YAATOTPWAGT: Yet Another ATOT Problem With A Girl Thread

Praetor

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Err.. well, I thought it was a clever title. :D

Anyhoo. I've been asking a few of my friends this same question and thought I'd toss it out to the ATOT hounds and get some of your opinions.

Here's the sitch: I've known this girl for > 2 yrs, worked with her, joked around with her, and generally been decent friends. 'Bout a month ago, I finally started moving on a more personal trend and was talking with her more and more outside of her job (we haven't worked together for 8 months now) and asked her out. Went to see Spiderman on opening night and spent 5 hours together just talking. Except I made one mistake and got too invovled talking with her and failed to notice that most of that time was spent in the car just driving around aimlessly talking. It was a last minute date idea and I hadn't planned anything out. :(

So anyway. I've called her twice since and left a message asking her to call me back. So far, silence. Do I try to call her again, or just write it off as I scared her off?

And while I'm at it, does anyone want to give me, say, $5,000? No reason, I just want it. :D
 

stonecold3169

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In my experiance with women, they really love just being talked to in general and not having intimidating sexual advances made towards them. Also in my experiance, if the girl wanted to go home, she would have made more then obvious hints that she wanted that. therefore, I think you're doing alright, and I'd hold off on calling her, because THAT might freak her out. She'll call you back bud, just give it a few days;)

Good luck stud!
 

yobarman

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it all depends on how your conversation went with the girl..i mean if you guys got real deep and involved, im sure she'll call back if she's interested.

give it a week or two..
 

Maetryx

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Keep it simple. Don't make too many assumptions, obligations or expectations. You've known her for 2 years, so don't get all anxious and excitable now. Slow down, and let whatever happens, happen.
 

joohang

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Originally posted by: ElFenix
don't call again. wait for her.

Yup.

And better yet, don't WANT her. Live your life. Don't get to the stage where you think about her obsessively. That will not only contribute EXTREMELY NEGATIVELY in any chance you got with that girl, but also screw your life for weeks if not for months. Not worth it.
 

Praetor

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Well, that's pretty much the conclusion I'd come up with too. <shrug> Wait and see! :D