course of action.