WTF? anyone else hate unexpected visits from relatives?

[Barfo]

So I come home today from work and my uncle (mom's brother) is sitting by the door...FML...

This guy likes to visit without telling in advance every 3 years or so. I don't know if something's wrong with me but I don't like people showing up unexpectedly, even less if they plan to stay over like this uncle. Weirdest thing is everyone loves him and I reckon he's a pretty nice guy but I don't know why it's unnerving for me that he starts buying all sorts of food I didn't ask for or fixing stuff that needs fixing but it pisses me off that he messes with my things without my consent. He also likes to buy me funky clothes that I never wear...

The worst thing is that I can't really think of a good reason why I'm pissed off he's here, I just wish he GTFO of my apartment ASAP.

 

[zoiks]

Sounds like he's a really nice guy. Maybe the problem is with yourself.

 

[F1N3ST]

Hmm, maybe he's making sure you're not crazy yet..

 

[kranky]

Speaking of unexpected relatives dropping in, I was at a funeral service last Saturday for a woman I knew, and her distant brother-in-law showed up. I didn't know the guy but I could tell from the reaction of the other relatives they were nervous about it. And just before the service ended, he bounds up to the front, tells the minister to have a seat, and launches into a rambling, incoherent speech which had about zero to do with the deceased. He recited a poem he wrote, held up some old photos which nobody could actually see, talked about his childhood... He went on for 20 minutes then just sat down.

The relatives weren't too keen on what happened but nobody felt it was a good idea to start a scene to shut him up.

So how long will your uncle be staying with you?

 

[Platypus]

That's why I live far enough away so that kind of shit doesn't happen.

 

[Alienwho]

Rest easy, Barfo. If this thread was created by your uncle and said something like "I go through the trouble of surprising my nephew with my presence for a few days, showing up out of the blue with great gifts!" they'd slam on him for being a dick by not calling to make plans.

 

[JS80]

Could be way worse...and you sound like an asshole.

 

[speg]

Maybe he does all that stuff to make up for being away three years at a time. Who knows.

 

[Barfo]

That's why I live far enough away so that kind of shit doesn't happen.

Oh I live far enough but he still manages to come every 3 years...if I could move to Europe :hmm:

 

[TruePaige]

I don't like the unexpected drop in, but he sounds like he is nice to you when he is around.

 

[aleckz]

It's a territorial thing. It could be worse, he could live with you forever.

 

[txrandom]

I think you have strong sexual urges that push you to the edge whenever your uncle visits. It's fairly common to repress these sexual urges by simply hating the person they are directed towards. I think you should sit down with your uncle, explain what is happening, and work it out with him.

 

[Jeff7]

Were your parents similar in the "unexpected visits" aspect?
My parents also didn't much care for unplanned visits, and I carry the tradition. In general, I don't like abrupt changes to routine.

And of course, if you show up at my apartment without letting me know, you might arrive to find an empty, locked apartment. I also don't take my cellphone with me too often when I go somewhere, so calling it won't do much good either.
Kramer would have needed a different running gag at my place.

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

You're whining about a relative showing up unexpectedly every three years? You've got some issues there. So, what's the unresolved family problems?

 

[Gothgar]

yeah
I hate unexpected visits from anyone

 

[MAKENITO]

Time of the Month ?

 

[datalink7]

I think "surprise visits" are a horrible idea. You take away peoples ability to plan.

 

[Barfo]

Were your parents similar in the "unexpected visits" aspect?
My parents also didn't much care for unplanned visits, and I carry the tradition. In general, I don't like abrupt changes to routine.

And of course, if you show up at my apartment without letting me know, you might arrive to find an empty, locked apartment. I also don't take my cellphone with me too often when I go somewhere, so calling it won't do much good either.
Kramer would have needed a different running gag at my place.

No, my parents always ask in advance and would always make sure we were as unintrusive as possible to our guests.

 

[Barfo]

You're whining about a relative showing up unexpectedly every three years? You've got some issues there. So, what's the unresolved family problems?

No family issues, I just really value my privacy and hate when people mess up my plans. Like I have to do extra hours tomorrow so I have time to take him somewhere on Saturday D:

 

[Barfo]

Oh and btw, I scored two shorts that are 3 sizes too big for me :hmm:

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

No family issues, I just really value my privacy and hate when people mess up my plans. Like I have to do extra hours tomorrow so I have time to take him somewhere on Saturday D:

You don't have to take him somewhere on Saturday. Why did you agree if you feel you're being put out? Why is once every three years too much imposition?

I'm trying to understand your point of view but, you just come off as self absorbed and unwilling to do anything but what you want.

 

[Barfo]

You don't have to take him somewhere on Saturday. Why did you agree if you feel you're being put out? Why is once every three years too much imposition?

I'm trying to understand your point of view but, you just come off as self absorbed and unwilling to do anything but what you want.

The problem is that I'm upset that he's here but I can't find a good reason for it, other than him showing up unexpectedly. I agreed to take him somewhere so I feel less of an asshole to myself.

 

[Leros]

It sure beats when unexpected ATOT members drop by....

 

[Jeff7]

It sure beats when unexpected ATOT members drop by....

Is it ok if we just leer in through your windows without you knowing?

 

[Bignate603]

Stopping by to say hi isn't too bad but showing up planning to stay is just rude.