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YADT: How do you balance more than one person when dating...

The Stigenator

The Stigenator

Lifer
I use to have this problem before, and caused 'heartbreak' when i chose one girl over the rest to pursue. But now i dont wanna do that, i wanna play the field.. but my problem is i cant handle more than 1 girl at a time. First off i am not dating for relationship, i am casually dating. Which means Bootycalls and stuff.

So question is how do you balance all this. I have never been here, maybe a few ppl here have. Its so hard to be going out with a different girl every few days, and doing stuff, and then your body is so drained... god maybe i should tell them when and where, cause i sure have to recuperate.
 
Take it slowly... the less attention you give those girls, the more they'll want you.
Then you have time to recover, and you've got the ladies!

By the way, it will totally cause heartbreak when you pick one lady over the others, unfortunately. best not to get too serious with more than one.
 
Just call up an escort service and ask to talk to the girls, I hear they are pros at this kind of stuff. You should change your threat title to 'How do I become a skank'... personnally, I highly doubt you will have this problem as no girl will go out with a guy saying 'I have a date with another girl tommorow and another one later' so unless you want to lie to all the girls, in effect garanteeing that none will ever want to see you again once they find out, you will remain single either way.
 
Train them to realize that when you say "I already have plans" or "I'm busy" it means...

"I'm busy"

when they ask what you are doing...

"I already have plans"
 
"Tell them when and where"? I'm confused . . ..

Anyhow, yeah - space it out a bit IMO - seeing girls 1~2x a week and talking on the phone isn't that bad a deal - of course, you can always pull the "let's stay home so we can be more intimate by: hanging out/cuddling and talking/cooking for you/renting a movie/etc. etc." during the dates as well.

And as someone else mentioned, a lot of them like it when you're a bit aloof - it makes them try harder, as it were, so you don't really have to. On the bonus sude, you can think about what you're saying, which you can pull off as you being pensive/thoughtful/serious/etc.

Anyhow, that's about it, as I'm not too good with this either - best of luck to you, man! :thumbsup:😀
 
You can't prevent broken hearts.

You CAN (and should) tell the girls that you're dating around, playing the field, and don't want to get serious.

The girls who ignore your words and pin their hopes to you as their heartthrob are the ones who get hurt, but you can't prevent them from doing that to themselves.
 
Originally posted by: FrozenCanadian
More than one[/i] girl at the same time."
99.99% of ATOT: "That does not compute."
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Doesn't compute LOL. Seriousy pick one and get over it (some of us (me) just have a higher sense of ethics and morals).
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Well I don't think it's right to stand yourself on a moral pedestal here - in fact, that's just arguing purely on an emotional level, and that's just silly - and I'm not just calling you out, as other have said the same thing - the OP has stated that he's just dating around, not looking for anything serious - as long as he makes it clear with the girls he's seeing, as many girls aren't either, what's the big deal?
 
One woman has always seemed like so much work to me. More than two would just be a PITA IMHO. I'm also inherently lazy so keep that in mind.

Of course, there was that guy in high school that was dating/doing three girls at the same time. They all found out and had a three way cat fight in the school halls. That was friggin' sweet.
 
Originally posted by: Schadenfreude
Originally posted by: FrozenCanadian
More than one[/i] girl at the same time."
99.99% of ATOT: "That does not compute."
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Doesn't compute LOL. Seriousy pick one and get over it (some of us (me) just have a higher sense of ethics and morals).
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Well I don't think it's right to stand yourself on a moral pedestal here - in fact, that's just arguing purely on an emotional level, and that's just silly - and I'm not just calling you out, as other have said the same thing - the OP has stated that he's just dating around, not looking for anything serious - as long as he makes it clear with the girls he's seeing, as many girls aren't either, what's the big deal?
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You are correct it was purely an emotional response. I'm just a little weird on this subject.
 
Answer personal ads or put one up yourself in the news paper. Believe it or not I have gotten more tang from them then trying the regular way. Most that put an ad up or answer your ad are looking for one thing only and thats a quiet evening at home.
 
As long as you aren't aggressively trying to make get them really interested in you then I don't see the problem. You're just going out and getting to know people. This will be a benefit when you are trying to decide what you are really looking for in a woman for the long term.
 
Originally posted by: Feneant2
Just call up an escort service and ask to talk to the girls, I hear they are pros at this kind of stuff. You should change your threat title to 'How do I become a skank'... personnally, I highly doubt you will have this problem as no girl will go out with a guy saying 'I have a date with another girl tommorow and another one later' so unless you want to lie to all the girls, in effect garanteeing that none will ever want to see you again once they find out, you will remain single either way.
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LOL, now guys who go out with more than one woman are "skanks?" 😕

Were you beaten with a bible as a child? 😉
 
I think the most I ever dated was 2 girls at once. Did it for twice in the past, eventually it will just work itself out.
 
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